how to wear scarves so I don't look middle aged and frumpy?

[MyVisionsComeFromSoup]

even though I am probably . Pain consultant has told me off for wearing "inappropriate clothes" AKA T-shirts which don't cover my neck, and that I need to wear scarves (to stop the muscles getting cold, contracting and making my nerve pain worse).

But, I'm overweight, big-boobed and mid forties, so very much in danger of getting it wrong. The DDs fling scarves on and look fabulous, I do the same and they make me take it off for fear of embarrassing them

So, any tips? Tutorials? Do's and Don'ts?

Alex Polizzi was rocking a great one this week on Hotel Inspector. Blue print. Looked great.

My 70 yo DM has come up with a technique, tie a knot in the middle, put that on your chest, then wrap both ends around your neck. Then just tuck the ends into the knot and it reduces the bulk up front. Haven't run it past my "you're not going out looking like that!" teens, but I'm thinking it might be ok

Also she recommends silk scarves rather than cotton as they're cooler, but accepted that perhaps she had more disposable income than me
Although Patrick on Sewing Bee was recommending charity shops for silk scarves the other week, and I do live in a very MC area [ponders]