Does anyone super hourglass feel really self conscious ?

[hendricksyousay]

I’m a bit Jesica rabbit , small rib cage and waist , big boobs and a curvy bum and thighs . Whatever I wear I sort of look like I’m trying too hard and it makes me self conscious . I’m a size 8-10 but I tend to wear looser tops so it doesn’t show it off as much . Am I alone ? Or crazy ? 😳😳

I'm a size 6/8 hourglass but also an F cup, it is a thing. I love the boobs but not so much the hips tbh.

Nah I totally hear you. I'd love to wear the figure hugging suit dresses that my colleagues in the City wear (the likes of Karen Millen etc) but with FF boobs and a 29 inch waist it just looks like I'm trying to draw attention to my boobs and my bum. Which is why I wind up in hideously frumpy stuff. Sigh.

I used to hate my hips, the curve into the leg. I wanted to be straight up and down. But what the hell, we are what we are

I know exactly what u mean. I'm an hourglass with very curvy hips and even curvy calves. my best friend is straight up and down although we're both an 8 to 10. she could wear a casual dress and look great whereas I'll wear it and look a bit trashy. And no it's not a boast because if rather be able to look casual in casual clothes and sometimes be able to dress modestly without wearing loose clothing which ends up making me look fat.

I have an hourglass shape: 22 inch waist and 33 inch bust and hips. I would also much rather be straight up and down and have a history of eating disorders because I'm uncomfortable with how 'feminine' my body shape is. Like the OP I also find it difficult to dress for my shape.

Don't assume that someone's bragging just because they have a figure which is considered to be 'ideal' by others.

totally know what you mean. If I dress to flatter my figure, i.e. close fitting clothes, its a bit too much on show. but baggy clothes results in me looking huge, total pain in the neck!

I am pretty straight up and down, but have a medium/large frame. I used to be thinner and had no curves (small 34AA boobs). Now I am not thinner. I still have no curves. I resemble a potato with arms and legs!

Hourglass here!!! You are crazy to find this an issue. Not being able to buy a shirt that fits my boobs and my waist or jeans that fit my legs and my hips these are issues lol.

I do get the cheapening of certain clothes due to your shape though. Pick well on the length and drop of the cleavage, pick understated colours and always pay attention to your jewellery, bags and shoes if these look remotely cheap you can look full on tramp however I assume that’s the same for most lol.

I get what you mean, my curves can tend to look vulgar, a bit barmaid. I've always envied those sleek, narrowed hip types, they look so much more expensive.

I wear dresses most of the time and I'm an hourglass. I can't wear ones that are tight fitting over the hips and bum but otherwise it's not an issue. Who cares if people think you look dressed up and smart? I want to look good. I don't want to dress like a bum. Someone commented that I looked like I was going somewhere special the other day and I was in jeans. I just took the compliment!

I'm size 14 - 42, 29, 43

I get it too. I have to be careful when dressing for work that I don't look too tarty/sexy as people do look twice if I wear a tight top.

I've found my people. I'm not quite so bad now the menopause has expanded my waist slightly, but I struggle most with casual clothes. Tucked in tops makes me look a bit too eighties stonewashed but most stuff just hangs straight off my boobs and I look matronly.

Hourglass too, and short with it. Classic cut clothes suit me well. Anything low cut, tight or more than slightly embellished makes me look like the whore of Babylon, and anything too loose looks like a tent.

Yep, wench type figure here too. All tits and arse even when i'm size 10. Hard to dress up without looking rude. It does sound like stealth bragging, but it's not fun actually.

Yay I found my people!

Size 8, e cup, flat concave waist.

Agree Casual is a nightmare but some tricks I’ve recently found are

• long fitted skimming black cardigan + jeans tucked into knee length boots . I have two of these cardigans from primark, one on order from Ebay. They really do the whole “covering up without adding bulk” to a T.

• Black (other dark colours available if it’s not exactly for your skin tone) is GOOD for top half. I have lots of plain fitted boatneck/scoop neck tops in teeny sizes. I combine these with light/bright coloured trousers and skirts to “balance me out”

• printed wrap dresses like boden style in neutral floral patterns in grey and green and brown - the print and colour makes them less “va va voom” and figure emphasising than plain ones

• minimiser bra

• yoga/ Pilates for correct posture

• To make dresses more casual, I don’t add heels or wear make up

• and also things like hippy/ bohemian/neutral jewellery/accessories stop that whole “pin up” vibe occurring

Short women can be very booby but still easily an 8. Arsey comments on here

Better at dressing now, but it was tough when I was a bosomy 18 year old. You learn to play your assets cool with time, unless it's the moment you choose to flaunt them. When you choose, mind.......

I completely understand where you're coming from, OP, and I don't think you're bragging

It's tricky to dress an exaggerated hourglass. There's a reason why fashion models are very, very thin, and it's because clothes hang well on thin frames. Even plus-size models tend to be more pear-shaped than hourglass and you very rarely see a plus-size model with very large breasts, even in the Bravissimo catalogue. Large breasts are difficult to dress and they are always a problem in high fashion. Occasionally Vogue will declare that 'breasts are back' but that will be because of a model like Gisele, who is very thin with just enough boob not to be totally flat-chested. Look at Victoria Beckham, who had her implants removed when she wanted to be taken seriously by the high fashion industry. Stylists have no idea how to dress Christina Hendricks except by putting her in vintage, lingerie, or Vivienne Westwood.

So yes, it is tricky to dress hourglasses, and not every hourglass wants to look like she's on her way to a 50s theme night in a circle skirt or fitted dress.

So. If a thin frame is a blank canvas, shape-wise, which can take pretty much any combination of patterns, frills and fussy shapes, then when you are curvy you have to work from the basis that there is already a lot 'going on'. You have to stick to simpler shapes and patterns, and you have to think carefully about proportion. Wide-legged trousers and fuller skirts balance out the top half and enable you to wear a fitted top. If you're wearing a tight pencil skirt, you need a slightly looser-fitting top half. To get that slightly dressed-down look, you need clothes with a little bit of slouch in the fit but never anything too baggy - they will just hang straight down from your curves and make you look bigger than you are.

One more thing - if you are wearing something dressy then yes, you need to do something to dress it down. Ankle boots with a dress instead of heels, for example.

Totally crazy! Embrace your curves. I am a total hourglass wannabe, waist clinchers, shape wear, waist training corsets, I ve got it all underneath my clothes and I am still pretty straight up and down just with boobs. Although of course I get where you are coming from, I found it a lot easier to dress before I had kids and grew some boobs. I am now a G cup and showing any kind of cleavage is a big no.

Some of the comments on here are not very nice. Not everything is a “humble brag” and needs to be jumped upon.

Fizz

I'm a 28J and wear size 8 tops

Of course you can be a size 8 and a hourglass. It is a shape not a size...

Good post hahmhmm I think you’ve got it spot on

I feel the same as you OP, and for the PP that thinks you can't be an hourglass and wear a size 8, I have a 28G bust and size 8 tops fit me just fine.

My more athletic shaped friend looks great in casual girlfriend jeans with a long sleeved bodysuit & trainers. I tried the same look and felt absolutely obscene, despite it being a very casual look.

Then there is the opposite problem, that if I go for bigger/less fitted clothes I look much larger than I am and a bit matronly.

I would also prefer a more athletic figure with a smaller bust (28B would be my choice, if I had the money for surgery) and smaller hips/bum. I think this shape is by far the easiest to dress.