One month to totally overhaul myself - unlimited time and budget?

[Lattesforlife]

Okay, so the unlimited budget isn’t true at all really, but I am interested in your suggestions regardless just in case I win the lottery!

I have exactly 1 month till I see my ex again. I feel battered after the last 6 months and I want to transform myself in to the confident kick ass lady I was before.

I’m currently approaching 38, 2 stone over weight, my skin is dull, spotty and full of chin hairs..... I have zero energy because I’ve been so consumed by the break up. I am self employed but in a quiet period, so have time to spend on myself (Ds allowing!)

What would you do? I guess I’m after a mini princessing routine of things that will make a difference in 4 weeks?

My thoughts so far are:

Some sort of diet that nourishes me / my skin / hair?

Drink water..... gallons of the stuff

Eyebrows threaded and dyed

Exercise routine of some sort?

Poss lip fillers?

Skin care routine is currently sleeping in my make up then washing it off with soap

Oh, I pressed send too soon!

Was also thinking that I need to do something to make me feel more confident and kick ass on the inside - meditation?

Please help me do this, I’m not tooooo bad at doing projects when I have a goal in sight, but I feel so lost at mo, that I need guiding as to what to do for the next month to make an impact!

Lots of sleep, good food and laughs.
Get out and about every day for a walk with a decent uplifting playlist if you can treat yourself to some new clothes and a haircut. 👌👌 good luck. X

Drink shit tons of water- it makes such a difference to skin, hair, energy levels
Eyebrows threaded/filled/dyed
Hair cut and colour
Grow nails and have them painted when you see him- instantly make you look more polished
Wouldn’t recommend lip fillers
Take make up off at night and use either a night cream/toner etc. Doesn’t have to be a 10 step cleansing regime
Honestly it’ll take quite extensive exercise to make much difference in a month but a work out session a day (one of those 10min YouTube work outs) will be noticeable

1.5 litres of water per day.
Avoid fizzy drinks.
3 healthy meals a day, watching portion size (don’t be tempted by fad diets though)
Run/jog/walk 30 mins per day.
Haircut and colour
Eyebrows threaded
Simple skincare routine (stop sleeping in your make up!!)
Wear clothes you feel good in

And remember, if he hurt you, you deserve so much better than him and his ways.

Sleep and laughs have def been missing. I want to do those again for sure!

I used to be really high maintenance and I’ve let myself go so much. I’m literally sat with a pen and paper now writing this plan down!

Will add nails on! I used to have gel ones but I currently am sporting bitten stubs. God, I really have slipped 😬

Will hit the water hard and take make up off. Are the glycolic peel / microdermabrasion facials any good to kick start stuff?

I lost 2 stone in 6 weeks last summer, but I wouldn’t want to do that regime again as I felt run down rather than kick ass.

Will add hair cut and new clothes to the list as well.

Thank you, I feel like I’m getting a plan together!

Buy a clarisonic - it is a skincare game changer for lazy people like me.

Then

REN ready steady glow tonic. Wipe it on your face after clarisonic for removal of old skin cells

Then

Water based light moisturiser like St Ives collagen cream.

Then

Make up / Estée Lauder double wear to cover all skin issues

Then

Light dusting of blusher

Then

Great mascara

Then

Luxury perfume, something like Byredo Mojave ghost

Thank you theportuguesetart, he absolutely wore me down and I was a shadow of myself at the end. I just want to show him he hasn’t won, that I’m okay and “me” again.

Fake it till you make it and all that!

Mugalig that’s the kind of list I need - thank you! Will go look those up now!

I use doublewear and have eyelash extensions now (the natural looking ones) but I need those skin care tips and a perfume suggestion. In fact I’m loving the idea of a new signature scent!! Thank you

Get a bloke to go with you...
Honest the best revenge is too be happy...

I wouldn't get stuff like lip fillers you want to feel more like you not less like you

If you want to splash the cash I'd go for teeth whitening

Unlimited budget I would:
-hire a shit hot personal trainer

• go to the best hairdresser in London for a restyle
• get a delivery diet thing
• go to various makeup counters for a makeover and buy anything I liked
• go to a personal shopping service somewhere like John Lewis and buy anything I fancied
• get properly fitted for bras and buy some proper scaffolding
• new shoes

The secret is to not make it obvious that you are trying- so eyebrows nicely shaped make such a difference but aren’t obvious, whereas lip fillers look like you are trying to impress him.

