In Crepey Remembrance Of CremCat Past

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Hope that's an OK unilateral decision!

Oh God Addle, I had no idea things were so difficult. He needs to get help, for his sake and for the sake of the rest of you. Do keep talking to us about it if it helps.

Crem? What's up?

My Saturday night not soon great. Shut in ground floor room with TV on VERY LOUD with dh and DevilDog barking incessantly at all the fireworks and like a tantrumming toddler, she's got in such a state she can't stop. It is unbearable. Only upside am watching something so bad it's good on Netflix - 'My Crazy Ex Girlfriend' - a cross between a rom com and a musical.

On the subject of tea my absolute favourite is this, known as 'pink tea' in this house

Having stilted conversation with an Italian priest in French. Hard work.

Addie, echo what others have said - look after yourself. And BTM, hoorah for two weeks off.

Poor hound GGG. I always feel so sorry for the beloved animaux, on and around fireworks going off.

Dh is simmering about his DM who is operating a war of attrition about Christmas Day. He is trying to get me to invite her over when I have put my foot down about NOT Cooking this year because of working Xmas eve and Boxing Day, as well as untold number of hours prior to Xmas. Apparently according to dh I'm being un-daughter in lawly. He's disproportionately furious ( missing the cat) and I'm disproportionately unfeisty and weepy. ( missing the cat) Cremcat was clearly acting as an emotional buffer between us. It will all be solved tomorrow, I'm sure.

Oh Addle, you must feel quite helpless. I hope he decides to get some help.

Stay firm, Crem. You absolutely are allowed to Say No. Unless there's a compromise - dinner at the local pub?

Poor dog, GGG. She'd be going nuts round here - it's like living in a war zone with all the banging and flashing. This time 17 years ago, I was listening to the fireworks between contractions - it's PFB's 17th birthday tomorrow. The L-Plates are wrapped and ready. He's out at the moment, watching the Brockham bonfire (which some idiots tried to set alight a couple of days ago; they had the fire brigade out then had to work through the night to rebuild it all. ).

What am I happy about today? Well....

The wallpaper is all off DD1's bedroom (oh, the mould).
I found some "clearance" choc advent calendars in Thorntons, and the naice young man piped the DCs' names onto them for me.
DS had to phone the bank today to sort out an issue with his statements, and he was so professional and grown-up on the phone - sounds daft, but I was so proud of him.

Crem, he knows where the cooker is.

Addle, so sorry.

We went and watched fireworks in the local park. Now back and reading one of my new novels on the sofa - warm at last! - while DP watches Star Trek.

addle sorry. Just a big fat sorry you're going through this

It's been an odd evening here, too. DS out at local fireworks and getting pissed with mates. DH and I doing fine until I lose my mobile. I need it to organise something for DHs benefit. Cannot find phone anywhere. Look high and low. Not been without it for long. Start to get teary about it.

DH then finds it in his jacket pocket, as he'd put it there for safekeeping about 20 mins previously. Doesn't apologise. Gets all arsy and defensive instead of 'Oh sorry darling'.

And I lose it. Completely lose it. About DF, supporting DM through these dark times about everything... I am now a mess. DH gone into 'Lets find a solution' mode. I'm trying to tell him that the situation is not resolve able with a 'Solution'. We're waiting for my Dad to go. It's a waiting game.

It's late and I should gather my wits and sleep. Will ponder tomorrow's Reasons To Be Cheerful 1-2-3.

Oh Cocoa. Not surprising that something so "trivial" tips you over the edge....you are dealing with so much. Losing it can be therapeutic, so try to have a good sleep and hopefully things will feel more on an even keel tomorrow. Even though things can't be fixed....

Booming music erupting from DS's room.....it's In Da Club by Fifty Cent.....altogether now......"It's your birthday! We gon' party like it's yo birthday"

Addle, no advice from me but a dog walk in the woods if that would help?

Cocoa, I've just had a mega-strop over something trivial too. That's what grief can do to you. No surprise, really.

DH so worried about the US election that he can't sleep Hope against hope that it's not as bad as he fears.

Addle, carvings; photos.... that's the saddest thing ever. Like he's trying to get rid of himself. Very distressing. Please see someone if you feel your anxiety is high. Monkeys/zoo/oxygen mask. Xxxxxxx

Crem and Cocoa thoughts out to you both for horrid rows in bad times.

We are in New Forest for caravan weekend. DH tells me he slept last night thank goodness. Friday night not at all. Yesterday hard. All the kids having fun. Our mates said to me 'What the heck is wrong with you two?'

Friend is a therapist. Hope he and DH will have a chat today but it won't be DH starting convoy. Why won't men do the best thing for themselves and their families?

