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Face or body?

26 replies

Imfinehowareyou · 05/03/2017 09:30

There's about a stone's difference between what makes my face (and boobs) look good and what makes my body look its best. For context I'm 42 so have lost that oomph in my face. Even when overweight I still look thin on my face. Anyone in a similar situation?

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Imfinehowareyou · 05/03/2017 18:55

Hopeful bump. Anyone?!

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Gah81 · 05/03/2017 19:31

Exactly the same. I have a long face with big cheekbones so if I lose enough weight that I am down to my ideal weight, I look horribly gaunt.

I have decided to keep the extra weight and just wear clothes that pull me in in the right places, it's just too depressing seeing this hollow-cheeked woman staring back at me whenever I lose weight!

Nettletheelf · 05/03/2017 19:47

Whilst I wouldn't normally take advice from Barbara Cartland(RIP), her advice in these circumstances was, 'have a beautiful face, and sit down' !

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Imfinehowareyou · 05/03/2017 21:26

Face it is then!! Thanks for your replies. I have a long face with high cheekbones too. It doesn't work for me anymore ;-) I like sitting down so that's fine by me Grin

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HotSince82 · 05/03/2017 21:32

Oh God, always choose your face. There's no covering up hollow cheeks and wrinkles but your body can be dressed to its best advantage.

That said, exercise especially weights will help your body look smoother even if above your ideal weight.

Floisme · 05/03/2017 22:07

Hmm... my face has filled out more than the rest of me and, I regret to have to tell you, it has done me no favours whatsoever. However I choose chocolate over them both.

dudsville · 05/03/2017 22:16

Haha, for me it's boobs and curves with a little awkward jiggle in the belly or still belly but no boobs!

CaraAspen · 05/03/2017 23:11

Body.

CointreauVersial · 06/03/2017 00:05

Am I allowed to pick "somewhere in the middle?"

I also go very gaunt if I lose too much weight but really do need to trim down just a little. But, much as I loved being a Size 10, I can't go that slim any more.

hotchocnbiscuit · 06/03/2017 04:22

I'm 37 and I think I look a bit gaunt when very slim. I'm no overweight, but I think my face looks better when I'm not very slim.

KoalaDownUnder · 06/03/2017 04:27

This is interesting.

I'm 43 and I actually think my face looks younger/better when I'm slimmer!

hotchocnbiscuit · 06/03/2017 06:28

I repeated myself a bit there!

user1487175389 · 06/03/2017 06:37

My face is connected to my body, and looks better for the physical exertion of exercise. Maybe it's just me, judging by this thread.

Nettletheelf · 06/03/2017 07:06

I think it's a problem for the cheekbone-y types. If you've got a fuller face to begin with (and no matter how thin I get, I will always have chubby cheeks) it's less of a problem.

I wish I'd known that when I was younger and madly jealous of people with sculpted faces!

user1487175389 · 06/03/2017 07:17

I'm a cheek boney type!

Yeahfine · 06/03/2017 07:20

Body for me as when I'm slimmer I feel better, lighter, move easier and my clothes are more comfortable. Also I think it's the overall effect that's important and that includes your body, posture and clothes.

Diamonddealeroncemore · 06/03/2017 07:22

I too have a long thin face with high cheekbones, I would look awful going back to a size 10 (I'm 56 so my face has definitely started dropping although not completely fallen off the front of my head yet) but I'm currently a 16 which is too big. I'd like to go down to a 12/14 and put up with a few extra curvy bits so my face looks better.

KoalaDownUnder · 06/03/2017 07:26

Mm. I'm not cheekboney (sadly!). Maybe that's the difference.

Rockaby · 06/03/2017 07:33

Face.

I'd rather have a nicer face and less slim body, within reason obviously; I wouldn't do less exercise or deliberately be an unhealthy weight to maintain a wrinkle free face or anything.

Rockaby · 06/03/2017 07:38

Fwiw I look best somewhere in the middle. I look awful with a fat face. I am slightly overweight now and I'm all jowly and my eyes look smaller. Not good.

However, I also look equally awful when on the thin side. I lost loads of weight in my twenties and was borderline underweight. I saw a friend who I hadn't seen in ages and she told me I looked like Gillian McKeith someone a lot older. It wasn't meant as a compliment! Looking back at photos, she kind of had a point...

Floisme · 06/03/2017 08:06

I think it's only certain faces that can get that hollowed out look - it doesn't apply to a lot of us. A fuller face does me no favours whatsoever.

If it's ageing you're thinking about then my experience is that it's sagging rather than wrinkles that does the real damage, and I imagine a fuller face will sag more than a thin one.

Dilligufdarling · 06/03/2017 08:11

I'm another becheeked one who bucks the trend.
Definitely face and body both look better slimmer, and I definitely look younger when I'm slimmer too.

I have very chubby cheeks which have the lovely tendency to turn a bit jowly (sp?) if I get towards a 16.

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Imfinehowareyou · 06/03/2017 10:43

I'm not worried about looking old so much, I just start to look skull like! Then because my face is so underweight people assume I am underweight all over and tell me I'm too thin when I'm not at all. My auntie was telling me how lovely my full face was back when I was 17 and I had no idea what she meant then!

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catinbooots · 06/03/2017 11:08

My face looks sooooo much better/younger when I am thin. I look old now I'm fat

nigelforgotthepassword · 06/03/2017 11:11

Yes when I've got s bit of chub on, day a half stone over my ideal weight my face looks better. Less wrinkly an drawn
But I hate the feeling of being heavier. It's a conundrum, possibly only solved by Botox to which I'm not averse.