Is anyone constantly uncomfortable?

[Hairq]

This is worse than ever today because I have PMT and my already sizeable breasts are like rocks, but if I'm honest it's a constant problem.

I am constantly uncomfortable in my clothes. I want to rip all my bras off even though they are the correct size and fit because they bother me so much. I wear skinny jeans because more relaxed styles make me look 2 sizes bigger, but they are so uncomfortable - and they're not too small - the next size up just fall down which adds a whole new dimension to being uncomfortable. My knickers constantly give me a wedgie, tops are always too tight over my boobs because they're massive. If I get something to fit over them it makes the rest of me look huge because it's too big and billowy everywhere else. I constantly feel in turn strangled and drowned by my clothes and the feeling of the tightness (even though they fit - it's how they're meant to fit, they're just uncomfortable styles - apart from the breasts issue with tips). I feel like giving in and living in tracksuit bottoms, pull on sports bras (which I can't even wear for the gym because they don't support my MASSIVE MONSTER TITS) and baggy tshirts. Can anyone help or at least identify??

(Size 12-14 hourglass by the way if that makes a difference)

I feel like this but I have ASD.

Ok, just tried a lovely dress on for a wedding I'm going to soon. Flattened my bust ridiculously and loose in the waist and hips. My size, apparently. I'm fed up of looking so I'm going in pyjamas and sparkly heels. Might jazz it up with a tiara.

Sports bras. I have never looked back. No wire but the support I need. For skinnies I make sure they have some stretch in them for comfort. Underwear go for John Lewis cotton pants. I like to be comfortable but still look smart.

user sports bras always look massive in my size!

You will be surprised. They sort of flatten your chest a bit too which helps

Giraffe me too (as may be fairly obvious from my name...). I've always been sensitive to certain fabrics, and can't bear scratchy labels, but other than that wasn't too bad when I was younger. Getting less tolerant of EVERYTHING as I get older, though. Aspie DD (14) is a fucking nightmare with clothes and footwear, though - that's where her sensory sensitivites really manifest (mine are probably more around sound).

Loving this thread, btw. I never stray into Style and Beauty because I just don't belong here , but I'm savouring and exploring all the links of this one. Fab.

HairQ have you tried Bravissimo/Pepperberry for clothes? They are designed for your/our shape; so sizes are 12/14/whatever then either curvy, really curvy or super curvy. You choose the numerical size based on waist measurement, then how much bigger your bust is determines the 'curvy size'. Designed to eliminate the straining buttons and gape over the bust with anything that remotely fits your waist.

Yes... I agree sports bras are great for sort of reducing the size of enormous breasts and keeps them in one place too... no wobbly bits hanging out under my armpits or double boobage going on at the front. They do come up very high at the front though, so not suitable to wear with v-neck clothes.

Shock absorber level 4 is the one of choice for me.

Aspie yes, have tried Pepperberry. I find most of their things a bit frumpy, and they are over fond of cap sleeves which look horrible on any arms and shoulders that are less than tiny. Also, everything seems to be made of not thick enough jersey fabric that clings onto every lump and bump around the waist and stomach, where I could do with fabric and cut that skins slightly. I really want to like them because they're supposed to be for women like me but the clothes just don't work on me somehow.

Sports bras... I have some for the gym. They are just as uncomfortable as my normal bras. Might get some cheap pull on though bra for lounging about the house though.

I can completely sympathise with you, OP - being uncomfortable in my clothes is a constant battle for me and played a huge part in my decision to work from home where I can wear my lounge clothes!

I too am gargantuan of nork and they seemingly sit further down my chest than the average pair because the straps are never long enough. I spend most of my time either in bras that give no support of feel insanely tight. I take them off the minute I walk through my front door.

I am also - or so I've been told - "long in the crotch" meaning that most jeans designed to sit on the waist cut straight across my hips and are impossible to sit in without feeling bisected, but getting the a larger size means they ride down. As for low rise jeans you might as well forget it, they give me a builder's bum. The only trousers I can get to fit have a huge amount of stretch in them and elasticated waistbands. I wish I could find even one comfortable but stylish pair of jeans - it would make putting together an outfit so much easier.