In unbelievably brilliant news: last week was spent batting back and forth final changes and:

AGENT HAS SENT BOOK OUT TO TEN EDITORS

Had ridiculous dream she picked me up on my local high street to meet two bit I wanted to change first as I was dressed like Stevie Nicks which I knew wasn't quire right.

Have not worked this weekend. First in about 2 months.

Hello Crepies - have missed a day, a very difficult one, for lots of crepies. Auriga - apparently 40% of Americans have already voted (not sure how this works) and Hillary is just ahead so keeping fingers crossed.

Addle - very hard with DH - especially if he won't help himself.

Crem - agree with MI - can DH not help - at least do the prepping or, could it be delegated to MiLwhich would keep her usefully occupied (although I guess that would mean arriving sooner).

Cocoa - sorry to hear about minor dispute blowing up - I think many men just back into defence mode rather than apologise - it seems to be an automatic setting - (thinks of own DH). Hope things are better having slept on it.

DD2 had a minor meltdown over the internet because her laptop charger is broken - she reckoned the only one that would work is one from Amazon France, which we would have to order and send on to her. Found her an equivalent on Amazon UK which she pronounced too expensive £12.50 . Said would reimburse her. What gets me is there is never one word of thanks, and she only checks in when she needs something - very immature compared to DD1 or even DS!

Addled so very very sorry.
Cremo hope it's better this morning. Likewise cocoa...

Is there something in the air?

WAF, great that you are having a hol with a therapist - could be the first step? And fab about your book!

Yeah Cremo, your DH loves cooking - leave it to him and you can eat macarons and pastries instead of turkey

Hatty, that sounds very familiar re laptop charger

Addle, would a BP walk and chat help?

Had a good night round at friends for annual fireworks and DS made it too

Thanks Crepeys for making soothing noises in my direction. Feel bit better this morning.
Not yet up for posting today's cheerful reasons, but sun is shining... And that's a start.

Word great news re agents. Sorry You're having trouble with DH, too. Must be a bit 'brisk' in the New Forest this morning.

Addle - is there anything we can do?

I hope we all have a better day.

Brilliant news about the book, WAF.

Addle, living with someone with MH problems is just awful.

Another person who is dreading Wednesday - just hope it's not the crown on such a shitty year.

Cocoa - v frosty. Slept in 2 pairs socks, pjs, vest, heat tech top and cashmere jumper!

Ponies later. Will post pic.

Herbs - v sad re dp/mum situation. Commiserations on hob, and such a bastardly long wait.

Hatty - yes, yes. I hate having to prompt thank you. Its one of my absolute fave things to hear, too.

Job!

Crem "Undaughter-in-lawly is my middle name. Huge sympathies....of course you shouldn't do all that cooking when you are working virtually the whole holiday. Book restaurant? You need looking after too.

Cocoa Hope things calm down today.

Addle how was the night....has DH rallied a bit this morning? Thinking of you

WAF what absolutely fantastic news...about your book On the other matter...I this men do think they are doing the best for everyone...they then become entrenched when criticised....Sigh...

I sympathise Hatty Don't you ever wish DC/DH's would come to us with solutions rather them problems....stuff is only ever broken, lost or not good enough.

DD ended up stranded in N10 last night trying to get home in the dark from new friend...I had forgotten that there is a monumentally huge public firework display in the area for which many roads are closed and buses diverted. So I had to dash out and get her, not knowing exactly where she was....in terrible snarled traffic. 15 minute journey took an hour and a half. Primal scream...

Addle - so sorry to read your posts. How are things today? Sending you huge hugs

Cocoa - love to you too.

WAF - totally brill news on the book. Thrilled for you.

Am being badgered to make cinnamon rolls. Back later.

X posted and missed WAF - fantastic news - can we all have a signed copy when you're famous?

Monty - cinnamon rolls sounds good.

Rose, surely she could have walked it quicker?!

Monty, cinnamon rolls, mmmmmm

Sorry for those dealing with annoying/argumentative/ill DH's/DP's. My DH and I argue quite a bit - usually me going on at him in frustration (which the DC usually agree is totally justified) and then him trying to deflect accusations... but we don't stew after, we move on.

How funny, Monty, I was just contemplating cinnamon rolls. Do you make yours with a caramel sauce on the bottom that soaks into the rolls when you up end the tin?

WAF I am very pleased for you and trying not to combust with envy

Addle, I hope today is not so grim?

Cocoa, my DP retreats into Aggressive Defensiveness if he messed up while considering it a personal slight if I e.g. switch off the light before he gets to bed.

Am going swimming. DD1 has gone to local cinema with boyf. Asked DD2 to take out the recycling and she gave excellent impression of Solzhenitsyn being packed off to the gulag once again. I stood firm.