A Crepey Advent-ure

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Over here, my darlings....

Dear gottimhimmel, MrsS, wtf?????

MrsS, do her grades count to her final mark or is it all exam-based?
You are right to send a strong email to the HT - it looks like no-one really cares that much and they are just leaving her to it.

Bad start today - still haven't left the house, but was to be expected.

MrsS, I can't believe what these schools come up with. Grades that bad should not just arrive out of the blue. And the IT calendar system. This stuff isn't rocket science, or about money, IMO/E. It is basic competence and there are cheap, effective off the peg solutions I think.

Cocoa, you are so right about sharp relief but also about not rushing at anything. Awww about ds.

MI, hurrah!

In sandals news, considering splashing out on these as they tick several boxes: any views?

And I have an interview for a bit of lecturing.

Sandals - yes MI.

Mrs s you must be going mental. F-ing school.

DH said last night that he hasn't enjoyed himself for years. When challenged, he did change it to 'feels like years'. It's so sad and I feel like I'm running to stop it bringing me down too - downloading fun music! Wearing favourite clothes! Smiling and having nice interactions with those I meet!

Parental extremes last night: dd2 yelling combos of 'I hate you... burn in hell' etc all the way back to collect the card I'd forgotten for her athletics. There was no point in trying to shout her down until we were nearly back when she had tired, at which point I calmly said 'if there is one more word of that there will be x consequence'. After athletics I said it was horrible to talk to someone like that and she had to find a better way to deal with her disappointment. She is on a warning and won't get to go to her old school fair if she steps out of line.

Dd2 on other hand told me all her friends loved me, which felt amazing.

I worry about Dd1. She wants to push me til I lose it. Has been this way for years. DH v neg and on at her at mo. Last night was extreme no?

Rudy why would the want to shut you out?

WAF - extreme but not unusual behaviour. Sorry about DH. I suspect that's me in my relationship .... hmm... food for thought

Rudy. That is hard. I am so sorry.

WAF, that also does sound extreme.

Sandals to wear with Indian narrow churidar or with salwar - agree about the white sole but they do look supportive which is important.

They're actually walking sandals

DSis coming to stay tonight. Have rashly promised nice supper and now realise we are out of onions and I have a 1pm interview scheduled so will nip out to the corner shop now!

Rudy that is awful. Dosen't your DH want to say something to them?

MI - I really like those sandals.

That's shocking, Rudy.

that's awful Rudy. It would be so, anyway, but given what your family has been through recently....

You are married to him - you should turn up anyway!

Rudy, WTAF? They have invited him on a 2 week hol but not you (never mind all the other stuff) - that's beyond awful And you are lovely - how could they want to exclude you? Is it the whole of his family or just certain mad me

Members?

WAF, agree with Rudy - not unusual for a teen girl IMHE. Sounds like you dealt with it admirably. Sorry to hear your DH feels like that. Is he a catastrophizer or does he really feel like that all the time?

Rudy, it's extremely rude behaviour, but hard, I imagine to call them on it, because WHAT MOTIVATION COULD YOU POSSIBLY HAVE FOR WANTING IT SORTED WHEN THE REWARD WOUL BE HAVING TO SPEND TIME WITH RUDE PEOPLE

They only demean themselves. Why don't we sneak my DD2 along to yell at them? She is 12 by the way, year 7. She's the one who asked me aged 2 why I'd had DD1 first. She has never forgiven me. She has anger around my book taking so much of my time, and has just always whacked at the boundaries. Have spent her life saying 'try again as a polite request, and we'll see,' and 'you could get far better service from me if you asked nicely.'
She thinks I'm selfish I am.

Thanks BTM. DH is not a catatastrophiser. He's pretty stoical usually although his parents are gloomy. His dad has been know to say 'Don't get your hopes up in case you're disappointed,' and 'A trouble shared is a trouble doubled.'

Deep sigh.

Rudy, no that's just rude. I understand that you don't want to give it any more energy that is strictly necessary, but what is their problem. Who is at the core of it? Is it to do with religion or something?
Completely sad for you.

And for you BTM.

And for you Wafster. God it's hard to be around that level of sadness. It's such a hatefully selfish condition, in many ways. I know how much it costs emotionally not to be furious. for your fortitude dearest Waf

Cool shoes MI. Likey.

It is so warm here today ( 16 degrees) I have flung open all the windows and folding doors to let the outside in. It is nice to be able to do this at this time of year, as we are normally used to living a hermetically sealed existence , lest the thermal units escape out the cracks. #Weirdweather

Cocoa, I am so sorry dh thinks like he does, and puts Very Recent bereavement and Important Work in the same category. Is he aware of the precarious nature of the subs bench? Perhaps an email to his work inbox might tip the balance. ?

I am writing Christmas cards in a desultory fashion, and not in the joy-spreading way one is supposed to. Bah humbug.