Hushistas drinking gin and planning their holidays

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Old thread :)

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/style_and_beauty/3589680-calling-hushista-s-over-here-crabs-lobsters-kimonos-and-all-things-summer?watched=1&msgid=87525626#87525626

@Laska2Meryls that sounds tough - so glad you sorted it in the end though. DS's Dad is supportive - they do have a great relationship. DS has a tendency to be a bit lazy at times and yes the xBOx drives me nuts too. I know at his Dads he won't get the chance to do much in the way of XBOX. His Dad has a farm (just a small holding, few sheep and things - not his main job) and runs a b&b from the farmhouse on weekends so I know there will be plenty of stuff for DS to do and to help out with. Also his Dad is very into cars and loves taking them apart and putting them back together - something they both love doing so plenty of 'project' opportunities for DS.
The thing is he obviously feels the grass is greener - perhaps he won't get nagged about revision etc but I think he'll be in for a surprise as my ex is quite a driven person who won't tolerate teenage attitude or laziness so maybe it's what he needs right now. My DH has always struggled with being disciplinarian with him as he frets about not being his 'real' dad. The step parent relationship is a complicated one!

Thanks for your kind words everyone - it doesn't seem real yet. I'm not looking forward to it but we are very very close and he's a really super lad so I know he won't drift away - my parents live near his Dad so a bother incentive for me to visit them more too!

@melen my ds joined the army too. For 4 years. Was relieved when he came home.

You lot are all so lovely - you always know the right things to say xx

@ella...If you let him go, he will come back to you. Mine all have. All 3 of my older boys including my ds who joined the army and I literally hardly heard from him for 4 years. They had become his family and I was pretty devastated. He now is the closest son. He lives quite near and he always makes the time for his younger brothers and sisters and is constantly in touch, coming up, whatsapping me!

Ella yy the grass is greener, but sounds as though his Dad won’t take to much nonsense, sometimes I think we just have to plaster on a smile & then go & have a cry in the loo.
Never ikwym mine did four years as well, his first posting was Iraq I thought I would lose my mind with worry, I remember driving home from work one day & the news came on the radio that at least twenty soldiers had been killed where I knew Ds was, I have no recollection of getting home & the relief when I knew Ds was safe & then it dawned on me they were someone else’s son & the guilt has never really left me.

Yy Never & Laska letting them go & then they come back closer than ever.

Oh, Len...

The week after her 18th birthday my dd went to rural India with Raleigh international for 4 months to work with local teachers helping them to address sanitation issues with tribal families. No internet, mobile phone or anything. Given her health, I was almost in meltdown the entire time she was away. It was the making of her, and she blagged her way onto her university course on the back of it when she came home, but it was awful for her dad and me. I do feel for you, ella.

Reading all these posts, it does bring home that it’s generally a lot easier when they are little, you just don’t realise it at the time!

I think Toast must be struggling. Their summer sale has started??? and their AW clothes are in. Oh dear.
Not much of interest to me. The moheda clogs are a great bargain though. I have a pair already.

Tbh, they should consider reducing their prices/ offering discounts. They haven't moved with the times and are too greedy.

I find it hard to envisage myself wearing any of their clothes. They look dreadful on the models.

and even with 40% off they are still expensive and I don't like them enough.

www.toa.st/uk/product/womens+sale+dresses/c1hei/cotton+poplin+smock+dress.htm?clr=C1HEI_Navy_sw

I mean really? Its not selling it to me!

^scroll down to see the model.

I'm generally not a Toast fan @neveradullmoment99 - just really don't see myself in that style at all. But I have developed a desire for a nice Toast jumper this winter after seeing your lovely knitwear from last year. So I've decided to put away and get myself one really lovely piece of knitwear from there come autumn.

The sad thing is, like white stuff I used to look longingly at their clothes. I like very few things. Did I also tell you they made me a 'friend'. I get a discount of 10% and an odd gift sent through with my order but I haven't ordered anything since my jumpers at xmas [which I do love]

They have some jumpers in the sale just now @ella.

Their knitwear can be stunning.

I do love their jumpsuits just now but sadly none are in the sale as yet.

I have had some gorgeous things from them in the past. The days of the slouchy velvet wide leg trousers, gorgeous woolly textured jumpers and their lovely boots..home knitted tank tops were gorgeous.
I think they are in trouble.

There once was a beautiful website called saltwater. They had gorgeous clothes. I ordered some stunning pieces. They were similar to toast in a way. Then all of sudden their sales got more and more and dirt cheap and then they went bust.

The clothes on the Toast website used to be beautiful @ella. Most of it is all dreary now.

I know @neveradullmoment99 - same as a White Stuff. 10 years ago white stuff was lovely, I'd walk in the shop and want it all. Since it got taken over it's just gotten dull and dreary and poor quality to boot.

Crikey that smock is bloody awful, glad it’s not just me that thinks a lot of it is very dreary, yy white stuff also got very expensive as well.

They have the Jacquard jumpers we bought never for £55 (! paid a lot more!) .. I had the red and you the blue ... I like the large check instarsia one ( cant get the link to work ) but not buying it ..