Get your nails and hair done. Always make me feel better.

Can you go for a complete change in hair? I have long hair and went completely blonde after leaving my ex. I’d never have done it before but I loved it. Made such a difference to my self esteem.

Get your chin hairs sorted and eyebrows.

Drink more water, get lots of sleep.

Go to your local house of Fraser or Debenhams and get a new beauty routine. I use Estée Lauder and in my mid 40s I’ve had the best skin I’ve ever had. Ask them to do your make up and buy what makes you look and feel fab (you did say unlimited budget) 😂

As for being overweight, just own it! Fuck it! I’m 3 stone overweight and 5’3”, and I think bollocks to it, I buy what looks good rather than what makes me look slim. If the weight is in your tits buy a decent bra and a wrap top, some skinny jeans or leggings with a tunic top and some great long boots

Have a no-strings fling with a gorgeous unattached man. It makes you glow like nothing else.

I bloody love you lot. Thank you SO much!!

I’d add a man to the list but I’m sworn off the buggers!

My ex was quite controlling and liked me to dye my hair a different colour, I’ve just got it back to blonde but cut it all off as it was so damaged, so I’ll probs stick with this colour / cut as it’s already a fingers up at him and it makes me feel like ‘me’ being blonde again. Would a coconut oil or some sort of nightly treatment help though?

Nessie that’s exactly it, I want to look like me, but better - effortlessly good so no one can quite put their finger on what’s changed kind of thing. Suspect that’s harder work than a make over though!

Going to add new bra / scaffolding to the list too - I’m a 34G and they are both my best feature and worst nightmare in one!

urbanbeetler do I get them from John Lewis too?!

Why are you meeting up with him though? The best way to show you're awesome is to have no need to see him again. I'm concerned you will have a drink or two and end up wishing you were back with him (and trying it on?) Are you trying to win him back?

But otherwise.... dental hygeinest..... gets all the plaque and stains off, makes a big difference!

30 day shred. Look at the before and after pictures. It can make a big difference and is quick!

Can I add watching great movies like Shirley Valentine, Enough, Thelma and Louise and listening to a playlist of empowering songs. That should help give you an inner confidence that shows through.

Anyideas our kids are at the same school, I have no choice sadly. I wish I didn’t have to see him, believe me!

Ooh dental hygienist is a good one though! Will add that in. And love the happy empowering films suggestion too.

30 day shred.... i has forgot how evil that was! It gets amazing results though you are right. I think I usually quit about day 4 when walking up the stairs becomes impossible without crying!

Lots of good advice! Good luck! Keep us posted!!

Ooh write on your tummy... A very rude message to him...
I mean really bad bad....
Then everytime you see him, you will know it is there, it will make you laugh as you have a secret... That shows in your eyes...
He will hate thinking you know something he doesn't..
This also works....
Mine was the person I don't get on with has a really bad joke, with her name as a punchline...
She was convinced I was laughing at her, which I was....

Do loads of reformer pilates. If you are in london heartcore is very good, if you do every other day (so 15 sessions in a month) you will see a HUGE difference.

And yes to tons of water and healthy fats.

Glowy face products too.

As a primer I like the Radiance cream from Rosie at Autograph (M &S), Soap and Glory Hocus Focus, or Becca Backlit Primer.

I really rate C.Tilbury Hollywood primer. You can wear it on its own, mixed in with foundation, or as a highlighter. I have a cold at the moment but I am wearing this on its own with powder and blush and I look healthy. I don't like a lot of her products but this I rate.

Or if you want a powder illumination, look at Hourglass Ambient powder - Diffused Light is good. E.L.F do a cheap palette of powders too. Perhaps light bronzer? Body Shop do good ones in a variety of shades.

Apply a good lip balm before bed. The Carmex in the pot is good. Or the Nuxe one in the jar.

Do any of these things if you want to, but do them for you.

If you care what he thinks of you then he's still controlling you. You need to move to a mental state where you don't get a shit what he thinks about you as he's irrelevant.

Perhaps spend the month getting some counselling.

All the best