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Looking Good, Feeling Crepe.

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CointreauVersial · 23/01/2017 12:55

New thread, anyone?

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GiddyGiddyGoat · 10/02/2017 09:08

What are you up to Rudy you dark horse?!

addle · 10/02/2017 09:29

Auriga, good luck for today.

Good thoughts and hopes to Beachy and BTM.

Crem, hope you're feeling better but also hope you're getting closer to be out of that workplace altogether. Rose hope you feeling better also.

Mrs S your workplace gives me the rage too - just book that sodding week and book another two in the summer - it's just not fair

This week started with a meeting that was giving me sleepless nights - was having to come down hard on something and it had been brewing for months. Didn't come naturally and I took lots and lots of advice from friends and work but so far, so good and I'm glad the first meeting is out of the way. I'm ending the week going to Leighton House today with old old friend which I'm hoping will be over the top glamour and most enjoyable.

Very sorry not to be seeing Hattie and everyone on Saturday but hope you have wonderful time.

Rosebag · 10/02/2017 09:45

Wishing auriga all the best for today...Ill be thinking of you, and really hoping this does the trick. Flowers

Beachy aaaargh for DS stress Flowers but really glad you have booked an exciting holiday . BTM How is the changed regime going?

Well, it would seem that Rudy and her DH are The Wedding Crashers!!!! Curiouser and Curiouser. Confused Grin

Molly Have you cleared up the barf yet...Grin but more importantly, how are you recovering from all that poking and prodding?

And MI why did DD1 cry...is it boy trouble? Sad

BD Remember your oxygen mask sweetie. Its amazing what you're doing for your friend but look after yourself too.

I am ashamed to say I have only just got up and it's not even the weekend yet. I sat up late watching (and shouting loudly at ) QT after finishing teaching a course with a delightful but very, VERY challenging group. Good feedback but a complaint that there wasn't enough time to socialise at the "venue" after the class... Hmm Confused

DD is home today and has a mountain of assignments to get through. I am going to buy chicken to roast and a cholla. And this afternoon to meet BFF for a cuppa. I have not seen DH since Tuesday other than vague evidence of him having come home and slept here. But I AM looking forward to tomorrow's MU. Smile

Rosebag · 10/02/2017 09:46

X post Addle Flowers

motherinferior · 10/02/2017 09:50

I'm still in my dressing-gown Blush. I have run, showered and breakfasted but have NO mojo.

Don't think it was boy trouble - she said she wasn't sad just wanted to cry; I think it's that constant hyped-up state they live in, in y11. Everything cranked up to the max, even the quite equable ones.

herbaceous · 10/02/2017 10:44

I'm wearing fleece-lined tights, surely the world's greatest ever invention. And a heat tech top. And a jumper. And my parka. And I'm inside.

As FB friends will know, I think I'm going to arrange HerbCat's final journey. His life comprises lying on a shoe on the doormat, or staggering to his food, then doing a wee/poo. He just lies and stares into space, and is a bag of bones.

But I don't want to do it on my own, and don't feel I should do it today when DS hasn't had a chance to say goodbye. So it's this evening or tomorrow morning. If the latter, I may be in no fit state for brunching...

NUFC69 · 10/02/2017 10:44

Our poor kids, what are we doing to them? And poor parents, too, trying to keep their heads above the water, run challenging jobs and be good parents. Hugs to those of you in this position.

Good luck today, Auriga. Sends positive vibes ....

Why can't people just take turns with regards to holidays? I hope you can get something sorted, MrsS.

I had a bit of a mishap yesterday with the exercise bike (stupid, stupid woman, that I am) so have been suffering since then. Walking very painful, but at least I didn't do any damage.

We have a dusting of snow so DH not cycling today, although we might go out for a bit this afternoon. Very envious of Rudy in Australia.

NUFC69 · 10/02/2017 10:46

Cross post, Herbs. So sorry, but yes to letting DS say goodbye. Will be thinking of you.

motherinferior · 10/02/2017 10:54

Herbs, I'm so sorry.

NU, you are not stupid.

Re kids: I'm not sure how much they're under more stress today and how much it is that this is now recognised.

NUFC69 · 10/02/2017 11:27

MI, I think there is far more pressure on kids to be perfect in every way: social media has a lot to answer for. I do think that in the past we just got on with things, because we knew no better.

motherinferior · 10/02/2017 11:30

Yes, I do take your point - but I also think plenty of us were unhappy/screwed up/depressed/anorexic in the 1970s, just looking at my immediate family.

Cremolafoam · 10/02/2017 11:34

I think so too NU. Sorry you had a mishap. And you are not stupid. ( that word is banned in this house)
Hope the hip and leg are better today.

Herbs, fwiw, I think , when you describe poor Herbcat, that it's time. He sounds very close to where we were with Cremcat at the end. Ds will probably be his pragmatic best, but yes to saying bye bye and letting puss go to cat heaven.Sad

Rudy! How dare you go to Oz on the sly.Envy

I am off for a chest X-ray this morning. Massive queue here at the hospital. Yawn.

Rosebag · 10/02/2017 11:44

Poor herbcat. You're doing the right thing. [flower] Sad

NU I hope you're ok. What have you been up to. I am also talking to you on the hourglass thread Grin

I think you're probably right, Mi but the context has changed. Early identification has got to be a good thing. But I also worry that there's a lot of band wagon jumping too. Because of social media. I remember my DM even being concerned about me reading Jackie in case it Gave Me Ideas.
thank goodness she didn't know I was already reading Cosmo by then

All of DDs friends seem to have their own personal brand of anxiety, and their special kind of food intolerance. I'm torn between wanting to help and support, and wanting to just holler MTFUP. And all this attention grabbing must be pushing to the back the kids with genuine problems, who still might not be getting the treatment they need. Dunno. It scares me.

