I have the worst hair ever. Please please help me sort it! I actually feel ashamed to leave the house!

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My hair is very thin, very fine. I can't have a fringe. It won't lie flat. The sides won't lie straight - it sticks up in whispy bits. It can't go longer, it looks witchy. I haven't had much success with it shorter. I don't have the time to go to the hairdresser regularly, plus I really have a fear of hairdressers akin to he dentist.

It's dyed but lots of gray underneath.i can't decide if I should go gray or continue to dye. It is so fine and flyaway. And I can't get any volume in it. Plus at the front there are many teeny baby hairs which never grow longer. I've left some of my face in the picture, so you can get an idea - I look so old and horrible, and my awful hair is just exacerbating the overall horrid look

Is there any cut or colour or treatment anyone can suggest? I'm really desperate.

My hair was similar.

I’ve been taking hi strength sea kelp I bought on amazon, iron, b vitamin complex and a berocca-alike every day, for over a year. I used the nioxin hair system for over a year but have gone on to purple shampoo and conditioners due to having highlights.

It’s got volume now and I no longer hate it.

Elnett volumising creme mousse is great stuff.

Good luck. I feel your pain.

I can't grow out the shorter bits, they are always there. I've had them for years. They never grow and always stick out.

I have got an expensive shampoo and conditioner. Nothing seems to improve it. I wash my hair twice a week. I'm going to try some of the tips Inc vitamins.

My dh doesn't like sort hair, and I'm worried a pixie cut would take too much effort? In hate the hairdressers so much. Everything about it is excruciating.

But thanks for tips. I'm back trying some tomorrow

I have a similar problem.

Grow out the fringe.

Have your hair blunt cut to prevent wispy bits.

Use volumnising shampoo, and if its not been bleached, no conditioner..

When drying & styling your hair, aim for wavy tousled hair - blow dry upside down, use your hands to style it rather than a brush.

I just wanted to say that the wispy bits look pretty and soften the style. A richer colour would look nice, maybe one of those glossing treatments that improve the colour and texture in one go. Also a light weekly treatment mask. I love the Lee Stafford pink pot one.

I would say you need a decent cut, good conditioning treatments, products that thicken it and then style and blowdry.

Maggie Gyllenhaal the honourable woman hair cut might do?

Most people don’t look at others fully straight on, if you are conversing you often are partly sideaways on, so the wispy bits that seem so obvious to you are probably not noticed much by others.
I think that your parting could be higher so the top isn’t so flat across, andcould wispy bits be put behind your ears and gelled to keep in place?

My hair is similar, I have the ends trimmed every 6 weeks, at the moment I'm liking Pantene micellar shampoo and conditioner and always use Ellnett moouse.

I think you've got very pretty hair and you don't look really old, you've got a lovely face. I've heard that fine hair looks good longer at the front and shorter at the back. Something like the photo. I'm wondering if there are any hairdressers who are specialist with fine hair, as there are with curly hair? If you took a friend to the hairdressers with you, would that help? Volumising shampoo is good and mousse.

Your hair is very much like mine and I hate mine too! The only cut I've found thatbworks is a pixie cut. Thickening and extensions don't work on really thin hair.

Allegretto, sympathies!
Pookie, want2, thank you, and anyone I missed. That's so sweet. You really made my day! I liked the 2 picturesfrom Suki, but I think it's too short. My hair is determinedly awkward. It won't lie straiggt and flat. If it's too big short, ( but not sort enough to be dirty or ruffled up à la pixie) , it just boobs about in the air sort of sticking up. I guess it needs the weight? Dunno. Do I think I'd have to go for a pixie, which I'm not brave enough for, although in think it looks really cool, esp Jamhandprint Pic. But I love the pic from want2, not sure if it will work on my hair, so will ask when I finally get up the courage to go to the hairdresser.

I really like the wavy hair like in the pic from Jermajesty, but my hair won't do that at all. Once it gets to the length it is now, it will start to flip out at the ends, and it has a permanent horrible kink at the front, so it does not lie straight at the sides at the front, but otherwise it is dead straight and refuses to do anything else.
I don't dare to do anything like extensions (too £££, to much time in a salon , maintenance etc) or perm, similar to above. I've never found a cut that works with my hair, and I'm 49! GAH.

But thanks for the kind and positive words and tips, I'll definitely be trying loads of these out.

