Does anyone super hourglass feel really self conscious ?

[hendricksyousay]

I’m a bit Jesica rabbit , small rib cage and waist , big boobs and a curvy bum and thighs . Whatever I wear I sort of look like I’m trying too hard and it makes me self conscious . I’m a size 8-10 but I tend to wear looser tops so it doesn’t show it off as much . Am I alone ? Or crazy ? 😳😳

I get you too OP.

I never wear heels because it makes me feel like an 80’s barmaid . I always wear ankle boots and try and casual my shape up a bit . It’s fine in jeans as I buy a size 10 jumper usually which doesn’t show my shape but makes me look bigger overall 🤷‍♀️

Size 8 hourglass here and I definitely make an effort to dress more demurely: longer skirts (mid calf), stand up high collars and expensive fabrics and clothes (40s/50s vintage, especially for beautifully cut blazers, is a lifesaver).

Accessorised with pearl studs and discreet jewellery.

However I don't want to hide my shape entirely - I like my figure and enjoy it (but am also lucky enough to earn enough to afford thick fabrics and interesting cuts which I do think can make a difference).

A PP had it spot on when she said that we don't all want to dress in the 50s styles that are supposed to suit us. For me they always look really restricting and very Kirstie Allsop.

OP I feel your pain, the tightrope of too fitted a top = cleavage/boobage or too loose a top = maternity wear.

I don't have any answer but I feel most comfortable in a loose but reasonably structured top (H&M do some great ones in their basics range) with harem trousers - but again reasonably fitted ones. The best ones I have are from Abercrombie and Fitch. This is my daily go-to outfit.

For work I tend to wear cigarette trousers with a cropped fitted jacket and a vest top, or skinny jeans with a long shirt and jumper. I find that the jacket hides the boobs, and the shirt/jumper hides the waist which then balances out the boobs/bum. That probably doesn't make any sense. And I probably look like shit anyways!

I have big boobs but small hips and normal ish waist but I hate the fact I can't get shirts and swim wear easily.
Sons dresses are an issue too.
Op is entitled to feel the way she does.

Some dresses. Not sons

I'm more apple shaped now but before I had DC I was quite hour glass. I completely get it. Outfits that would look elegant or classy on a taller, less curvy woman always seemed to look tarty on me...

I do feel too 1950s sometimes, because tailored shapes are better on me than baggy stuff. Loose things make me look fat and barrel shaped, because without the waist definition I just look like a barrel clearly not a size 8 hourglass here.

I often feel over-dressed even in simple stuff too and find casual hard but maybe I'm not trying hard enough! I wear straight cut jeans and a fitted white or navy shirt ALOT for casual wear in the hope that it stops my arse and tits from looking mahoosive and isn't sack like and baggy or clingy and revealing.

I'm not sure how you can tell with clothes on-unless you are wearingnotingbut body con. My waist doesn't show under 90% of my clothing because the waist is too wide so it just looks like I am the width of the clothing.

I would also much rather be straight up and down and have a history of eating disorders because I'm uncomfortable with how 'feminine' my body shape is

Thisisanotherusername are you serious?! That's a really crass thing to say! I understand people by being unhappy with their figure but to be so flippant over something that is actually deadly is ridiculous! Many people don't have the luxury of having 'a history of eating disorders', instead their family's have a death certificate. I suggest that you do some research on EDs and the wider impact they have before you make such a statement again.

@Trunkisareshite you have completely misunderstood the OP.

Trunks I read username’s comment as meaning that she herself has a history of EDs rather than that she covets one.

I hear ya, OP.

I'm an hourglass AND very tall.

I wear fitted dresses to work and to hell with what anyone thinks. I don't show cleavage, my skirts are never short, I wear black opaques etc - so I'm modest, but YES I have big tits and an arse. I'm not hiding it in baggy stuff. Its my shape!

I often get 'pooh, you look nice, where are you off to?'. I take it as a compliment. If its not meant as one, it goes over my head

TRUnk, that pp was saying she has a history of eating disorders. Don’t be so harsh

Yeh, sadly the “showing off”/“slut shaming” comments (from other women) are pretty much par for the course on occasion

I was at a social event where a woman I had never talked to before in my life started on about “women who use their sexuality to get ahead” whilst staring at me pointedly( I was wearing no make up, flats, and a white stuff maxi dress in the right size with a small cardigan over the top)

Thing is I expect I’ll cheerfully thicken out with age and have to change my style, so I’m going to enjoy the slimness whilst it lasts! It’s like “figure inverse snobbery” sometimes though

Anderbroom, I'm nearly 50, have had two kids and am still waiting to 'thicken out'!

As a result of this thread I've been trying to think of famous true hourglasses. There really aren't very many at all and I wonder if it's because exaggerated hourglasses often don't film or photograph very well compared to very thin figures.

So far I've got Nigella Lawson, Christina Hendricks, Hayley Atwell, Victoria Coren Mitchell, Kelly Brook, Sofia Vergara, Salma Hayek and maybe Scarlett Johansson.

28 F/G/H really isn’t big boobed, unless you’re 5’ nothing.

I’m 38-27-39 and mostly my problems are that I don’t suit casual. I have a pronounced butt and anything that isn’t fairly slim through the butt and thighs just makes me look chubby. Comfy oversized knit tops are A. No. COS is a nightmare - so much stuff that hides the waist.

I feel uncomfortable at work in clothes that are too tight but mostly am quite grateful that I look pretty good in pencil dresses (altered at the waist) and they are so easy to dress up and down.

oops sorry I have read that wrong haven't I. Really sorry Thisisanotherusername you can probably tell I'm defensive on the subject.

It's so depressing to hear women describe themselves as 'cheap', 'vulgar', 'tarty', 'whorish' etc due to the way they look on clothes. An hourglass shape does not make you look slutty and the internalised misogyny is very depressing.

I'm an hourglass; I wear wrap dresses with camisoles underneath, stretchy scuba pencil skirts with tucked in loose blouses (ok, it is difficult to find ones that button up but aren't too big at the shoulders), fit and flare dresses and some of the much maligned 50s style as well. When I do cleavage, I certainly don't consider myself to look trashy. An hourglass is a great shape!

I will add that I can't do casual styles very well and that I have pretended to have been on my way to a party when overdressed at the supermarket or similar

Marilyn Monroe is the most famous hourglass but she was tiny as can be seen in this fascinating article.

I am a 10-12 hourglass shape. I love it

I try not to care what people think, and i go through phases of being ok. Winter is a lot easier than summer, because I can hide under a coat, as long as I don't fasten it up and belt it.
I get a lot of slut shaming, all I have to do is wear a high heel, and that is it. I'm sick of mostly wearing trainers, just to offset everything, or flattish boots. I look over dressed in everything. My jeans are always too big around the waist, tops are always tight around the bust, or I look pregnant.
I'm 39, 26, 37.5. I 'filled out' after children, had a 23 inch waist before, while it would be nice to be a bit more straight up and down, I think the only way to achieve it would be to become overweight and compromise my health, I've tried being underweight - didn't work.

The only way I can look presentable, without looking like a tent, is to be overdressed. While there is nothing wrong with that, and most days I can rock it, I get tired of all the unwanted attention, and the assumption that I'm up for being stared at and harassed.

@rightknockered .. exactly!! But putting on weight doesn’t work because I stay hourglass just bigger . Even when I’m pregnant I have a small waist from the back .