Small boobs

[Dindindon]

I have very small boobs, like probably 32 aa or a. Personally when I look at them I think they're okay (I'm petite, 5"1), but then society, social media and everything around me tells me they're not. I don't even ever see anyone else in real life, with my size, so feel like a freak. Have a lovely boyfriend who says who cares what size they are. That doesn't help me. Have a therapist whose first response when I expressed my feelings was "have you considered implants?". Slap in the face, insulting. That would not help me because A) that would only be like saying "you're right, there's something wrong with me and I need to make my boobs bigger to correct it" when in fact they are healthy, and B) people who say they've done it for themselves are talking BS, nobody does this sort of surgery just for themselves, they wouldn't do it if they didn't feel pressured. Also, women who have had a boob job are doing other women a huge disfavour by normalising the procedure which leads to it becoming what people suggest as the obvious remedy to a small breasted woman who has been made feel inadequate. I know personally, a boob job would only make things worse for me as I could never trust my partner didn't like my boobs better post-op. So that's a no.

Also people trying to be helpful with comments such as I won't get back pain, or they won't sag when I'm old, or men will look me in the eyes instead of at my breasts, or I can sleep on my stomach, or that men will be withe for who I am not for my breasts, do much more harm than good. Maybe I would love a man to love my breasts! Maybe I would love if a man couldn't stop looking at them!

I feel so angry when women with breasts complain about them being too big or that guys look at them, that their backs hurt etc. Ungratefulness is the word that comes to mind and I feel like anyone with actual boobs are smug and look down and internally laugh at me or pity me.

This torments me, I feel like I'm between a rock and a hard place. I don't know what I can do to avoid feeling this way and I'm getting bitter. Any thoughts?

Btw if you're complaining about 32A perhaps I should flip out at you for being so smug about your enormous breasts! Mine truly have never remotely filled even one A cup. The best I can get is AA and usually even then there's extra space in there.

OK well it sounds like you need professional help with this obsession. If you don't find your current therapist helpful then look for a better one. I think this is beyond the scope of an online discussion board.

OP I am the same as you . I have always longed for boobs, but they never grew and I’m now 43 !
I would love surgery but also have a benign tumour in one boob so don’t think Implants would be possible .
I don’t think anyone can fully understand the psychology effect of having a whole life time of small boobs unless you have them too. I know it it easy for those more endowed to say otherwise etc , but it really can have a profound effect on self esteem and confidence , as well as what clothes and swimwear etc you can wear .
If I was able to have implants then I think I would, just do I could look more feminine and grown up than a 10 year old girl !

@dellacucina, have you tried measuring according to the boob or bust link I posted earlier just in case you are wearing the wrong size? Might need a smaller back and therefore bigger cup.

There was a thread in the past about 36A bras and the OP ended up in a completely different size

I don’t mean to sound rude with my comment op. I do get how shameful it can feel to have small boobs. I grew up in the age of lads mags and page 3, none of those bodies represented me and that made me feel like shit

Ok, other small boobed women, I really don't think it needs to be such an issue. So what if you have to choose different kinds of clothes? So do obese people. So do people with enormous thighs. (No offense meant to anyone - the point is simply that most people can't look great in every style)

Is it perhaps because you directly link breasts to your womanhood or something, OP?

I have had both of my boobs removed due to breast cancer. Didn't opt for reconstruction as it wasn't for me. I am still a woman and feminine without my breast tissue. Be happy they are healthy whatever size.

I'm 32. Size 32b. No cleavage. Used to hate my boobs. I've put on 2 stone and they are still tiny lol

I have grown to love them. Small boobs can be so glamorous. So much more choice with clothes.

I had no boobs - 32A with no breast tissue I was also a size 6/8 and 5ft 4ins until my 40th birthday ( pregnancies made no difference) I put on a stone and grew boobs - I'm def peri menopausal, now 43 and am size 34C, hated having no boobs but now I feel even more self concious as not used to having a clevage!

Tiny bobs here on a skinny body, but I’m very happy with them. After 2 pregnancies and breastfeeding 2 kids for over 2 years each they are still in the same shape as in my teens. They get massive in pregnancy and while b/f.

you're ungrateful for having no tits.

I was diagnosed with breast cancer ten years ago. At the time I had a lumpectomy. Earlier this year I found I had a rare gene mutation and had a double mastectomy without reconstruction. Be thankful you are healthy.

I used to be a 34DD. I had a bilateral mastectomy due to breast cancer. Implants were put under my skin and I look about a 34B. Unfortunately, for various medical reasons, my implants need to be removed. Next year I face the implants and excess skin being removed and won’t even fill a 34AA.
I feel grateful to be alive.
I’m so sorry to hear your anger Please find a new therapist.

