One month to totally overhaul myself - unlimited time and budget?

[Lattesforlife]

Okay, so the unlimited budget isn’t true at all really, but I am interested in your suggestions regardless just in case I win the lottery!

I have exactly 1 month till I see my ex again. I feel battered after the last 6 months and I want to transform myself in to the confident kick ass lady I was before.

I’m currently approaching 38, 2 stone over weight, my skin is dull, spotty and full of chin hairs..... I have zero energy because I’ve been so consumed by the break up. I am self employed but in a quiet period, so have time to spend on myself (Ds allowing!)

What would you do? I guess I’m after a mini princessing routine of things that will make a difference in 4 weeks?

My thoughts so far are:

Some sort of diet that nourishes me / my skin / hair?

Drink water..... gallons of the stuff

Eyebrows threaded and dyed

Exercise routine of some sort?

Poss lip fillers?

Skin care routine is currently sleeping in my make up then washing it off with soap

How are you going?!

Hello, I am sorry - I just spotted your reply @nzeire!

Erm, mixed!! I’ve really struggled with my mental health to be honest (this breakup just seems to come in waves) and so it’s been hard.

I’m drinking water and I’ve started taking a multi vitamin, vitamin D, B complex vitamin and ashwaghanda (for stress!) in an attempt to boost my mood. I am loving the vitamin C serum and am using the coconut oil as a hair mask.

I’ve been taking my make up off! What else? Erm, I took off my fake eyelashes and my real ones are awful, they have been so damaged! I’m trying to keep them off by using eyeliner and things to frame my eyes instead.

I’ve struggled with diet and getting out the house, but that’s very much linked to being so down in the dumps.

So not quite the progress report I wanted to give, but I think this may be more of a long haul thing anyway

Aw, hang in there.

When I’m low, i make a real effort with my appearance, it makes a real difference to my mood.
Book in for brows, that’s a goodie for instant boost! I loved the affect coconut oil had on my hair, but not on my clothes and bed linen! Too much stuff ruined!!!
Take care x

Reading through your posts OP - my advice (for what it's worth being a complete stranger!) is whatever you do to your appearance - when you are in the same place as your ex, do not look for him. Try as hard as you can not to see him. Be there for the shortest amount of time and be the first to leave.
Why?
He has messaged you "in error" - that's fuckwit behaviour that you don't need. If he wants to mess with your head, you being completely uninterested and unavailable will thwart that. If he's not interested, you minimise the chance of seeing him and messing up your own head.

Be kind to yourself and keep well away, it's the quickest way to get over him (& under someone ALOT better!)

Hi, glad to see you’re making progress, and you are, even tho it doesn’t feel like it right now.

Re your skin, I wanted to recommend to you Seven Seas Perfect 7 for women. I sheep bought it after a recommendation from the blogger Doesmybumlook40. Decided to commit to taking it for 3 months to really see if it’s any good. Honestly, after 2 weeks my skin is so much better, hormonal breakouts are gone, my skin looks bright and clear. And the main reason I started it wasn’t my skin it was my winter nails that keep splitting at the moment.

Also microdermabrasion. I had a course of 6, one every 10-14 days, and then 1 a month ever since. I leave there with glowing skin.

I’ve also been considering dermaplaning but not looked into it yet properly. A a bit worried about what it’s like when your hair starts growing back?

I’m sorry the break up is so tough ... we have all been there sadly ...

Keep doing stuff for you and smile ... fake it until you make it ....

Re the mental health part ...
I found this article really helpful .... maybe worth a look ??

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/inside-out/201309/the-5-stages-grieving-the-end-relationship%3famp

You are all so bloody lovely. Honestly, thank you

I’ve ordered those vitamins curls thank you! I’ve had dermaplaning before and my make up felt like it went on so much smoother! I’m back to a fine fuzz now, but it’s not been a noticeable change - chin hairs aside!

My ex will be aloof and arrogant, poss make a point of talking to me if there’s people there, but I think is desperate to avoid me too. It’s been hard seeing him tagged in stuff on social media, I know he’s moved on, but I seem stuck. I’ve not had a breakup like this before and I have had much longer relationships. I think It’s harder because I lost so much of myself in him, his controlling ways? I don’t know!

Either way! I’ve just dyed my hair ash blonde and put a toner on it. Reviving this thread has renewed my vigour! Face mask on now, and a pedicure tomorrow.

Self care, water and vitamins are where it’s at. Empowering films and ted talks. I’m dreading seeing him as time gets closer, I need internal and external armour!

Ahh bollocks! Name change fail