Spring is sprung, the grass is ris, I wonder where the crepeys is

[herbaceous]

As requested!

Mi you are dead right. It is superb. My df died on a hospital ward because things moved too quickly but is was staffed and managed as a hospice setting. There was plenty of privacy and dignity, they were very skilled ad thoughtful even with six bed bays. And having all those specialists on tap. Good luck xx

I think it has to be home or hospice. Not a private hospital or a care home.

Absolutely (we wanted a wonderful local hospice but ran out of time - I just meant the difference hospice-trained staff made even in a less than ideal setting was amazing). I hope you can convince him, MI.

Sorry, Lalsy, I wasn't making myself clear - I was agreeing with you!

And I think we will convince him. Chances are she'll be on her own anyway. Unless this thread is just part of a general phenomenon of aged parents dropping like flies...

Oh good, I thought I hadn't been clear . Yes, I am sure they will do their best and they will be used to managing these situations. Given what you have said about his denial and attitudes, a hospice-style philosophy may help him in the long run, perhaps, too.

Fine Easter weather this is turning out to be.

Trying to catch up....
MI yes, and yes again. And where hospice staff have an arrangement with a local hospital, it's very beneficial if they come on to the ward. In fact, DDad's care home had an arrangement with a hospice also, which helped us tremendously.

Monty I will message you soon. I do hope you are coping and also allowing others to support you and your DM.xx

CV are you switched back on yet? What are you doing for heating? although watching that much Night Manager you might not need any

Tilly any luck with the history tutor? I agree, it's a poor show. I'm in the wrong part of London otherwise might have suggested one of DS2's friends who is doing history...although I'm not sure if it would be Tudors
we used these people to get DD's Maths tutor and I am impressed Lots of people round here have spoken similarly positively about them in a range of subjects. HTH

Beachy Hope DDog is ok.

I have had a week of swimming in treacle in respect of me and DD's ailments and trying to do stuff whilst feeling horrible. DD has dragged herself into school really poorly and feverish, rattling with Nurofen, because she has terrible FOMO, and a series of maths mocks that she was scared she'd get into trouble about, if she bailed. She basically has tonsillitis and was hardly eating and drinking because she couldn't swallow. Last night I called the GP who diagnosed and prescribed over the phone, electronically sending the prescription to my nearest pharmacy . However, in a moment of personal grief, I faltered and wept, and then thanked DDad for teaching me how to palpate the neck for glands and how to recognise signs of a bacterial infection. The questions that the telephone GP was asking me required quite a lot of judgement on my part. I expect Ddad was turning in his grave at the lack of personal touch and bedside manner. And I miss it/him terribly.

DH and I are supposed to be going the flat tomorrow sans enfants for a couple of days. It's touch and go whether we will actually achieve this. But we need the time out. Badly. Just hoping DD is turning the corner. Her temperature is down at least.

ps where is Rudy Are you ok?

Rose, you poor love. Hope you and dd get away and feel much, much better.

sorry, dh.

Am all over the place today trying to avoid list of dull jobs.

Poor wee dd , Rose. I hope she's turned a corner and is on the mend, and that you get away with Dh. Sorry about it all reminding you of ddad. So sad Rose; these thoughts often catch me unawares too. It is part of the healing I believe .

Beachy, hope you are ok after string removal and administering of dog eye drops, and propping up ds. Here is a nice soft lemony cake that Italians have for breakfast apaz. Mnn cake for brekkie, seems ok to me.

Hope you are out there and are ok in the Rudy-sphere, Rudy.

sorry here

I am just back from bowling with work colleagues. Could have done with a but was driving and the traffic was unbelieveably bad. Still, it's the holidays

Thanks Rose - I have been looking at various websites for tutors, so will have a look and discuss with DD. Hope your DD is OK and you manage to get away (and that the traffic isn't like tonight!)

I thinks Rudy is OK - some very nice photos appearing on FB!

Thank the Lord - four days off!

I'm just back from an evening flit to Ikea to buy cheapo shelving for the shed (and a few bags of meatballs). Our recently-imposed rule that the DCs cook/prepare dinner once a week paid dividends, and I came home to a perfectly prepared chicken caesar salad.

Rose - what am I doing for heating?? Wearing several layers, huddling round an electric radiator, and drinking gin. I've polished off the Silent Pool, now drinking Paper Bag Gin. Niiiice.

What am I talking about? It's called Bathtub Gin, and it comes in a paper bag.

No point even sitting in the bathtub, CV, assuming you've got no hot water

DM died at 4 am. Both sisters were with her, I was asleep next door.

The last week has been a rapidly - escalating struggle to keep on top of symptoms but overall I'm left with a sense of achievement, that we made it as bearable as possible for her.

Go to the dreamless bed
Where grief reposes;
Thy book of toil is read;
The long day closes.

Oh Auriga, so sorry for your loss, but really glad for you that you were able to look after her so lovingly and that she died peacefully

Deepest sympathy Auriga from me. You were a devoted and selfless daughter and carer to your DM. [flowers ]

Auriga {{ }}
So glad that it was as comfortable as it could be.

Much strength and love.

Tough week for so many Crepeys - love to you and try to find at least a small amount of time and treat yourselves this weekend.

Much sympathy from e, Auriga.

Such a hard time for you, but you were a wonderful daughter to your mother. So pleased she had a peaceful death.

Sending my sympathy Auriga You did so much for your DM.

Auriga, much love and much sympathy.

You have been so marvellous.
Xxxxxx

Oh I'm so sorry Auriga. But as the other day, her last days were made as comfortable and peaceful as possible, thanks to you. That's something to treasure. And she had her family all there at the d. No one can ask for more.