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New thread. My nerve was cracking!

You look gorgeous, Laska. They really suit you.

I’ve given my head a wobble. I was having a baldness crisis earlier as well, nothing was looking right and I was just thinking ridiculous bald woman in the wrong clothes. I’ve also, practically overnight,developed some loose skin, which is looking particularly bad round my scarring. I know I’ve been very lucky that my skin has been exceptionally forgiving, but Red January hasn’t changed my weight, but I do seem to have lost some subcutaneous fat, which means the skin that was covering it is now sort of floppy. I have always said if loose skin was the price I had to pay for weight loss, I’d accept it gladly, but today I was just feeling wtf did I let it happen in the first place. Six stone was a whole (small!) person. Then I remind myself that my 50s were a disaster,a whole decade lost to pain and misery, and the fact I’m out of my wheelchair and on my feet is in itself miraculous. So what’s a little baldness and a few loose bits. So basically, I was having a pity fest!

Thanks @Laska2Meryls
Yes I am lucky that I understand the ins and outs and know what questions to ask.. although there is maybe an element of knowing a little too much perhaps, making me feel a bit nervous.

I really like the leathers on you - are they the Hush ones?

yes they are Ella, bough tin the sale.. a huge investment but like Cherries i have had to give my head a wobble about 'appropriateness' ...But I have wanted leather trousers or such like for so long, and always it was 'only when I get thin enough'

I have put some weight back on again recently ( about a stone since September) mainly due to too much sitting around in hospitals when DM was ill and eating too many sandwiches and bics and takeaways because it was easier instead of proper meals , .. Then coping with her death and supporting everyone else inc my DF , drinking a bit too much , then Christmas . But one thing I did hear on the radio recently which really spoke to me and made me feel so much better, which was that is actaully Ok to be ' just fine', and that we are all 'just fine', really but we spend far too much time agonising that we are not . Everyone has something they worry about , and everyone thinks they are not good enough sometimes , but really , we are all just the same!! And however 'lovely/lucky' the person you are looking at/wanting to be friends with/date/shag. Being just fine is .. well just fine!

Funny.. I'm 61 , and that's only just started to make sense to me!. maybe its because of Mum dying , i dont know.. but i'm just not going to allow myself to get hung up on body anymore.. its really not that bad .. so what if im a stone up ( and atm about 20 lbs heavier that im 'told' I should be for the middle of my healthy range BMI.. ) I am healthy, I am alive, and I am Just Fine!! .

.(This doesn't mean I am not making an effort to lose the extra gained flab though, just not beating myself up about re-gaining it)

laska you look fabulous too. What a bunch of inspiring 61 year olds you are (I feel super-frumpy now and must up my game)

ella so sorry about your heart. What a huge shock that must have been especially taking your job into account. I hope it can be sorted quickly and completely.

And I do like your philosophy laska. I gained a lot of weight over the past two years and mine was sitting about in hospital too (DH had cancer) and then I was having to encourage him to eat and probably being a lot less active. I lost 2.5 stone and have gained 4lbs over Christmas...lot one of those this week. But no, it doesn't really matter that much. It doesn't make me a worse or lesser person. I aim to get below 12 stone, (that's 4 lbs away) but am happy to take it slowly. One life....

Simon Amstell it was , on Shaun Keaveny .really interesting .

Ella, I missed your update there as we went onto a new page while I was moaning. It must be a frightening time for you, but glad you have a centre of excellence behind you. Hoping you get your procedure quickly and don’t have it hanging over you for ages.

Wise words @Laska2Meryls I think we all get too caught up in needing to be the best version of ourselves, one of the many reasons I hate January is that it's all so unachievable.

@Ellapaella I'm sorry to hear about health issues. I would like knowing the ins and outs of what was going on but too much knowledge can be a bad thing. I hope you are on the mend soon.

I still have some weight to lose from Christmas but I have some treatment coming up which will mess with me weight anyway so I'm not getting too stressed about it.

Just marking my place, as for some reason the thread keeps falling off I’m on, have been a bit floored by a chest infection last few days.
Ella I’m glad that you have your treatment plan in place & I know that you are a cardiac nurse, but I have had an angiogram & few other treatments for my DCM & I would be more than happy to answer any questions from a patients perspective if it would help at all.

Laska agree with everything you just posted, sometimes fine really is very good.

