help please, nice top to go with jeans

[SmileAndNod]

I never get dressed up anymore, I don't need to. I wear mostly jeans, stripy tops possibly a vest and a cardi if I'm feeling adventurous. I feel old and mumsy and not at all glamorous. I'm also suffering with PND and PTSD and I'm a grey shadow of my former self. I look unhappy, even when I'm having an 'ok' day, and have put on weight.

Soon, I'd quite like a night out with DH. Nothing fancy just maybe a pub and a meal so nothing dressy and then I realized I don't have 'going out' stuff any more (as I don't)

I came across these cecilia and kitty Are they as frumpy as me? Can I do a lot lot better?

I'm 43 and hate my body. 5'7 size 10/12 but fat/untoned with it. Which shops should I be looking in? Don't want to spend a fortune, though I'd rather buy something that will last a few years forever. I have a 'winter' colouring.

Please help. Am happy to shop online as some days I find it hard to be in busy places. Tia

[QueenC]

smile when I saw the links I was going to say that they were frumpy but having seen the photos I honestly think you look good.

[SmileAndNod]

My body really doesn't look good, trust me. I don't let my husband see me naked. Ever. Not even in bed
I'm glad however that I'm protecting humankind by wearing clothes!!!

[stumblymonkey]

It looks great on you!

...and you are seriously seeing issues with your figure that don't exist!!!

Obviously all of us post-babies have a little wobbly tummy but perhaps yours is only something that can be seen naked as you definitely can not see it in those photos.

[SmileAndNod]

I think I'm keeping the top, but will get a new necklace to go with it.

Thank you you're all very kind with your comments. Dh says I look ok but I don't ever believe him, just think he's being kind as he knows I'm incredibly down at the minute and we're going through a very tough time.

Anyway I have a v glam friend coming over next weekend with a bottle of wine and her expensive make up bag to get an idea of colours, how to apply etc. If nothing else the wine and chat will do me good I guess

[Doobigetta]

Mum tum?! Piss off, I haven't even got any kids and I'd love my stomach to look like yours. And I like the top.

[Penguin13]

I will be no help on the fashion front but another one chiming in to say you really do have a lovely figure. I only wish my mum tum looked as good as yours which appears to be non-existent fab shapely legs too. Whit woo. Hope you have a lovely night out.

[YaySirNaySir]

Op you look great. I think It's more that you haven't been out for a while. Plan some nights out with DH and you'll get your confidence back.

[Jemimapuddleduk]

You look fab op!

[sara11272]

Just wanted to agree with everyone else - you look fantastic! And lots of people would kill for your figure, I know that's not how you see it but you genuinely do look fab. And that top is lovely.

Hope you're feeling better soon and your date night goes well.

On a separate but related note, I'm holding you responsible for the fact I'm now going to have order loads of lovely tops I've found in the Phase Eight sale....

[BringMeTea]

How about this? I would wear with a very fitted black silk cami under. Bit dressier for a DH date!

www.stories.com/gb/Sale/Ready-to-wear/Tops/Metallic_Silk_Blouse/114723593-109718749.1

[Fairylea]

Op you have a fantastic figure. Honestly. Super! I think you need to work on your self esteem and feelings about your body- reading your posts I wouldn't have ever imagined you look like you do!

[SmileAndNod]

I'm not sure I have light jeans, I will have a rummage and see what is lurking.
Wilbur the shoes are from matalan grabbed them as i flew through looking for school rights. They are surprisingly comfy!

[BlimeyCrikey]

I know it's throwing a spanner, but I wonder how it would look with lighter jeans?

[BlimeyCrikey]

Wow you look fantastic! Time to be more positive about your body I think, I'm a shortie and a size 10, but I am still not entirely happy at an 8 - I think we are all too hard on ourselves.

The top looks really good on you, very classy and smart.

[WilburIsSomePig]

You look lovely!! Can I ask where you got your shoes please, they're gorgeous and just what I'm looking for.

[everythingsgoingsouth]

wow, I think you look great! have a lovely time.

[Puppymouse]

I had a sneaky suspicion before you posted the pics you'd have a lovely figure. I hope you can get well again and come to terms with your post children figure as it's definitely what I would like to look like! I know that won't help much but you look great

[SmileAndNod]

Ha!!! Sadly I inherited my dad's legs and not my mum's. Her legs are to die for, even at 68. She wore barely covering her arse stuff late 60s. I only hope she knew how amazing she looked

[SmileAndNod]

I'm undecided - am rubbish at clothes these days, I used to be fairly well put together then along came three children..

[sheffieldsteeler]

Blimey, at your great legs!

[RoganJosh]

Ooh I might be ok then, I ordered the M. Thanks. Sorry you're not happy with it on though.

[SmileAndNod]

Yes can do heels, as long as there's not a really long walk involved

[looki]

I meant to add - can you wear heels? I always feel more dressed up in heels as I live in flat shoes.

[looki]

I'm not a fan of the type of tops you linked as those types of tops highlight the stomach area in my opinion. I avoid anything that has elastic at the bottom as my mummy tummy tends to overhang it

Massimo Dutti are shit quality but I recently bought this and like it as it is so wearable www.massimodutti.com/ie/en/women/tailored-corner/top-with-bow-at-back-c1614001p7069058.html?colorId=251&categoryNav=911173

I'd have preferred this one but I wouldn't get to wear it enough but it would look great on a night out www.massimodutti.com/ie/en/women/shirts-%26-blouses/whites/double-breasted-dress-shirt-c1384018p6954065.html?colorId=251&categoryNav=911173

[HalfStar]

You look great op, very cool and appropriate but the look is confident. Honestly!
Whistles often has nice tops but try to get sales prices - I think they do 25% off in March.