Covering DH's first greys, what would you/do you do?

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DH has short, mid brown hair which goes a bit reddish in the sun. He's got quite a few greys now on the sides and just found one on the top, the horror! I've tried to nudge him towards one of those root filler type brushes but he's not convinced and wants to dye it. I've been trying to find something semi permanent but with no luck so far. What would you use? I'm veering towards a warm dark blonde but they seem really quite dark from the photos and I think it might be too much? I'm terrified of doing a "Trump" with an unconvincing blondy-orangy shade. Thank you for your help.

I would do nothing.
If he really wanted to dye his hair he can sort it himself.
Just like I sort my own hair colour out - though not due to grey as only found first one recently.

Dh is now very grey especially at the sides. It doesn't bother him in the slightest and it doesn't bother me that he has a lot of grey hair.

A home dye pretty much always looks less natural than a professional salon dye.

And if he already has a bit of grey among his normal hair colour than chances are people already know. So when he turns up at work and social events people will know it's dyed regardless of where it is done. Is he okay with that?

People know I dye my hair and I'm happy with that, but then I'm not doing it to hide grey and it isn't a sudden new thing as have been having dye (highlights) for many years.

All these posters saying it's ok for women & not men to have their hair dye, talk about sexist.

I see daily terrible dye jobs on women, horrible flat colours, too dark & ageing.

Any hair dye of the wrong colour, with a painted on effect looks harsh.

The key to any home box dye, to a few shades lighter & don't apply to all the hair.

Silver fox doesn't alway rock.

It is interesting though. In society things like dyeing your hair, fake tan, plucking your eyebrows, wearing make up, are all seen as very feminine and often even desirable in a woman.

Yet when a man does these things it's seen as unattractive, vain, effeminate, cringe worthy, laughable.

Society places very different values on that vanity. And they are gender based.

I think where this thread is unusual, is most women would tell their husbands not to be daft, he looks gorgeous, that men are perceived as attractive with grey hair, that he suits it, but the op seems very keen to get stuck in about his hair.

Does she wish to make her husband unattractive to other women? She's even happy for him to have a short lived mistake, so basically him walking about with a right bad dye job for a month, looking like a twat, and everyone to know.

As we have seen by this thread, it's not the normal reaction from most women.

I quite like the grey hairs on my husband. Quite sexy (thankfully greying rather than balding). Why is he bothered?

Omg. YOU do nothing! Only very very young men can get away with dyed hair!!!

Blimey OP you asked for advice about the actual dye process and got all this! Personally I agree men look better with grey hair than dyed hair (although to be fair how do we actually know if their hair is dyed, some might actually do a good job so we don't even know). However, I get the hypocrisy in my statement as I'm 39 and Just started to get a few odd grey hairs myself and it's bothered me far more than I thought it would!
I am also brown/blonde with reddish tones. L'Oréal do a new 'touch up' spray which is very good if you only have a few grey hairs. You spray it on and it stays on until you next wash it. Very natural looking and comes in a wide range of hair colours. It's what I'm using and very happy with it. Might be worth a try.

I would be reluctant to dye it especially with his hair colouring. I think a hairdresser would be the best step. Box dyes especially "men" ones are really dark block colours and I've never seen one look natural

How do you know a man’r hair is dyed? Think Paul McCartney.

...man’s

Agree with all the people here saying do nothing! It ALWAYS shows and looks a bit sad, while a bit of salt and pepper can look great.

Please don't dye your DH's hair.

Grey hair on men is super sexy, but dyed hair is just so twattish.

Thank you to everyone who has helped, the ideas of mixing boxes and of only applying to bits and pieces of hair are great. The spray root coverer is good as well, thank you, it was what I'd thought of initially but I didn't know some lasted up to three washes so that's valuable information. I'm completely taken aback by the violent reactions of the majority of respondents and can only assume (hope) that we move in very different circles. People who react with violence are usually acting out of fear and if you're frightened of men behaving in a way that you perceive as feminine, well, you're on the wrong side of history.

I'm completely taken aback by the violent reactions of the majority of respondents and can only assume (hope) that we move in very different circles. People who react with violence are usually acting out of fear and if you're frightened of men behaving in a way that you perceive as feminine, well, you're on the wrong side of history.

Knickers.

🤣🤣🤣🤣

And totally barking.

Missing the apparently violent responses I’m afraid OP

Just a bit of frank straight talking to avoid your dh becoming a source of fascination for other women for All The Wrong Reasons

Violence? Frightened?

Am I reading a different thread? 🤣🤣🤣

OPs now on an epic flounce to Superdrug

Just let the poor sod go grey if he wants to

are there not more important things to worry about?

and the money wasted on hair dye can be put to much better use

Yeah, actually it could be an epic flounce. You just know that poor sods getting his hair dyed tonight, 🤣

Grey men are v sexy (George Clooney!) but I am a nearly 50 yo woman and have never coloured my hair so my opinion probably counts for fuck all

Sod it - tell him to shave it all off.

Honestly, you have to laugh don't you? Call it a flounce if it makes you happy but I am simply not interested in reading any more negativity. The lovely people who replied to my post have my gratitude Those who came on to give their views can consider themselves heard, thank you for taking the time. We will have to agree to disagree.

Can take before and after photos and post them for us? Do it in sunlight. We will all be very positive, promise.😁

God no. Don't dye his hair.

It's weird on a man.

My husband has just started getting a few greys at his temples. His hair is black so it really shows. The idea of hin dyeing it though, is just hilarious and tragic. There are still a few things that are not really unisex and this is one of them.