@dementedpixie it says 28B or c

Does this strap size even exist?

My own aunt died at 41 of breast cancer so I know how lucky I am, people are allowed to be unhappy with their bodies though.

I have large breasts. They’ve been destroyed by pregnancy and breastfeeding. My back always hurts and ready made clothes don’t fit properly. I don’t look down on women with small breasts, or indeed think about them at all. Not everyone looks conventionally attractive, it’s not the end of the world. The militant breastfeeding brigade on the other hand I do look down upon, idiots and arseholes.

@dellacucina yes, I have a few bras in a 28. I think you must be able to get a 26 as well.

www.bouxavenue.com/lingerie/bras/28b

You need to bin off your therapist.

Being unable to feed your baby properly due to not producing enough milk must have been rotten, no wonder that added to your feelings of inadequacy.

You’ve had a baby though, and that’s about as womanly as you can get, surely?

I’m 5 foot 7, in my mid-40s and my boobs have always been tiny and far apart. Big rib cage too, so they look even more ridiculous! (I’m overall quite skinny-looking though.)

Never had a cleavage, never worn a bra, no idea what size I am and I don’t care! My boobs are dinky, firm and perky.

I have various boring chronic illnesses, and I’m much more concerned with trying to have a body that’s reasonably functional, rather than how I look. But taking care with what I eat, and doing a small amount of yoga a few times a week means I don’t actually look too terrible, and is better than obsessing in front of the mirror. (DAMN those beard hairs and crappy teeth.)

I’m sorry you feel so terrible about it.

I wore normal bras during breastfeeding also, because I couldn’t find maternity bras small enough.

Are you a pear shaped figure? (Small boobs, bigger hips). If so, embrace it! There’s plenty of us around. Once you know how to dress for your shape, then you will better about yourself.

There’s a mn saying “comparison is the thief of joy”. Don’t feel envious of others, but enjoy what you have.

I get that people complaining about their larger busts niggles you, but remember that the comments aren’t personal to you.

And change your therapist!

OP I hear you and am so glad for your post.
I'm a small 34B, 5'4" but pregnancy, weight gain, b/f and weight loss through exercise has took its toll on my once perky breasts.
I look at them in the mirror, think of them as pathetic and put my bra back on.
I find myself looking at other ladies breast size all the time and am considering a small implant just to fill them out a little, but something is stopping me. What is they don't look like I want them too look? What is they look fake? What is something goes horribly wrong ?
I know people have reconstruction surgery all the time, for all sorts of reasons but there is always a what if ...
I'm currently single, and wonder if I'm considering it to make myself more appealing to the opposite sex, or for my self confidence ?
Give yourself a big hug and I hope you can find happiness with your body whatever your decide x

I don’t have big boobs and much prefer the way I am. When bfding they were bigger and I really didn’t like it. (Although obvs got on with it for bfding)

I have never found that society is telling me I should be different though.

I think I have every right to complain about my excessively enormous norks.

I've been trying to get a reduction for nearly 20 years. You have to get the right doctor to listen, and then the nearest surgeon to you which the doctor writes to has to do them on the nhs for the reasons I need it done for.

I've been very unlucky. It's affected everything from my self esteem, my shopping bill, my being able to ever dress smartly to he taken seriously, being able to play sport, being able to run, being able to talk to people without being stared at, I've been grabbed and groped at so many times throughout my life by shitty men and some women too, my back genuinely fucking hurts and in the summer I feel I'm suffocating under them, it causes me to experience psychosis (as part of an accumulation of things). Nothing ever fits me. People comment on them and I were clothes which make me look very frumpy in order to hide them. Oh and I can't eat without getting food on them because they stick out so badly even with a heavy duty sports bra on.

But sure, people like me have no right to complain because soooooo many women want what we have. Once upon a time, I didn't have breasts. I grew this pair of problems. I felt fine at a 32/34B. But they didn't stop growing and soon I was a 32/34D on a thin but shapely frame. The jokes were rife and I was only a teenager. I just wanted to reverse time.

When I can afford to, I will have top surgery. Actually removing the entire of them. I'd rather have nothing than have this. They ruined my life.

OP, have surgery if that's what you want. But we've all got a right to complain.

I was going to suggest boob or bust too - I came in at a 28 C when I had been wearing 32A/B for years! Wearing the right bra made quite a big difference.

I am only using the bra size measurement to try to explain how small they are, I don't care what letter or numbers my bra is, the problem is that when I'm naked, they really are tiny. Keira Knightley size perhaps. (She's gorgeous though, but then she's got so much else going on in her favour.)