help please, nice top to go with jeans

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I never get dressed up anymore, I don't need to. I wear mostly jeans, stripy tops possibly a vest and a cardi if I'm feeling adventurous. I feel old and mumsy and not at all glamorous. I'm also suffering with PND and PTSD and I'm a grey shadow of my former self. I look unhappy, even when I'm having an 'ok' day, and have put on weight.

Soon, I'd quite like a night out with DH. Nothing fancy just maybe a pub and a meal so nothing dressy and then I realized I don't have 'going out' stuff any more (as I don't)

I came across these cecilia and kitty Are they as frumpy as me? Can I do a lot lot better?

I'm 43 and hate my body. 5'7 size 10/12 but fat/untoned with it. Which shops should I be looking in? Don't want to spend a fortune, though I'd rather buy something that will last a few years forever. I have a 'winter' colouring.

Please help. Am happy to shop online as some days I find it hard to be in busy places. Tia

Wow you look fantastic! Time to be more positive about your body I think, I'm a shortie and a size 10, but I am still not entirely happy at an 8 - I think we are all too hard on ourselves.

The top looks really good on you, very classy and smart.

I know it's throwing a spanner, but I wonder how it would look with lighter jeans?

I'm not sure I have light jeans, I will have a rummage and see what is lurking.
Wilbur the shoes are from matalan grabbed them as i flew through looking for school rights. They are surprisingly comfy!

Op you have a fantastic figure. Honestly. Super! I think you need to work on your self esteem and feelings about your body- reading your posts I wouldn't have ever imagined you look like you do!

How about this? I would wear with a very fitted black silk cami under. Bit dressier for a DH date!

www.stories.com/gb/Sale/Ready-to-wear/Tops/Metallic_Silk_Blouse/114723593-109718749.1

Just wanted to agree with everyone else - you look fantastic! And lots of people would kill for your figure, I know that's not how you see it but you genuinely do look fab. And that top is lovely.

Hope you're feeling better soon and your date night goes well.

On a separate but related note, I'm holding you responsible for the fact I'm now going to have order loads of lovely tops I've found in the Phase Eight sale....

You look fab op!

Op you look great. I think It's more that you haven't been out for a while. Plan some nights out with DH and you'll get your confidence back.

I will be no help on the fashion front but another one chiming in to say you really do have a lovely figure. I only wish my mum tum looked as good as yours which appears to be non-existent fab shapely legs too. Whit woo. Hope you have a lovely night out.

Mum tum?! Piss off, I haven't even got any kids and I'd love my stomach to look like yours. And I like the top.

I think I'm keeping the top, but will get a new necklace to go with it.

Thank you you're all very kind with your comments. Dh says I look ok but I don't ever believe him, just think he's being kind as he knows I'm incredibly down at the minute and we're going through a very tough time.

Anyway I have a v glam friend coming over next weekend with a bottle of wine and her expensive make up bag to get an idea of colours, how to apply etc. If nothing else the wine and chat will do me good I guess

It looks great on you!

...and you are seriously seeing issues with your figure that don't exist!!!

Obviously all of us post-babies have a little wobbly tummy but perhaps yours is only something that can be seen naked as you definitely can not see it in those photos.

My body really doesn't look good, trust me. I don't let my husband see me naked. Ever. Not even in bed
I'm glad however that I'm protecting humankind by wearing clothes!!!

smile when I saw the links I was going to say that they were frumpy but having seen the photos I honestly think you look good.