Meeting our bank manager - what to wear? **Thread title edited at OP's request**

[IsThatWise]

I am a stay at home mum and a carer for our autistic son. I am pretty much home bound, though I do go for nails, tan and hair. My husband is much more higher profile than I am, on a very much local scale, and I choose to stay home. I’ve been invited to meet our bank manager on an ‘informal’ basis, but still at the bank. I am conscious that it all sounds horrendous but what the hell do I wear. Please help!

I'd dress as if you're going for a nice lunch in a decent restaurant.

Smart jeans, silky shirt, heels, jacket.

I just wanted some help on what to wear to pop to the bank

I just wanted to make my husband proud of me while I pop to the bank.

Is this a weird surrendered wife scenario? Most confusing!!

Nice trousers... What style? Colour?

Ah, thank you. I was desperate for more kindness.
Am totally bemused.

Not much style and beauty tonight

First of all I thought your post was a joke, your last update made me feel like I had got it all wrong, until the bit about wanting to make your husband proud, now I don’t know if you are actually joking after all

I sincerely hope that your husbands opinion of you doesn't change depending on what you wear. You don't need to make him proud, he isn't responsible for you.

What is this event at the bank? Is it a social event, or is it a meeting to discuss your personal finances?

Dress for your husband, the bank manager won't really care. What do you think you look nice in op; what makes you feel good.

I'd wear a casual skirt, nice top and boots at this time of year.

Dress for your husband, the bank manager won't really care

Fuck that. Dress for yourself.

Yeah, best bet is to wear jeans and a nice top. Thanks, all.

What is the event actually for.......?

Which bank??

I wish I could find some nice trousers that fit.

We have been invited to join a bank, it is not a high street bank.
I am in error here, I thought most would assume it was not that I have been raising our servely autistic child whilst my bloody brilliant husband creates a world where our kids can be equal. He earns a great deal of money now. I just wanted some advice about trousers.
I’m still the girl that I was and I was nervous. Some of you are horrid.

Well done, you.

I suppose you can’t be jeans and fleece if your DH wears suit and tie.
Mine would wear jeans so I would put jeans or skirt (depending on the weather) and smart jumper, boots. Also our bank is very cold (old building with high ceilings) so I wouldn’t wear a blouse.

If you're nervous, wear what you are comfortable in. If they turn you down based on what you're wearing then perhaps they're not the kind of organisation you want to bank with?

Ok.

You have an autistic child.

You have been invited to the bank.

You want to please your husband.

But what you actually want is simply advice about trousers?

Now I don't mean to be horrid, I really did think your post was a joke, then I didn't, then I did again, so apologies if I upset you.

Tut! Not a fleece!

No, I wanted advice about an outfit, genuinely. I have heartfelt gratitude for my good friends, this has been a learning curve for me.
The questions that you have deliberately querulously phrased are to seek attention. I am happy to disengage from you.

OK, so not a high street bank. You have been invited because they want YOUR custom. You do not need to impress them, they are trying to make money from you. Keep that in mind at all times, it will help

As Eleanor Roosevelt once said, nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.
I do get how when you've been out of the world/in a child rearing bubble any event out of the norm, regardless of what it is can give you doubts about what to wear.

If I were you I'd wear leather leggings and a linen shirt, or silk vest and blazer, (might swap out the leather for ankle grazer skinny jeans/chinos if it was hot) but that's what I would wear to a smart lunch/to meet friends anyway.
If you wear anything you don't feel comfortable in, it will show, you're far better off wearing an outfit you love and feel good in

I think what’s gone wrong with your thread is that when the rest of us have been “invited to meet our bank manager” it’s the bank trying to sell us something (unless we’re in trouble), so we would no more see this as an event that requires any thought about how we dress, than if someone was coming to the house to give us a quote for a new kitchen, for example.

I just wanted some advice about what to wear to an event I’d never been to. On Style and Beauty. Never mind, always Whistles, eh?

I think you've already disengaged from the world at large, love.

You've been given a generic answer to your very general question of what to wear to a non event.

If you want further advice you're going to have to be more specific.

I'd search for cigarette pants on ASOS or similar. They always look smart. With a nice top and cardy or cropped blazer. Ballet flats look polished but not over dressed. Good luck!

Thank you. It was this subtlety I struggled to convey. I think? I have Baukjen leggings and was going to go with the Reiss silk tunic in white.
I don’t feel inferior as such. I have just been so caught up with the children at home and it’s been a big thing.
It’s a lovely opportunity for us and I am so proud of my husband as he had done so well for us. I literally could not have been apart from from our kids but it is a big step at the bank and I have to be there!
A friend of mine used to say, ‘To is the best and fuck the rest!’

"I just wanted some advice about what to wear to an event I’d never been to."

Blimey, I've been going to the bank regularly for the last 25 years or so, I don't think I'd ever call it an event?