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How to look hot at work

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Inliverpool1 · 25/04/2019 19:28

I really fancy someone I work with, early days but still I want this man. I have a reasonably professional role though. The men wear jeans nice shoes blazer and a shirt.

Am thinking shirt dresses or something that clings but not ridiculously so.
Anything nice around and all other suggestions very welcome. I’m coming from the gym every morning so goodness knows how I’ll manage my hair but we’ll worry about that later

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Elllllle · 26/04/2019 11:32

Why do women on mumsnet constantly have to qualify their posts with "although I have been told I look x years younger than I am"?! I am late 30s, maybe look early 40s but maybe that's just in my head, and I sure as shit dress like I care either way, and people tell me I am smarter and more accomplished than someone in their late 30s ...

BabyDarlingDollfaceHoney · 26/04/2019 11:36

It's very possible to look hot in professional clothes. There's nothing to suggest the OP is going to look a fool.

OutwiththeOutCrowd · 26/04/2019 11:39

Men don't notice clothes much, in general. At a subliminal level, heels can work. They push the chest forward and cause the back to arch which is apparently a sexy combination.

But, honestly, I don't think you need to try that hard. In my experience, if you are experiencing a frisson, he is probably experiencing a frisson too, even if you are padding around the office in Uggs.

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Inliverpool1 · 26/04/2019 12:04

@OutwiththeOutCrowd I’m so out of practice 😂

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SlipperOrchid · 26/04/2019 13:13

I'm in my 40s and certainly not as I was in my 20s, but I also don't look like I’m in my 60s. I worked with people in their 60s and they were obviously a lot older than me in their manner, attitude and appearance.

OP I think rather than change your wardrobe, Id focus on personal grooming. Your hair, your nails, your make up, accessories. I think, unless you don’t feel good in what you currently wear, you probably don’t need to have a style makeover.

BaronessBomburst · 26/04/2019 13:47

I have never asked anyone to guess my age. Grin It's exactly as other posters have said, it comes up in conversation or because I have a child younger than most of my contemporaries. I was merely using it to illustrate why I found the 40 looks like 60 comment amusing.

RottnestFerry · 26/04/2019 14:12

60 year olds and 40 year olds don't look too dissimilar actually

In as much as they usually have a head, two arms and two legs, you are correct.

Otherwise, speaking as a male, the difference is obvious. Generally speaking.

Elllllle · 26/04/2019 14:15

"speaking as a male" ......😂😂😂😂

FiremanKing · 26/04/2019 14:22

RottnestFerry

“...the difference is obvious.”

I don’t think Madonna or Cher got that memo. Grin

RottnestFerry · 26/04/2019 14:27

I don’t think Madonna or Cher got that memo. grin

Or Mrs Merton.

NoBaggyPants · 26/04/2019 14:28

This is cringeworthy. Get some self respect OP, either he wants you or he doesn't.

Loopytiles · 26/04/2019 14:30

Super flattering jeans!

AnyFucker · 26/04/2019 14:36

Haven't you got any actual work to do ?

hell0mell0 · 26/04/2019 14:47

Watching with interest as I also have a work crush and have just turned 40, and have plenty of work time to focus on this.

I think my crush likes black tight(ish) professional dresses......if only I hadn't put on a stone in the last 14months....darn it. Regardless I think he fancies me too, but he is younger (I think maybe 4/5 years), quiet and very professional. So its very hard to flirt...damn it.

RottnestFerry · 26/04/2019 14:49

I tend to notice overall shape rather than clothes specifics. Initially anyway.

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Inliverpool1 · 26/04/2019 15:38

@hell0mell0 this is exactly my issue, I tried on my fake leather skirt thinking I’ll do a Meghan with silk shirt, push up bra. I looked like a sausage.

As for don’t I have any work to do, tbh I can do that with both hands tied behind my back. Hopefully he might want to put that to the test 😂

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ImNotNigel · 26/04/2019 16:20

OP I think rather than change your wardrobe, Id focus on personal grooming. Your hair, your nails, your make up, accessories

Because engineering companies up and down the Uk are full of single, middle aged men who fancy a woman at their work but don’t ask her out because her nail polish is a bit chipped, her shoes need reheeled and she’s wearing No.7 foundation instead of Estee Lauder Double-wear.

SlipperOrchid · 26/04/2019 16:44

Because engineering companies up and down the Uk are full of single, middle aged men who fancy a woman at their work but don’t ask her out because her nail polish is a bit chipped, her shoes need reheeled and she’s wearing No.7 foundation instead of Estee Lauder Double-wear.

Logging on simply to criticize other poster’s well meaning advice, why bother? Do you feel a bigger and better person now?

Jon65 · 26/04/2019 16:50

Looking forward to an update . . .

CountFosco · 26/04/2019 16:58

Because engineering companies up and down the Uk are full of single, middle aged men who fancy a woman at their work but don’t ask her out because her nail polish is a bit chipped, her shoes need reheeled and she’s wearing No.7 foundation instead of Estee Lauder Double-wear.

Snort.

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Inliverpool1 · 26/04/2019 17:08

And who said he was middle aged !!!

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SuperPug · 26/04/2019 17:08

You're applying for/taking on a job for this person??
If you know he's attracted to you, you could suggest meeting up together or in a group.
Sorry OP, I think it's a bit much to go to all that effort for a crush who hasn't asked you out. Agree with pps re: professionalism as well and in various places where I've worked, it's looked pretty unprofessional when people are dressed in something close to a dress you would wear in a nightclub. Why not buy really nice work clothes to boost your own confidence? It sounds like you're putting too much effort into one potential partner.

SlipperOrchid · 26/04/2019 17:10

My point was that clearly if the OP is 80% as sure as she can be that her colleague fancies her, there is little point changing her style. How we come across is as much about how we feel and our confidence, If we feel like we have made an effort, we feel more confident. If we look down at chipped nail polish, we don’t think wow I must remember to chip another few nails because it looks great! If we make an effort to look groomed, it is every bit and often more effective than putting on new clothes. People obviously don’t agree but many people notice grooming and the lack of grooming far more than we might like to admit.

It’s similar when people proudly tell others that they don’t iron and don’t even own an iron. Unless you are a fitness instructor, people notice!

ImNotNigel · 26/04/2019 17:11

Actually I was logged on already slipperorchid but thanks for asking.