It’s not your DH’s hair, it’s yours, so it’s immaterial whether he likes it short or not.

Get rid of the long ends at the back to start with. Longer stragglers will always feel thin and wispy. The best way to get volume into fine hair is to have it all the same length but shorter. All the styles pictured are on quite fine hair, but it’s been well cut to disguise the fact.

I understand the fear by the way, my hairdresser moved away and I haven’t been for a year now.

Mine was similar to yours Op and a combination of peri menopause and stress resulted in it falling out and becoming even thinner.
It was seriously affecting me so I went to the hairdressers and told them to just cut the lot off. ( I had a bob) They gave me a lovely pixie cut, it took a few days to get used to but it is great, zero maintenance, shower, towel dry, fluff up a bit and go. I don't even think about my hair now.

Looks similar to this

Hiii OP

Try the fibreology shampoo and conditioner from L'Oréal it's made my hair thicker and works after a few goes.

They also do a spray and a serum.

The spray is good

I bleached my hair to death twice and this has helped me get it back.

How about a nice short cut ? It will make it look thicker

I also put the shampoo on and leave for about three to five min

Same with conditioner

Wombling, I know what you mean, and if I felt really strongly that I wanted to have sort hair I would do it. But I'm not so sure if I want to - maybe more hassle in a different way? Is more regular trips to hairdressers - Marian, how often do you have to go to maintain it, and do you dye your hair?

Plus, I'm not sure I want to make myself deliberately more unattractive to my dh. I really hate beards. If he were to grow one that would be his choice, but I wouldn't like it, so I'm glad he doesn't I sort of see it as the same thing. But I guess the main reason is in not sure. I did get it cut very short when I was much younger, pre school, so mid 20's. But for the life of me I can't remember if I liked it out how it worked

Thanks swizzle. I'll look out for those. I washed my hair today. The plats salt didn't work. Hair looks kind of wiry. But the gel just at the front has worked really well, lets see how that looks tomorrow. I'm not going to go to the h hairdresser till mid December, so I look half decent for Christmas and it gives me a few more weeks growth to get my ex-fringe a bit longer.

Melony6, what do you mean by having a higher parting? Do you mean more central? It sort of always lands there.

Stupid question - is having a blunt cut, and having it shorter at the back and longer at the front mutually exclusive? Are both possible? I'm so confused. Is that lovely picture from want2 only possible with the best hairdresser and hours of skilled styling? Would the reality of really thin hair, no time to get ready in the morning and shit skills mean actually in real life it would look awful?

Maiden love that!

OP - toy need to

My hair is really like the one that Maiden posted. I have it cut about every 5 weeks and wash it every day. (Yes, I know people say don't do that but they are usually the kind of people who don't have fine, greasy hair...) For the record, my DH doesn't really like short hair either (neither do I in theory!) but sometimes you have to work with what you're given!

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Op you need to stop worrying what your "D"H thinks, having shorter hair doesn't make you any less attractive but lank fine hair clearly makes you feel it.

Go with what you want but seriously don't listen to your DH, it's your hair!

My hair is similar to yours. I now keep it short, with a longer fringe and use salt spray and wax to give it texture and keep it under control. It doesn't grow all that quickly so a trim once every 8 weeks or so keeps it looking ok.

I agree that you need to embrace the wispiness and go for a pixie. I sympathize though because I have similarly fine hair and hate the hairdresser's (fortunately my hair looks OK long).

I have fine hair and feel your pain OP.

I am going grey now and that has really helped make if feel thicker, as grey hair is more wiry. I also have it regularly highlighted, as for some reason this gives it a thicker look to it. You need to get some layers in, but do not let anyone feather your hair, as us folk with fine hair end up looking wispy with that technique.

I think that you may have to accept that if you want your hair to look as good as possible, it will involve regular cuts at the hairdressers. Some people have naturally good hair that doesn't involve much maintance but others don't and need to go to the hairdresser on a regular basis to keep their hair looking decent. The same with eyebrows-you are obviously lucky in this area but lots of people have to put time/effort into them looking good.

I think you need to find a good hairdresser and go for regular cuts, book your next one as you leave. Some hairdressers do a styling lesson so they teach you how to blow dry/style.

Have you tried a hair wand? It gives messy waves so would disguise the sticky up bits and give some volume. Salt spray for a messy look?
I think you either need a short pixi or all one length to minimise the fineness.

A smoothing cream may help the wispy/sticky out bits