Someone left a Crepe out in the rain

[BeachysSandyFlipFlops]

Here we go, ready for the Autumn.....

Teenage party not going so well

[motherinferior]

Stropps. Hell.

[magimedi]

Stropps - hope DD gets the help she needs. WHen DS was in a state it took me leaving him & a lovely nurse persuaded him to accept tratment.

Rudy - very pleased to hear DS is out of HDU.

Sympathy to all with sore throats and/or hangovers.

And for WAF - living with someone with mental illness is not easy.

[bigTillyMint]

WAF, sorry to hear that your DH is suffering again and I hope he can get the help he needs sorted.
Also sorry to hear your DD2 has been pestering you! But good news on the bf front I can't remember - are yours going into Y11 and Y9 this year?

I am baking cakes to take into work tomorrow and trying to make myself heard on the phone - not easy when you have lost your voice!

[wordassociationfootball]

Thanks Magi and BTM. BTM, they're going into Y10 and Y7.

CV - dd1 and Beach Boy are hundreds of miles apart.... but maybe that has upsides she is still 14

[bigTillyMint]

Ah OK, I must remember now WAF!

[herbaceous]

Oh lordy, stropps. Could this perversely be a good thing, as she will be Taken Charge of and someone other than you telling her to sort it out?

Vague relocation plan is for house in Durham - lovely, but lots to do and good schools - with weekend/holiday/rental income place on Northumberland coast. Durham house would have ample guest space for all! It would take 4hrs 15 to drive from Durham to my parents! At the mo, it takes 1hr 15. So, hmmmm.

[bigTillyMint]

4h15 is faster than it takes from ours to DMs when DH drives I can do it in that if I leave very early! so maybe it's not too far?
What about job-wise?

[herbaceous]

It's at the limit of how far would be OK, I think. I couldn't do there and back in a day, really, which I can now. Jobs-wise, I've had a little looksee, and there are loads of all sorts of jobs at the university. I'm imagining I could also do private tutoring, tapping into the lucrative 'paranoid middle class' market. Or just do a nice soothing low-paid admin job, as we won't have a mortgage to pay!

Not entirely sure what DP would do, mind you.

[bigTillyMint]

Oh no, it's too far for there and back in a day. And it means that you can't visit frequently either as it just takes too much time and energy. So not great if there is an ongoing problem that needs to be sorted IYSWIM.
TBH, it is much easier that DM is in a home and I know she is safe and looked after as there is no way I could have kept up with frequent visiting.

Could your DP do something at the uni too? Or would he need a different kind of job - would there be any more possibilities in Newcastle?

[Blackduck]

Stropps :(
So very sorry.....

WAF likewise re DH - and thank you - yes sometimes getting bladdered is the only answer...

Herbs oh to be mortgage-free (I will be about 182 before that happens). What does do currently do?

[motherinferior]

Herbs, a word of caution - I know Newcastle has a superfluity of qualified types looking for interesting jobs...don't know about the vicinity though. And am doubtless being Negative and Embittered.

[motherinferior]

Herbs, a word of caution - I know Newcastle has a superfluity of qualified types looking for interesting jobs...don't know about the vicinity though. And am doubtless being Negative and Embittered.

[Rosebag]

Oh dear god stropps. Keep us updated. Lots of hugs and hand holding from this end

tilly stop just stop. Voice rest from now, this minute. Take from me... Teachers are our biggest client group. Even more than performers...

Will catch up properly soon. Have just spent a most pleasant afternoon at the new Everyman seeing woody Allen movie. We had sofas and waiter service in front of the movie. Houmous and flat bread followed by chocolate brownies and tea. Lots of wine being served too, I noticed. And no vile smell of popcorn which I loathe. It is on sale but not many people were eating it. I could get used to this...

[bigTillyMint]

Sounds like our new and very lovely cinema which has given me 2 free tickets to a film this week!

[MrsSchadenfreude]

Rose, that sounds DIVINE. I am also not a big fan of popcorn.

Stropps - keep us updated when you can, and sending you love and strength.

I feel exhausted after my holiday - so tired that I had to have a nap this afternoon, which isn't like me. And not looking forward to going back to work tomorrow (particularly seeing my colleague, as haven't seen or had any contact with him since our row at Waterloo). Will be fine. It has to be.

[Stropperella]

Emergency services have departed. Dd did not manage to poison herself, despite her best efforts. And continues to refuse to entertain the idea of counselling/therapy. And it's all up to her, so effectively it is all very much still my problem. What jolly fun this parenting lark is. This is putting a monstrous strain on my relationship with dh. This morning he said we need to kick her out and change the locks. And that was before today's drama kicked off.

Life, eh?

[Lalsy]

Oh Stropps so sorry. What tension you have all lived with for so long. Glad dd is physically okay.

[motherinferior]

Stropps, how close is she to needing sectioning?

[magimedi]

As MI has asked that question I'll say that when DS was so bad (drug induced psychosis) he was within 10 minutes of being sectioned (police involved) but he then accepted treatment. At that point I'd have been quite happy for it to happen for his own protection.

Stropps - it's so awful.

[CointreauVersial]

Strops - I'm guessing she's off her meds.....

[bigTillyMint]

Isn't it a sad sign of the times that so many of us have had to support our DC with MH stuff. When did life get so hard?

[GiddyGiddyGoat]

Oh God Stropps, very sorry to hear about latest drama that has landed on you. Do you think she's really scared and worried about the 'next step'? I think that transition from school to whatever's next is such a hard one for all of them and of course 1000 x harder if you're struggling already for whatever reason. What else can you do except be there for her and stand beside her? I can only imagine what a strain it must be on you and your dh - but that's not helpful for any of you atm is it really? He needs to support you in this - whatever form that needs to take. Do vent on here and keep us posted. X

Rudy, so pleased ds is out of HDU and you have had a chance to catch your breath. Fingers still crossed for things to improve steadily.

Sympathy to all facing that Sunday evening before back to school feeling. Hate that feeling!

Herbs, you sound pretty serious about huge life changes!

[magimedi]

In my case it was about 12 years ago, BTM. I think there's always been a lot of MH issues around. Thankfully people are starting to be far more open about it.

[Stropperella]

CV, um, no, she took a whole load of them at once. The police were there because of the history of violence (there was a bad incident this time last year) but they stayed outside as it became clear today's situation was de-escalated. Dh said he was expecting a fire engine to also roll up and the coastguard helicopter to land in the back garden. I told him not to tempt fate.
She is currently in no way sectionable.
She had a medical procedure last week which has not helped her state of mind.

[MontserratCaballe]

So sorry to read this, Stropps. My poor dad battled with MH issues throughout his lifeand was sectioned several times - first time when I was 17. It is so frightening and enervating for all concerned. Sending you much love and strength.

Rudy, how are you doing? Hope your ds is feeling a little better.

Crem, how is your dad today?

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