The Crepey Buds Of May

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Err, how did that happen with no one noticing!
It's because we're all on the dark and stormy, sloe gin and prosecco innit.

Sorry for the not v inspired title but I panicked.

Stropps, result with DD on the financial front! And the Important Person!
Good that she is still soldiering on with the exams too.
I would go veggie - hope they aren't staying too long

Good Luck with the appointment today, MrsS.

I am exhausted after another night of DH tossing and turning, but I am trying to hold it together as DD is very wobbly this morning (after a melt-down last night) and I have offered to take her in for the Eng Lit exam.

MI big {{ }} . Having a child doesn't change someone's underlying nature/needs. It must have been awful to live with some one so frustrated (reflects on own life) - reminds me a lot of my dads my other and the impact on dad and his sister...

Is it not the case that one's public face is different from the private one. How our children really see us may not coincide with what we'd like the world at large to think. And oh, how hard we as mothers, sometimes have to work not to either live through our children or show we're disappointed when they don't look or perform like we imagined they would.... MI your DM's obituary was impressive in her particular area. You are in yours. Sadly, if she couldn't see that (she probably could you know...) her life was poorer for it. Disappointment has a lot to answer for. The ripples move through the generations right from birth.....that's why it's the main and reoccurring theme of my play......

Today I am cowering speaking at a 3 hour meeting with our CEO. How do I get myself into these messes?

Thinking of you MrsS

Good luck to DD Tilly She'll be ok once she gets going.

MI, I suspect the public and private are often very different for people who have great talent.....? You face the truth so squarely, with such courage and clarity, it will feel raw at first. She missed a lot, not knowing you better for so long. I am glad you had that bit of time together at the end. Enjoy Sardinia, indulge in everything possible.

Stropps, you made me laugh too. Good for dd, retaining financial sense in midst of exam grief. Avoid sweets especially marshmallows as they are often not halal, apparently.

MrsS, good luck today.

Yes, I once had to point this out to DP WHO OUGHT TO KNOW THIS AS HIS DAD WAS THE SODDING MUSLIM

I am also getting very unreasonably annoyed by the people who say nicely 'ah, that is where you get it from'. My mother knew BOG ALL about the stuff I am writing about (and this is why)...

It is entirely possible I am not as Back to Normal as I think.

All the best for the clinic MrsS

Yes, MI I can see that would be tres annoying.....

You are your own person. (and a fab one at that)

Good Luck MrsS

And best of luck from me too.

MI - agree that constant comparisons would drive me up the wall - the public/private thing sounds spot on.

Mrs S - how could I have forgotten - good luck for the clinic.

Am going to the hairdresser now as am starting to look like a raddled old woman.

DD2's foot repulsive but not serious.

Thinking of you, MrsS.

MI - my mother constantly told me that I was overweight - which I am sure is why I am. But I don't care much nowadays.

Mi that must have been appallingly difficult to grow up with. I think having any sort if perspective and awareness of what dm was actually like ( a narcissist by the sound of it) is incredible. You have broken the chain of destructive behaviour and are a much much better person because of that. I often ponder that we are the first generation to really understand our parents behaviour( good and bad) and are working to move away from anything destructive. Its bloody hard work and you should be proud of yourself MI. Do not worry if these feelings of injustice and fury arise now.
Its absolutely natural, especially when dms public persona is being thrust ay you from all quarters.

Mrs S, i am at hospital clinic too so am communing with you sympathetically in spirit. I wish you oid things today.
More surgery for me ( joy) on hands this time. I want to ask the consultant ( an uptight good-living sort) how I will wipe my bum while both hands in plaster.
Its the small things Crepeys.

Oid ? Oid ?
GOOD! Damnyouetc.

Oh and for reference i was called The Sugar Plump Fairy by dps for years. It also did not help that my name rhymes with Flabby. You get the picture.

Crem, I think you have nailed it - yes, I think we may well be.

I have pulled a sickie from my terrible teens job today. Partly because I do indeed have a gyppy batty. I realise it's the first day where I haven't been rushing madly from one thing to the next, slotting in lesson planning here and there, for weeks. It means I can sort my lessons for Monday without having to work during the weekend. Yay!

Hope all is going well for Mrs S.

Oh, no, News of Pants from MrsS who has just texted me: the docs do not think it's a melanoma but are removing it now because they don't know what it is.

Bugger.

Feeling for you too, Cremo.

Mrs S - sorry to hear that. hope goes smoothly - thinking of you.

Herbs - have a lovely productive day

Cremo - really think you've got it there and it's hard but it's a good thing

MI - when I was young a family relative once turned to my dps in the presence of me and sibs, and said b'etween your children you have brains (me), brawn (db) and beauty (dsis), with the clear implication that each of us only had that one quality and that was how we were treated Have a wonderful time in Sardinia

Aww Cremo
I think you are right too - hopefully we have not have inflicted similar miseries on our DC.
However, we will probably have got some other part of parenting wrong

Well, DD has done her exam (after tears in the car and worse at school) - halfway there!

Poor MrsS. I hope your DH is sympathetic.

Mrs S

If he isn't, crepeys should step in. Perhaps a stalking campaign, walking past him in the street and hissing 'cook dinner for once', or 'have a heart - she loves her pussy'.

We've booked our Northumberland holiday cottage! In Bamburgh, which has a castle ON A BEACH. Also, pubs. Took us a while to find a small cottage with the necessary two settees, but we did it.

Aw, MrsS .

Blimey, addle, that takes the

MrsS :( Hope all is okay.....

Addle some people/parents hey....