Here are the Hushistas - counting down for a Very Meryl-y festive season

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Continuing the Hush (and other nice stuff) love...

And yes to dds being irritating! My middle dd (15) is full of sarcasm at the moment, or moaning about how stressed she is and how terrible her life is. I try now just to nod and sympathise and not get too involved.

Whoops, a few things fell into my Hush basket -

Emilia bell sleeve dress
Wide jersey top in charcoal marl (wanted V-neck but sold out)
Some very pretty star earrings (centre star ear loops)

At the weekend the kids can be up as late as us!!
During the week my 7 year old bedtime is 8pm. Older boy who is 10 is 10pm and 10:30 with my dd.

Arghh I remember the never ending bedtimes well...you have my full sympathy ladies though at the mo we are running around after our 22yrold DS who lives in Brighton but is having a bit of a hard time and asked to come home again this weekend which is totally fine with us BUT DH is not picking him up from station till after midnight, may just ask DS2 to go pick him up so we can have a drink this Fri nite.
It’s never ending and I am very worried about him

Anyway soup please report back on the Emília bell dress, really like the look of it and have fun!

I’m already doing nought on my sofa and will do as attached pic soon! 🥂

That's a shame @soy. Children - young/older are a constant source of worry. still, at least he is coming home to you and you can look out for him.

Or look after him :)

@twosoups1972 I wouldn't have been able to stop myself in the gift shop! I had a Snoopy lunchbox and flask when I was at primary school too! Ahh happy days...I live in London so may have to pay it a visit.

Sorry to hear you are having a worrying time with your DS @SoyYo..my mum tells me that she never stops worrying about us and we're 54,45 and 42!

Yes dave and always specially with young adult children it’s a worrying time, you’re no longer fully in control as a parent. He’s very down atm (he graduated this summer) with his first job, girlfriend in Canada (problems there too) etc etc. All we can do is provide is a safe haven and sympathy but we also help him financially as Brighton is expensive and his first full time job pay is pathetic. He is a great kid actually so fingers crossed TLC at home this weekend will help him.

I thought there would be nothing worse than the constant worry with my dd when she was a kid, as her health was so precarious. Now I just feel I get to do all the worry without the right to barge in and fix it/take on medical professionals for her/take charge. She still at least does talk to me a lot but it’s really hard watching her struggle sometimes - she worries about everything. I know she needs to find her own resilience, but sometimes I just want to move in with her and make everything ok. I thought parenting was meant to get easier. Apparently it doesn’t, it’s just different.

Indeed cherries you explain it a lot better and it’s totally true xx

I’m always amazed on MN at the attitude of ‘they are 16/17/18 etc, so you have no right to be involved in their life’. I saw someone a couple of months back being lambasted for wanting to buy her student daughter a warm coat. It as if they expect there to be on bond or dependency the minute they reach adulthood.

My 22 year old DS has inherited my DH genetic high blood pressure (it’s a very rare condition) and has been on blood pressure medication since he was 7 years old. So when he’s stressed I really really worry as it’s not good for his condition...

Yes cherries I have friends telling me it’s “high time I cut the umbilical cord” but it’s not me hanging on for no reason. They actually need and ask for our emotional (and practical) support and they are doing their best to be full functioning adults and are really good people.
Some people may not share our feelings but hey ho I couldn’t sleep at night if I knew they were struggling and did nothing about it.
I still want to protect them fiercely from disappointment and know I can’t but at least I can always be a safe haven for them

I totally agree @ilovecherries I find they need you more emotionally as they get older.

Actually not friends just one friend tells me that but she’s been lucky that her girls have sailed through uni and first jobs...I don’t think she means it really and i guess she’s trying to get me to worry less about them but criticising a mother for buying a winter coat...well that’s a whole new low level in MN.
That’s why I don’t bother with many other threads (or very rarely) the bitchiness and “judgement” on some of them is truly unbelievable...

What on earth is wrong with a mum buying her dd a coat??

Thank goodness for threads like these where people are nice to each other

twosoup happy anniversary 🥂
Soy sorry your Ds is having a hard time, totally agree you never stop being a parent, it’s just different parenting from when they were young
It’s more about as you say, being an emotional support yy a safe haven.
cherries yy the worry & no longer being able to take charge of a situation, also find it really hard to understand the attitudes on some threads towards older children, my dcs are still my children & always will be.
I’m very lucky that my dd lives fifteen minutes away, I see her & dgd at least three/four times a week & she wants & welcomes my support & advice, hopefully I help make her life a little easier.

Evening all. I had only enough time to do JL Hush yesterday and they had hardly anything in stock so I'm still black marina-less. I'm holding out until next Friday on the off chance of a BG discount.

Currently on Mint Velvet website- very cross to not have been able to visit yesterday - and now I'm wondering what leather leggings you all have...? Is it the £25 leather look leggings or the £69 treggings??

I feel your pain with older teen/adult children dilemma. DS1 I mentioned up thread, he is 19 and at uni. I worry about him especially at the moment (for those that missed it, a friend of his commited suicide the week before last. So I worry about the effect it has on him.

But I say to my kids "you'll always be my babies " and they laugh and tut but I mean it, I intend to involve myself in some way in their lives (not in an intrusive way) and couldn't imagine washing my hands of them once they reached 18!

Bug it’s the twenty five pounds ones, they are really nice not sure if the discount code is still working it’s TOGETHER15 for 15%off.

Fudge yes I remember, hope he is ok such a shocking thing to happen.

Thanks len, I was hoping you'd say that! I'm happy to take a punt on a £25 pair I might never hardly wear...but £69 was pushing it! I'm also ordering this top and these boots. Hmm. Need to stop shopping...

Oh and the MV discount runs until Sunday if anyone else is interested.

fudge I had missed that news... I'm so sorry you've all had to go through that. Is your DS in student accommodation or a house share?

Bug ooh lovely👍🏼