Rosebag · 10/02/2017 11:45

Good luck crem. Xx

Auriga · 10/02/2017 11:53

Herbs, we're in the same boat. Aurigacat was pleased to see me yesterday, jumping on my knee, demanding strokes, lively and sociable. Today she is staring and staggery, seems to have forgotten how to lap properly and only wants to be on the couch, facing the wrong way.

Still purrs a happy purr when I tickle her, though, and has taken a little milk, water and food. Have spoken to vet nurse, who has nothing else to suggest. DH wants to wait and see, says she was like this a week ago and it didn't last long. I'm ashamed of being so upset over an ancient cat. Didn't lose it like this over my DM, although this is a bit like a parody recapitulation of her last illness Sad

herbaceous · 10/02/2017 11:59

He does purr if I tickle him, but only a little, not like his motor of even a week ago. And he can't even jump on to a dining chair, whereas last week he was jumping on to the countertop. And he's all greasy and dirty, as he can't wash himself.

I'm now prepared, and hope that the vet doesn't talk me out of it. I am going to be hysterical when the time comes. Being emotional about animals is somehow 'safer' than people, isn't it. They're not as enmeshed with our psyche, and provide a safe outlet for pain and love.

BeachysSnowyWellieBoots · 10/02/2017 16:04

Oh poor you, Herbs, mini Herbs and Herbcat. They always say you know, and it sounds like you know. They won't try to talk you out of it, I'm sure.

My dsis lost her cat last week; she was 17 years old and much loved. Her vet was lovely and a real comfort to her.

Ds here today, not surprisingly. Seems well enough to play on his phone, request a sleepover at his mates but the English and History essays seem to be a little too challenging Hmm. I'm veering from massively sad and anxious myself to pretty annoyed and frustrated. An old colleague mentioned a 3-6 month contract in Edinburgh. That would take me nicely past GCSE's, wouldn't it Grin Tempted......

Very jealous of Rudy and wondering if Cloud's rain ever stopped?

bigTillyMint · 10/02/2017 16:29

Sorry to hear of very ill cats - if their time has come it is the kindest thing to do. But obviously very upsetting.

Beachy, DS is also on the fear of failing GCSES bench. I think there are probably thousands of them on the bench. It's hard to know what to do for the best and I'd like to run away too.

Cremo, how did your chest xray go?

Cremolafoam · 10/02/2017 17:54

''Twas fine thanks BTM. Fairly routine. Will know more once gp has results next week. Think it's only a precaution really with the anaemia.

Sorry to hear ds home again Beachy. My niece is another one whose revision books look a bit unread.

Dd had long awaited meeting with psychiatric doc today, and she has suggested dd should have talking therapy for her MH issues. So we are looking for this privately as the queue for NHS is startlingly long. Dd also has her finals to get through this year so looking now to get the right person to fill the gap. Dd has finally come round to the idea of talking therapy. I have felt a bit wrung out by the build up to this apptment but am glad something at least has been decided.

Wondering how things are your end Stropps ?

bigTillyMint · 10/02/2017 19:42

Crikey Cremo, finals already? She only went last year???Grin
It sounds like she is wanting to accept help - that's good.

MrsSchadenfreude · 10/02/2017 20:16

Herbs and Auriga, when we had my elderly DPuss PTS, we knew it was time - the vet told us we would know, and we did. It was very peaceful and calm, she was on a blanket in the kitchen, with me stroking her. She purred, and she hadn't purred for months, and I think she was pleased to go. It was still very sad, but I felt better that it had been a peaceful end.

I have had the week from hell, and the cherry on the icing of the cake was our head of dept passing a chunk of my work to TYM, without telling me she was doing so. (It was not something that he deals with at all, so most bizarre.) She said lamely that I "seemed very busy and thought it would help".Had a drink with That Colleague tonight and we had a pleasing bitchfest about her and her utter incompetence.

I have confirmed the booking for tomorrow, and will try and get there a bit early. I cannot remember who is coming, but my brain is fried after this week.

herbaceous · 10/02/2017 20:47

The deed is done. It was the right thing to do - he'd had an amazing life force, and for the last couple of days that had gone. He was just existing.

The lovely vet was so gentle and understanding. Through my sobs I said 'please tell me I'm doing the right thing' and she said that she has often refused to out animals to sleep, if she didn't think it was right. But in Herbcat's case, she had no hesitation.

I stayed holding him while he got the injection, then was left to say goodbye. We came home with an empty cat carrier. Always a sad sight.

And yes - mrs s. He purred for the first time in days.

bigTillyMint · 10/02/2017 20:55

Aww HerbsFlowers
Hope you can come tomorrow and we can cheer you up.

hattymattie · 10/02/2017 21:00

Haven't caught up but just checking in very briefly to say I'm sorry about poor Herb cat but it sounds like it was the kindest thing to do. Hope to see you tomorrow.xx

Auriga · 10/02/2017 21:39

I'm home, procedure was uncomfortable but brief and staff were kind. AurigaCat still alive but hasn't eaten, drunk or peed since late morning. She's lying in her favourite chair (i.e. my chair) by the fire & we've moved everything she might want into the sitting room. If she doesn't slip away tonight I'll ask if the vet can come tomorrow Sad

Have a great meet-up everyone