The Naked Crepe

[MrsSchadenfreude]

Psst, over here!

Loving vision of mini Herbs holding forth to group of enthusiastic Crepeys! He sounds such a wonderful lad. Molly, we are here.

Stropps, that all sounds so good. And so good that she recognises that things like bedroom tidying and managing nights out are important in keeping her on track. I know they don't always stick to it, but knowing it is a good base. Sounds as if the meds help her to see things clearly, so as you say she can do the right things to build confidence? I am so pleased for you.

I shall round you all up for next Thursday, when the club is next running. Will circulate lyrics for song, so you can start practising. It doesn't have a discernible tune, so don't worry about that aspect.

Progress - have booked room for the grammar course I intend to teach! Go me!

A very crepey delurking here to point you to this article about university students and mental health, which some of you might find of interest. here

I think you're all wonderful, by the way!

BD, yes, she said she supposed it was Ff. She is throwing up and has a temperature today and did send a Fb message asking for advice. I advised cooled boiled water and investigating the contents of the medicine/ first aid bag I gave her (this advice also works in the case of a bad hangover, of course ) And having some plain boiled rice later. But she also said that "on the plus side, my loan money arrived."

Thanks for that link, Bluebellation! Stay and play
Reading the article caused me to remember I was a regular Nightline user in my first year at university. And various other services of that ilk. But that did earn me the nickname "Mad Stropps" - which people were still referencing at a reunion 25 years after graduation. Things may have changed a bit.

Good link Bluebellation (and Sheff is on DD's list!)

Stropps, that's great - definitely learning daily to take more stuff in her stride and not catastrophise immediately. Long may it continue!

Herbs, go you with your grammar course!

I have been headhunted for an editor's job. Full time. Though nearby. Prestigious home interest title. I told the recruitment person I'm a bit out of the game, but she's still interested. I think they've got the wrong person.

Amazing, Herbs. You are a

Woo Herbs get you!

Don't really know what to do! In some ways, would be great to be back in the game, but a) I'd never see DS b) it would be super stressful and c) I've just spent two years and god knows how many £££££ retraining to be a teacher.

Demand a jobshare?

What does you gut tell you? When you first got the call what was your instant thought/reaction?
and as for your list:
a. is that true, or is it just you'd see him less?
b. is it manageable stress - would you thrive on it?
c. irrelevant....

Hmm, tricky. But couldn't you give the editing job a whirl and see how it goes? You know in a fairly short time whether it's really for you or not.

I dream of being headhunted.....

Dh is constantly headhunted. It's bloody annoying. Plus yesterday he did a training course and they utterly adored him.

However, he has his uses.

Gut says: 'exciting' but 'bloody hard work' and 'what would the staff be like'.

Also, I do enjoy the teaching. Maybe I could also keep going with my grammar course, and tutoring?

It's a small world. A spot of googling has revealed that the previous editor was someone who used to be very junior to me in my former editor role. She has been on maternity leave, which was covered by another ex-colleague, also previously junior to me but with whom I got on well.

These things matter!

At Beachy's advice, I removed the negative self-doubting comment from my FB post!

so can you have an informal chat to get the inside track??

Gosh, herbs that's quite a thing. Maybe look into it a bit more before ruling out of court? Well done ...very good for the self esteem, even if it doesn't happen. Sorry about DSs sweet little club. Kids are so vile sometimes, but you're probably more upset than him!

waf sorry for the Dh angst.

stropps things sound ok with Dd despite flu and barfing. She's rallied and you can keep a small part of your headspace for yourself I hope.

That's interesting, MrsW ... I am wondering whether women feel they have to take on so much more in order to prove themselves. It's never a level playing field is it?

How's the course CV ?

tilly I meant to post how impressed I was with your DSs progress at work experience. Can you get him to make pies for you at home as well?

Thanks for the link Blue

I am in a very strange place, emotionally. I feel very distanced and disengaged from everything. DH has only been home one evening this week. DS2 is at uni and all seems well, as we only get one word texts except when he was complaining about the cost of his essential texts.... . DD is having a whale of a time and her social life is really picking up, new friends and old. I am just this middle aged lump with the odd little project but nothing much else. And I've been comfort eating for England. I am working incredibly hard on the play with no help or support from ConS whatsoever. I am petrified of it all failing...and then what?

Herbs, you have to go for it! I believe strongly in fate/things happening for a reason. Take the chance and go for it - you can always pack it in if it really turns out yo be not what you want.
And remember, though DS is small and cute now, he will want to spend more snd more time with his peers as he gets older - not picking him up from school, etc may not actually be as heart-wrenching for you as it feels now. (See Roses post)
And

Rose it must feel really strange all of a sudden. Time to contemplate a new challenge?

TFTF! Apparently DS has made a plum and almond tart today. I am growing fatter rapidly just thinking about it

The more I think about it the more exciting it is. I now feel much more confident dealing with underlings than I did when I left, and could get right back into the old world very willingly.

I don't normally believe in fate, and stuff happening for a reason, but this feels riiiiiight.

Rose - there's a whole lotta change going on with you, so you're bound to feel unsettled. There is absolutely No Reason why the play will fail. I have put myself down for the reading, and will come and cheer, swoon and clap at appropriate moments.

So excited for you, Herbs! I like your philosophy, BTM. Rose, it will not fail!

How exciting, Herbs! I think you should go for it and see what happens, it sounds great and you've nothing to lose by applying. Brilliant news.

Rose, I feel you . I have just been sent details of a job I should apply for but I don't want to. Don't know what I want.

I think bereavement can make you feel disengaged, to protect yourself perhaps? It is just so tiring to feel everything. for all.

I have managed to stick head above my regular volunteering parapet for a couple of worthwhile but slightly tiring/scary gigs. And apply for dh's passport in the wrong name. Good work, eh?

Now I've got myself all excited, and will be disappointed not to get it! Still, has focused the mind on what it is I do want. Innit.

I'm a bit (!) older than most of you, so thankfully have finished with exam/uni stress, and both my parents died when I was in my thirties, so I don't have that worry either (though very sad my mum never got to see her grandchildren grow up).

I do wish I'd had a support group like you lot at various times in my life though; the encouragement and advice you give each other is priceless. So I'd love to join in and hopefully add my experiences to yours, if you'll have me!