Hushistas drinking gin and planning their holidays

[ilovecherries]

Old thread :)

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I’ve just returned from gently roasting in the terrace (with hat and it was 7pm!) to read you @cherries and all I can say is stuff your so called RL friend.
Do you even realise how totally amazing you look and how you rock all your outfits with your cool trainers?

IMHO the stuffed up totally uncool women wearing fascinators/hats and heels will be the ones out of place! It’s in a garden so I hope their heels sink in the wet grass while you rock up to them in your floaty cool dress and trainers going “isn’t it great” 😎 I know which DM I’d rather have!

And breathe cherries... your dd is absolutely spot on. Shoes don't matter. Any of the dresses you picked will be lovely and what a lovely offer from @GinandGingerBeer - the Kensington dress is perfect!
Your 'friend' is a twat to be quite honest. Of course you can wear trainers. As you said to me just yesterday white pumps look great with dresses - you will be the coolest Mum there.
My mum didn't wear a phase eight/fancy dress to my graduation and she wore an outfit from Primark to my wedding! And she looked amazing and I was so proud of her. Have a large glass of wine and let your DD's lovely words take hold.

Soy amazing pictures, glad you having a fabulous time enjoy the sun & lazing around😍
cherries ffs some of your friends need fecking gaffer tape on their gobs & tbh I reckon you will look the bees knees & bang up to date with a fabulous dress trainer combo, fabulous bag & I would put money on them not looking nearly as good in the phase eight/hat ‘Uniform’ no more tears & yy to dd💐💕

I can’t believe anyone you know IRL would actually give such shitty advice, @Cherries! What kind of advice would you give a friend? I can’t hear “Just suck it up” coming out of your mouth (unless you were maybe discussing tequila....). I bet you will not be the only one in trainers. You will certainly not be the only one without a hat. As everyone pointed out, your daughter wants to be supported by YOU, not “Stepfordmum #476”. It is a special day made more special by you being there, not by what you wear. (Btw, my FIL wore ill-fitting double denim to our wedding and I couldn’t care less. He thought he looked fab and was comfy!)

Oh and @cherries soon you’ll be able to go topless at the beach ; once your boobs have healed 100% now not many of us can say that
I tell you because yesterday my cousin (57 like me and she’s a total star, works as a lawyer for women in abusive situations - sadly very common in Spain) went topless in that amazing cove I posted upthread. She had a mastectomy (she’s cancer free now) and her reconstructed breast is perfect, and they lifted the other one as a “gift”.
There she was like a Med Goddess with her perfect breasts (so highly deserved) snorkelling away with my other 64 year old cousin totally rocking a bikini.
Guess who was the odd one out? Moi as I decided against my Fantasie bikini for the black/embroidered swimsuit which is lovely but I felt a bit frumpy

You’ll be the same at your DD’s graduation. All the frumpy tight dresses and high heels while you just rock up non challantly in your awesome trainers you’ll see we are right!

Thanks @ella and @len 😘

Soy aww so glad that your cousin is well & she does indeed sound like a goddess & you definitely need to get the bikini an outing😘

I know @len I promise I will on my next beach trip!

Thanks, everyone, just back from taking dog for a walk through the woods and giving my head a wobble. Bit embarrassed by my outburst, as it does sound a bit ‘never satisfied’. After I had my leg fixed, I said to my amazing surgeon that I would never be able to thank him enough for being willing to think outside the box and try an unusual solution, and he said no thanks were necessary, except for go out and grab my second chance, and so here I am crying because getting me walking and running again wasn’t enough, apparently he should have got me in heels as well . And I definitely do need new friends! This one prides herself on ‘telling it like it is’, but actually it’s probably a bit of a bullying thing.

Gin, that is exactly the dress I’ve been stalking ebay for. Is it by any chance a 12? (I’m sure you are smaller than me though). If it is, are you selling it - I’d be so happy to buy it if it’s a 12. I have tried a 10, and it’s just a bit tight on the waist.

Thank you all, you are all so lovely!

Cherries glad you feel a little better, it’s only natural to feel like you did especially with so called ‘friend’ hurtful comments, you will look fabulous & above all you & Dh will be celebrating dd’s amazing achievements as a loving & supportive family.

Could so-called friend be a bit jealous, @Cherries? Ever stylish, rocking the new bod, husband who adores you, and now DD is a super brain as well? Gotta admit you are awfully intimidating..... bet she’s a bit miserable.

Cherries My god you really need new friends! Drop that horrible RL one straight away she really is Not your friend.Friends dont do that ..
(its not the same one who was horrible to you last year about your weight loss is she?) Get Rid..

I used to work at a university , and have helped organise and staffed many a graduation and 'after' party .. You really dont need to dress up like its an Effing wedding.. Your friends are just plain wrong.. . Yes some 'mums' do (and many look like they are trying way to hard) but loads more dont and its about celebrating your DD. Not what effin shoes and dress the mums wear.. You really, really, really, really do not need a hat nor Melania Trump 'fuckme' shoes.. Hats are a total pain anyway and no one sitting behind can see through them anyway .