Most of my wardrobe deemed fit to be seen in public consists of jersey dresses which are all very well in the summer, but come winter I have to grapple with tights which inevitably ride down or cut into my waist like cheesewire in a similar manner to the jeans. I resort to leggings but even finding a simple, well fitting black pair seems like the search for the holy grail to me.

hair no problem 😂

catra long crotch - that's def my eldest daughter to a T and I'm not far off myself. Very annoying.

I wear jersey dresses with leggings in winter - Sainsburys modal leggings (the more expensive ones, £10) are my favourites, thick, good wide waistband, not see through.

Any more recommendations for bras and knickers?

I wonder if I'm tending towards aspergets as I have huge problems with noise and smells and labels/ tight clothing.

The asd thing is interesting as my son has autism and I often wonder if I'm wandering around undiagnosed!

I'm now also rather worried I might be peri-menipausal. Worried as I was hoping to perhaps have another child before I had to worry about things like HRT!

Lots of different Ten Cate briefs on the Debenhams website, any idea which are comfiest?

I have the high tai briefs with lace sides and they are comfy

Also - 'girlfriend' styled jeans are good because they are relaxed without being too loose and saggy

comfort is very important to me OP

I'm quite sure that if I wore whatever shape of certain things I'm "meant" to, I'd be uncomfortable, but the rule is simply I don't do uncomfortable.

I wear big knickers, Ahh Bras (I appreciate that over a certain size that might not work) always a comfy non-itchy fabric and sometimes even the label in a top will annoy me! I've just had to accept that no matter how something might make me look better, if it's not comfortable I'm not buying it. Possibly also have sensory issues, I don't know.

if I find something I like and is flattering and comfortable, I usually buy 2 in different colours.

I made the comfort-before-everything decision long ago.
LandsEnd cotton Lycra trousers, the kind that say they're an alternative to leggings, are around £35 but well worth it. They are very comfortable and keep their shape.

Well, ladies. I was in Tesco and thought I'd pick up one of those pull on crop top sports bras - no use to me when doing actual exercise because the bounce factor would be ridiculous, but fine for when I'm at home and can't deal with the feeling of my normal bra any more, right?

I picked up a large. It looked like it would be too small. I'm a 32ff but generally a size 12 everywhere apart from huge boobs. Picked up an extra large. Tried it on. It didn't even come close to fitting. My boobs were practically under my shin and the band stopped mid boob instead of under them. They looked pornographic in it. Sniggered to self in changing room and took a photo but won't share it with you as don't wish to cause trauma. So that's that idea out then.

Chin. They were under my chin, not my shin. That would be a spectacular amount of sagging.

oh sorry
I don't know if you said your size upthread, I'm a C or D and they're fine for me, also frankly anything with more "support" and uplift makes me look like I'm trying to make a feature of them which annoys me.

Other idea might be sports bra then - the ones I use for running are very comfortable but generally I find sports bras expensive. (when I say I use an Ahh bra I don't actually use that brand, just something similar).

ooops, no, you didn't like sports bras, sorry I missed that earlier.

Afraid I'm out of suggestions in bra terms, sorry.

Oh op you've mad me feel relieved! Yes yes yes....also 12-14 hour glass shape. I only wear crop tops not bras. Live in leggings as they are the only bottoms I feel remotely comfy in. Jeans are awful, virtually unwearable. My neck/shoulders are slim so clothes are wide and always show my straps. I love getting home and getting my comfy clothes on. I could cry sometimes!

oh bored I feel for you

this is also a reason I hate any event that requires dressing up. I'm having less trouble with jeans and trousers than some others here but generally again, I go with what is comfy and looks okay, sometimes I think I'm dressed in clothes that are a bit too big but I just have to be comfy.

I have seen some bizarre thing online that's like the equivalent of those pants that hold you in - for arms. I would go mad. sometimes I think we haven't moved away far enough from corsets.