Crepe Oddity

[MrsSchadenfreude]

Sorry.

No it is not mean at all. Your mother has probably reached the stage where her perception of time is not as good as it was and won't even realise. It is VITAL (yes, I am shouting) that you keep your self in a good place during all of this.

I promise you that the house won't be nearly as bad as you think. Don't forget, your mother won't (I assume & hope) be there with you and wanting to save 30 year old tins of corned beef (am looking at you, long gone MIL).

Have all digits crossed for a place in a good home turning up asap.

Not at all, Tilly I had to have devious plans for avoiding DParents at times, for my own sanity. And I call or text DM maybe twice a week. So sorry for the feeling wobbly but that's what Crepeys are here to address and to bolster you up. Everything feels so up in the air and at times insurmountable but once you have found a good care home, your DM will be safe and comfortable, and less anxious, I'm sure. and hugs.

Amazing photos Crem Hope you're still having a great time.

MrsS Security needs to remove GBH nutter man from the building, I think. Hope mammogram went ok...I am horribly overdue for one... Oh and has there been a FB fail and something you haven't told us about today, hmmmm??????

Annoying trustee has just sent out a set of emails that she'd asked me to send...she's losing the plot. She says one thing....then does the opposite, and tried to convince me I'm the one who's going mad. That's called "Gaslighting ,isn't it?

It's so bloody cold outside. I am due to go out to TOOTOOMOO locally tonight for friends' annual January Birthday supper...there's a few of us. Actually right this second I'd rather stay in the warm and watch telly. DS1 is Facebooking from Ubad in Indonesia. He feels so very far away.

X post. Wise words from Magi

Good luck with mammogram Mrs S - last time I went for one, he said my boobs were too dense so I had to have an echographie instead! I only have small boobs so am very puzzled by this.

BTM - keep crossing things off that list.

DD1 having a bit of a crisis as piles of uni work plus constant rejections by law firms is getting her down. She's now panicking that she won't get something and therefore miss out on a training contract. It is very difficult trying to bolster her up from a distance - I think she feels it is all sliding away after all her hard work. I think her main problem is getting work experience to enable her to get and have something to talk about at interview - if anybody knows anybody who wants a 2nd year law paralegal over the summer let me know!

Thanks - I will put myself first! DH has just volunteered to speak to her on the phone too which is good as he won't worry me about her worrying over nothing, IYSWIM.

Rose, it IS cold! How exciting for your DS (and nerve-wracking for you)

Hatty, fingers crossed for your DD, sorry but no law students needed at our place!

I forgot to phone DM today. Spoke to her last night. She has won a translation prize. We agreed with somewhat gallows humour that it's best not to book a ticket to collect it in Seattle on 1 April. She has a book launch in a couple of weeks to which she has invited her consultants. I have to concede that this is bloody classy of her.

Flipping heck, MI, that is very good going given her age never mind all the health stuff. What is the book?

Another translation, I assume - in all honesty I find the translation stuff v difficult as it's from Tamil which she never taught us. Another can of worms I have to jam shut in order to continue with this Good Daughter act.

I have made a nice supper - one of Hugh FW's, roast parsnip chunks in a puy lentil/watercress salad, with the additions of spicing the parsnips (and it's a bag of watercress, rocket and spinach). Will crumble feta over. Oh yes.

Oh if it's just a translation from Tamil, there is nothing to worry about

I once made a lentil curry with onions, puy lentils and (to use up) some parsnips and a bit of curry paste. It was sooooo delicious that I have made it again a few times!

BTM, I hope it all comes together soon. We had to sort out two houses within a year. We did DDad's first and, because it was my family home there was all sorts of stuff from my childhood and it took ages. DH's DDad's house was easier as I had no sentimental attachment to it, and neither did DH as it was not the family home. Actually in a way it was more difficult as DBiL had started stripping the house (the house and contents were left to DH) which caused all sorts of ill feeling (BiL had already been given a house, by the way). What I am saying (rather clumsily) is you will need to prepare yourself if it is your family home.

Rose, you must be beating your head against a brick wall.

MI, how are you bearing up.

Hatty, I wish I could help with DD, as you know my DD is a lawyer, but she works for the government so no connections, I am afraid. I do remember how stressful it all was.

We have spent the afternoon going through the top of wardrobes - the dust was indescribable. DH has even taken some stuff to the tip which is a major step forward.

Cross post, MI. Your DM is amazing (now we know where you get it from! ).

Gosh MI - very impressive of your DM. Well done to her.

Thanks NU - I think it's just a bit stressy, between the law schemes for one and awaiting the uni offers with the other. Obviously in the grand scheme of things this is relatively minor, especially compared to everybody's parent situations. I think the problem is, that neither child has had to deal with rejection before and they are just starting to learn how tough the world is.

MI, classy indeed. Quite right not to go looking under stones, do what you have to to KBO as Good Daughter.

BTM, really good luck. We keep coming back to this don't we - uncertainty being so wearing..

Hatty, long-distance bolstering is so hard, I agree. And I think it is easy for them to feel things slipping when they are not at home - 19 year olds not necessarily being known for their solid, brisk good sense. dd has been a bit panicky this term but appears to have cheered up now she has had a good conversation with a lecturer she wasn't sure about, precipitated apparently by a Hard Stare (on dd's part). God knows, but made me laugh.

Stropps, hope you are getting somewhere with dd and work is OK.

Crem, what sort of cocktails are you drinking?

MI - it must be so hard when to everyone else your Mum 'rocks' but to you there is so much else to deal with.

Been theer with my Dad - to everyone else he was amazing & wonderful, to me he was Dad + many difficulties in our relationship & faults (on both sides)

MI well done your Mum, but I know how hard it is when you've not been taught the 'old' family language. My grandad only really spoke chinese, the only Chinese we know are the numbers on the takeaway menu. Excuse me if I'm being presumptuous, I'm presuming that you're second generation,like myself. If you're not, I apologise.

Lalsy at hard stare.

Am now settling into the Bake Off, although missed the first two minutes and haven't a clue who any of them are.

Oh - Ed Balls - I know him - he's got a bit fat.

Not at all presumptuous, Dreamqueen! Am complicatedly mixed race - look totally white. DP also mixed race and looks v Bengali.

Bakeoff!!!

Ed's cousin Ian was at my primary in Norwich and known, predictably, as Eyeballs.

We are roaring at "Eyeballs."

at eyeballs - poor kid.

My own much-admired Professor, under whom [ahem - if only] I am currently studying, is in awe of MI's mama and her literary accomplishments.

Hattie, try starting a thread in Legal Matters? Loads of long-term MNers are in the legal profession.

MI I'm half Chinese from the West Indies and half Irish/British mix so I'm very confused . I have roots in nearly all continents but relate most to Caribbean and family over here. I wish I was taught Cantonese but he ho that's life I suppose.

Yeah, yeah, I know, she's perfect

Sorry, MI, I did nearly add a rider to that, but didn't want to neg her.