You'll be sitting in a hall in a ceremony (in a small seat with lots of others ) which will be several hours long constantly clapping people.

waiting for the moment when your DD joins the queue for the stage presentation ,(which will take 30s max) and after there will be photos ( which dont need to show your feet!) and maybe a dinner or party.

DD wants you there as YOU, and You not in a wheel chair!! ,and you looking cool in on of your lovely outfits ( and super cool in your trainers with it ) That is what its about.. (really , sorry if i am being a bit hard) ..
....and dump that 'friend' and your FB feed, you really dont need it ..

What a fantastic offer from Gin , it would look fab with trainers , and so would the current star Kensington, or the Lilium or any other dress.. or jumpsuit / etc etc

soy you look like you re having a great time.. I cant wait to swim in the Med again, ( 3 weeks to go !)

Yes, laska, it’s the same woman. This is probably a bit outing, but DD never went to school, we always home educated/travelled/acted like a pair of aging hippies, and DH and I both dropped some days at work to make it happen. For a long time, we never knew when the next axe would fall with her health, and we wanted to make her life wonderful. Said friend was always a bit disparaging about how she’d never be independent, make anything of her life etc, so I’m currently feeling a bit ‘up yours’ :)

Get rid , tell her shes a total bitch and a grade one arse and block dump and ignore.. .. .. Sorry, but I am sitting here beyond angry for you.. How dare she??!!

It sounds like you gave her a great childhood..

Hi lovely hushitas

I've been reading this thread from the very beginning but I've never had anything to contribute before but I've taken lots of tips from you all and spent many many pounds on the hush site in tribute to you** all!!!

I love cherries- your post really touched me and I was wondering is it the turquoise Kensington dress you're after for your daughter's graduation. I have it in an unworn size 12 if you're in need of it. I will gladly lend it to you for the day if it helps?

Also just to say , our eldest DD graduated from an oxbridge college last July and I would have been more than happy and dressed enough in the said dress and many people wore flats/pumps/flip flops.
It would have been fine for the ceremony and the VERY posh afternoon spent in the college after the service so please please don't worry about what footwear you're in at all.
You will be so proud and happy , your foot wear will be the last thing on your mind.xx

Ahem.... ignore friend until she calls to ask why. Then tell her to “Just suck it up.”

💐 and 🍷 to all who need it.

I’m sorry I often don’t reply to specifics on the thread - there are various reasons, but mostly it’s because I don’t really feel that I can adequately express myself, and I tend to get emotional and stuff. But I do read everything and send each of you good vibes.

cherries I attended my daughter’s graduation some months ago, at a top 15 uni (not boasting, although I’m super proud, only mentioning that as it’s sort of relevant in terms of dress code, I guess). I wore an olive/burgundy tweed jacket over a flowery top with burgundy jeans, and timberland heeled Chelsea boots. Mulberry bag to go with it. I was one of the smarter dressed parents, and there were plenty of people who were far more casual than me!

You can absolutely wear whatever you feel is right for the occasion, and your trainers will not look out of place at all.

Also, your friend is not a friend.

Also can you believe it, I applauded every single other graduate but when it came to my daughter I was so consumed with pride watching her walk that walk, I didn’t remember to clap!

Cherries I was also wondering if it was the same ‘Friend’ she is such a caah & you did what was right for your dd & as a family & I reckon a 1st is some bloody achievement.
I rarely get cross but have to say, if she was in the room with me know I would bite her bloody ankles.
Hello spag what a lovely offer😍

SoyYo what a fabulous set of pictures. You look like an advert for (a much better version of) Mamma Mia.

You are all lovely. And yes, I do need to lose this friend, we’ve known one another a long time, and she does have many good points, and I’ve always cut her slack on the basis of these, but there is an underlying issue which I’ve really had enough of. Although it wasn’t all down to her today, it was just the final straw in a bit of a crisis.

Spag, that is so, so kind of you, I got all teary again at your really generous offer. I couldn’t borrow a dress though, I’m a messy klutz and it’s a long day, and I’d be bound to drop something down it at some point - and I know that colour isn’t around any more so I wouldn’t be able to replace it if I damaged it. I do have the black version I can wear if I’m stuck, I just prefer that beautiful turquoise. But thank you again for being willing to trust me with it - and now you’ve joined us, please do stay :).

I'm a long time lurker and very occasional poster on these threads, but I absolutely love them and this fantastic community of women - and here's another voice chipping in Cherries to say that you will look completely fabulous in your dress and trainers (and probably a lot cooler than a lot of the other attendees ) and you should definitely ditch your "friend".

cherries you always look great when you post. Good style. You’ll pull it off 100%!

Have got behind so lost who has bought what, so will just say that I wish everyone having a tough time strength.

No new purchases from me apart from some oasis denim shorts. Replacing mine with a hole in the bum!

Talking of bums, mine is sore today after having a riding lesson for the first time in many many years. Plus, lady bits feel a little tender :(