I just listened to it again, what he is saying is really we are just the same but we forget it . (and that things like 'New year New you', Beach Diets etc just tap into our anxieties and so we feel rubbish , even when dont need to .. wWe all want to be liked / loved /successful/ fit in/ but what with? We can spend too long trying to prove something and forget that yes , really we humans are all pretty much the same.. and its fine to just fine rather than perfect (but of course it is good to look after our health as much as possible )

I believe that we are 60% fruit fly and about 75% mouse (and they us) even!
Laska gets off soapbox and goes off for a cheeky Tuesday--

Fuzzy So sorry to hear about your DH. I hope he has recovered now

Bless you and thank you Len
I may well message you over next few weeks x

..and you too Len, Hope you are feeling more recovered now !rubbish time of year,to get chest infection, lots of it about .

Cheers laska. He has a whole new bone marrow and will never be wholly "better" but is better than he was. (Only he's got a cold now which can be bad news, so I'll have to keep an eye on him)

Well I have to apologise I’ve been travelling with work (UK this time, next week París again) and a lot of projects on the go, not allowing me time to keep up with you beautiful ladies

@Fuzzy Happy Birthday! So glad you’ve joined our thread. From one Aquarian to another: we totally rock!

@Ella bless you! You must be in shock. I’m just pleased to read the heart condition is treatable, and yes I’m not sure if knowing all the medical risks and benefits is a blessing or a curse...but I know you’ll stay super positive till the op and we’re here to prop you up (or distract you with fashion talk) whenever you need us
I hope the vegan DM’s are good, I luv mine but I didn’t size up so if they’re too big don’t hesitate to go for your normal size

@Laska you wise wise woman. You look AWESOME in your leather leggings and everything you’ve said totally resonates. Thank You for saying it! Btw the Hush boots are amazing with the outfit

@cherries I am jealous of your wigs. Whatever you’re having I want some! You really don’t realise how good looking you are do you? Well I’m telling you those leather leggings totally suit you and if you return I’ll remind you forever of your fashion faux pas

I am getting old too. 57 in 2 weeks but still not too old to RocknRoll and definitely too young to die

@melen forgot to add poor you! Wishing you get well soon

And I only find out by reading you that there are further reductions off to investigate after I get dinner going...

Have a lovely evening

Laska. Very sensible words. I think that I get obsessed with losing the magical half stone to stone that is always out of my reach and feel crap about the failure. But we all know that Bmi is nonsense and clothes sizes are all over the place so we should concentrate on pushing that to the back of our minds!
I've not been buying clothes so have tried not to look. Hoping to take my daughter to the sample sale if it goes ahead. She's lost 2.5 stone since September and loves that she is fitting into clothes that she loves, although she still has a long way to go. I'll be treating her for her birthday as Hush resells well when she (hopefully) goes down the sizes. She's doing it for health and hopefully fertility reasons 😉

If the sample sale goes ahead I don't mind taking orders ☺️

I've also ordered this mint velvet jumper to try in both the green and cream. I won't be keeping them both, it'll be a choice between one of these or the Hush irregular stitch jumper.
https://www.mintvelvet.co.uk/product/jade-stitched-balloon-knit/18225

Thank you whiskey - that is a very kind offer, I may well take you up on it!

and thank all of you for your well wishes as well. I am sure I will be ok - main thing is it's been found now and can be treated before too much damage is done. All the doctors I've spoken to seem to be amazed I've got through three pregnancies and two major operations without any problems - I feel a bit like a walking medical miracle at the the moment
And wise words there Laska - we must be kind to ourselves.
You are all such a lovely bunch xx

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@Ellapaella goodness me! What a lot to take in. I am so glad it's been found. I wish you well with your treatment and recovery.

To all of you brave ladies on here having some real battles

@laska. Fabulous words. I really needed to hear that. Have felt a bit down about putting weight on and your words have put things into perspective. Thank you.
Glad you like the boots. Both you and @cherries look amazing in your leather leggings. Definitely keep them cherries.
@ ella. That must have been such a shock. So glad they are treating it and you sound like you are feeling a bit like your old self. You must be so relieved in a way that they have found it before it started to give you any bigger issues and we are all here for you if you need a little vent x
As for me, still have my house guests. On the fashion front i have ordered the red shoes from hush but what tights would i wear with them? Or maybe just with trousers and no tights? I do love the quirkiness of them.