Crepe And Stormy

[Cremo]

Over here Crepemunks!
Hope no one else has started one

I once went out with someone for FOUR YEARS because I couldn't work out how to break up with him.

Mum having her morning burst of more alertness. This means she gets pissed off with my dad, he gets confused about what she wants (and can't hear in any case) so I have to sort it out. C'est la vie. Or rather c'est la morte.

The orange dress would make me look like I had been peeled. I like the grey and the your picks, CV.

I would love to camp - but sadly think that weekend may not work as dh is away at some point and ds still has exams.

MI, hang on in there, funny how quickly one slips int routines, even in the oddest circumstances.

Actually, to be honest:
I am tired. I am pissed off. I don't want to engage with my father or help my mother with the commode or try and get things into his SODDING HEAD because he is both deaf and confused. I want to be able to get my work done and take proper time off and not be lurking in my poky teenage bedroom - which is even pokier now because it is full of Stuff, so it is essentially one small bed - because my dad is crashing around downstairs washing up to the radio (which means he won't hear her in any case). I don't want to have to negotiate the fact he annoys her with his SadVoice or his habit of just sitting there staring sadly and annoyingly at her. I would like some breakfast but I don't want to have to talk to him.

MI so sorry. Can you go out for breakfast somewhere? Or is that not possible?

Very good idea, BD - I did eventually manage to get some, which has helped.

MI, I feel your pain - it is amazing how our parents can enrage us with their behaviour and reduce us back to angry teenagers hiding in our rooms even when they are old/ill/dying. I think the emotions you are feeling are normal, so don't feel guilty - you are there trying to help them.

On another note, once the night-time carers are completely sorted, could you get more daytime care in (riding rough-shod over your DF if necessary ) so that you do not have to rush down there and stay for a prolonged period of time?

Bollocks MI, it must be excruciating for you. So sorry, but glad you got shored up by breakfast.

Similar here, although not in childhood bedroom, but managing dad's stress levels, which he is tempering with Scotch( dad, would you like a glass of water? No thanks I've heard there's a water shortage: boom boom ha ha)
Mum , no better and fading away. Can't eat and GP says no chest infection, very little in lungs so not pleurisy either. She's still vomming and is tiny. I am getting v worried it's something sinister.

Cremo, can you water it down "in the bottle"? - sorry about your mum.

Did anyone see Ian McKellen on Sunday Brunch doing readings of Justin Beiber, Drake and Rihanna? Absolutely hilarious - was at about 10.30 if you try to find it on catch-up/+1. I was actually watching it in the gym

Cremo that sounds worrying.

I am trying to work out next weekend, but need Dp to tell me what he is doing! I did want to take Tuesday off to have a loooooong bank holiday weekend, but have an immovable meeting :(.
The following weekend is ds's birthday party and I have a houseful of pre-teens . I will need a LARGE glass by the end of that......

Oh Crem

It's a weird mix of care and just being here, BTM. She clearly likes me being here and even just asked me to read her something - but vg suggestion.

Tell you something, hospices look shiny and new. Though apparently there's a waiting list...but dying at home depends on family backup the way it always did.

Crem - can you get your Mum to A & E? It was the only way we could get someone to take my DDad's illness seriously, as the doctor constantly told us there was nothing wrong with him beyond flu/shingles/getting old. They admitted him straightaway, ran tests and he finally got a diagnosis and the care he needed.

MI - do they do "hospice at home" care where your parents live?

I think that's what she's getting. Lots of outreach from the hospice etc. But it still falls on the family.

Oh and List Friend informed me she'd contacted a couple of Tamil writers and wanted them to do obits for the Hindu and/or Guardian papers. 'If we agreed.' I hit the roof. My sister and I feel very odd about obits at all for mum, given the division between private and public persona. I don't want her simply represented by someone whose language I don't speak (and my mother's first degrees are in English lit, ffs)...and also I AM A PROFESSIONAL JOURNALIST MYSELF. LF now backtracking and saying it was just a suggestion.

MI, I think there does come a point where you just want to roar at everyone "Why can't you all just piss off and leave us alone."

To be fair most enquiries are from the lovely cousins, who keep us very much in the loop of what they're up to (they've been to a wedding today, and sent us a lovely pic of one of them in the gorgeous sari mum gave her). And who sympathise about List Friend, who has also been hassling our mutual aunt - who is about to lose her only surviving sibling - about it all.

I am sorely tempted by the plentiful Baukjen bargains. Particularly the stripy dress GGG bought. And a cowl-necked jumper.

I've just got a £600 PPI rebate, so...

A lot of Baukjen is too clingy for me - there are a couple of items in the catalogue that only a pencil-thin model without an ounce of cellulite and no tits could possibly carry off (case in point) - and I hate walking around with my tummy pulled in, fretting about VPL. But the stripes on the dress do divert the eye a little (or at least I'm hoping they do).

Step away from the Baukjen Herbs Sainsbo's offers the best!

Quiet day here. DD and bf are looking rather jaded after the party last night and there's not much revision going on

I saw a picture of myself taken yesterday (on the tube, for those on FB) and I look about 10 years old than I did this time last year. And have developed huge eye bags. This IS NOT FAIR. Any top eye-bag removal/disguise tips? Other than paper bag on the head?

I am STILL preparing my lesson for tomorrow. The one I've had a whole term to do. Feel like it's now 'right', though, so am satisfied. Just need to do umpteen printouts - won't have time to access photocopier in the morning...

MI, Cremo and other parentally challenged crepeys - hope you are bearing up. I really must phone my Aged Ps tonight. I do find myself putting it off, which is very immature.

Can't see picture Herbs - can only see your martinis - but I'm sure you look fine. I hate eye bags though and can see mine especially in the morning. It's only a. matter of time before they settle in all day.

I echo Herb's good wishes to the parentally challenged.

We are still on school holidays for another week so feeling reasonably chilled and catching up on little jobs.

In S&B, I tried a Guerlain bronzer today which I didn't think made me too orange. Still unsure whether to purchase as is expensive - anybody use one?

I don't really understand bronzers. And can't get to grips with blusher, either.

Ferociously itchy hand, following crazed bout of garden tidying. Not sure if one of my combatant shrubs might have been evil in some way.

I just want healthy glow instead of looking like somebody from The Walking Dead - especially in the morning.

Loving the look of everyone's S&B buys!! Although I could wear very few of them.

Crem Oh goodness, your poor DM and you. I would agree with MrsS and try to get her to A&E, or the out of hours visiting doctor, if this exists.

MI Wont there be time enough to have obituary written after DM is gone? You don't need to be hassled with this now, do you?

Hatty Herbs I think I have always had eye bags even as a young person. Lack of sleep doesn't help and I like strong eye makeup on the top and nothing on the bottom lashes or under the eye. Somehow seems to deemphasise the bags. I have never used bronzer....because MIL did...'nuff said

I have had too many late nights and it's showing. I had people for tea today and have a huge family supper to cook for tomorrow night. DH and DS have gone to see Rodger Waters at the Albert Hall. I have cabin fever but will spend an evening with The Durrells and Under Cover.

Someone fairly influential emailed to say they have read my play, and wrote "Its very well written and clearly very well observed. By the end of the play you feel you have got to know all the characters and understand them." but then said....
"I’m not sure the play says anything that will touch them in a new way. "them" being the audience