Meeting our bank manager - what to wear? **Thread title edited at OP's request**

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I am a stay at home mum and a carer for our autistic son. I am pretty much home bound, though I do go for nails, tan and hair. My husband is much more higher profile than I am, on a very much local scale, and I choose to stay home. I’ve been invited to meet our bank manager on an ‘informal’ basis, but still at the bank. I am conscious that it all sounds horrendous but what the hell do I wear. Please help!

This is a special bank for super rich people.

Trousers, it was just about the trousers. I’ve got two small children and just wanted a bit of help, tbh. Possibly some links.

To be fair, you didn't ask about trousers at all until several posts in.

To be blunt, it feels like you wanted to brag about having loads of money. Sorry.

I feel like I've stumbled into a bizarre parallel universe on this thread.

I'm a banker op (private bank for ultra high net worth individuals). Wear smart jeans, ballet flats/ankle boots, navy blazer, nice bag. It doesn't matter (some of the wealthiest people show up in baggy t shirts!) but I think this is a decent compromise between dressing for home and dressing for a meeting. Hope that helps and good luck with your meeting. PM me if you want any advice

What an odd thread

OP I work in financial services and we have extremely 'high net worth' clients. They come in all shapes, sizes and most importantly all different clothes. It's whatever you feel most comfortable in, is how you feel on the inside not what you look like. Some of our most wealthiest clients look like they have nothing.

In the nicest possible way, maybe you should work on your self esteem, confidence comes from within

I just wanted to make my husband proud of me, I will echo a pp that you really need to work on your self esteem (and independence) Why does an outfit make a difference to how your husband perceives you?

I have heartfelt gratitude for my good friends, this has been a learning curve for me.

I have been raising our servely autistic child whilst my bloody brilliant husband creates a world where our kids can be equal.

Sorry op but I think it's because some of what you're saying doesn't make a lot of sense and there's little connection between posts.

I'd wear nice trousers or jeans and a blouse. Some heels and a good handbag.

Just look desperate

Even if it were an invite from eg coutts private wealth advisor jeans and trainers would be fine. I suppose if it were followed by some kind of directors lunch I might scrub up a bit.
You’ll be fine wearing absolutely anything clean and presentable.
Good luck.

I Imagine that you don't need to dress to impress a bank manager who must already know you're very wealthy as they have invited you to join their bank - and get hold of your money - so will be trying to impress you!
I met with my bank on Monday to discuss investing a large amount of money I have. I rocked up in jeans, trainers and a sweatshirt. Nobody batted an eyelid. I didn't take my husband as I'm perfectly capable of making financial decisions by myself.
I'm sorry OP, but you come across like a Stepford wife, and have not been clear in what you wanted from MN from your initial post, which is why some of us took it as a bit of a joke.
Are you meeting this person at the bank or elsewhere? If so, it doesn't matter what you wear. If they are schmoozing you with a fancy lunch then wear something appropriate for the restaurant.
Most of us on here probably do online banking in our pyjamas TBH.

Can I make a suggestion? Don't go. Cancel the meeting. You day you don't get out much. If you have childcare and the opportunity to go out use it to do something fun and just for you. Book a spa treatment, go see a movie, go out for lunch.

If you do go to the bank, casual clothes are fine. Jeans are fine. The generally look more presentable in darker denims.

Say, not day

I’d be skinnies and a blouse. I work but my work is smart casual. And I’m pregnant so maternity clothes at present.

The bank wants your custom. They’re interested in your money. Not your outfit. But I see where you’re coming from.

Jeans. Nice top. Blazer. Boots/flats weather dependant.

Incidentally the last time I went to a meeting at the bank I was on my way to the gym. It was for signing mortgage paperwork. Gym clothes did the trick.

Assuming it is easier for you to shop online then look on netaporter and matches. I personally would go for some decent jeans - say j brand or frame, boots and a cashmere jumper. A week ago it would have been an equipment silk shirt and maybe some chloe flats but it is winter again apparently.

Good bag and jewellery and off you go. But I am assuming a decent budget hence invitation to join bank.

Have fun and hopefully you get to go out for a nice lunch as well.

Are in the UK or elsewhere? I’m wondering if English is your first language or if there’s been a little bit lost in translation.

OP, hugs.
I know what you mean, you’re stuck in a rut and this is a big thing you want to get right.
Can you wear wrap dresses? I always feel fab in a wrap dress.
Not sure what shape you are, but this is the last pair of trousers I bought. On me they look a bit like a cross between trousers and a long skirt. They are just so comfortable.
Before that I bought this pair, but in navy.
HTH

What a confusing thread!

I second not going. If you don’t need to and don’t get out much then use the opportunity to go for a nice lunch instead

Where to even start......

Op, I mean this kindly but you need more help than just what to wear. If you've got to the point of having to ask about what to wear to go to the bank and wanting to make your husband proud in the process, then life is not quite right for you.

If your husband is wealthy, then by default, so are you and yet you sound so enslaved somehow. I know there may be a bit of lost-in-translation going on but even so, it's all just so strange. If you have such severe social anxiety, use your money to pay for help.

Just use a switching service online? Not sure why you're seeing the manager???

Worried - wealthy people have different bank accounts than the normal NatWest high street. It's a different world and personal invites to the bank are pretty standard. Money saving expert switches don't really feature.

What does your husband like to see you in? Wear that.

@EatenByDinosaurs You would wear leather leggings?!?! 🤣 Unless you're under the age of 18 that is NOT a good look! 🐑

Always reminds me of that scene on Friends where Ross gets stuck in his leather pants and tries to use talcum powder to free himself but it makes it worse! 🤣🤣

Leather leggings and a cashmere jumper is pretty much winter uniform of 40+ well off women around here.