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Very sad DD, new haircut please help!

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flashheartscanoe · 17/01/2016 13:15

My lovely DD had all her hair cut off yesterday. She's been thinking about it for ages so it wasn't a mad impulse.
She took a cute picture of an Anne Hathaway pixie cut with her. She also had some colour as she wanted to be blonder. She's very upset with how it looks and thinks is it is very middle aged and not pixie! I think she looks gorgeous but agree that the cut and colour isn't brilliant. It's so short though that we don't know how to change it...Are there any hairdressers out there who could advise? Can the cut be rescued without taking loads more off?? Please please help, I was so proud of her for being brave and going for a change and she's so upset.

Very sad DD, new haircut please help!
Very sad DD, new haircut please help!
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ShhhBeQuiet · 17/01/2016 15:10

I'm loving all the Clare Balding fans. Smile.

ToastMakesMeHappy · 17/01/2016 15:12

I have no useful input but I am amongst the other posters, had a short hair cut at your DDs age and hated it. Cried for a week - including at the table of my mums birthday lunch Blush
Please report back with picture when you have had it sorted!

MadisonMontgomery · 17/01/2016 15:17

I really would let your daughter have a day off school to get it fixed - I remember when I wanted a 'Rachel' cut and it all went horribly wrong - I had to go to school the next day & it was awful. Tbh I don't think anyone noticed/made comments but I was utterly mortified.

Aramynta · 17/01/2016 15:17

Poor DD. Something very similar happened to me (hairdresser was a "friend" and destroyed my hair because her boyfriend fancied me - it backfired spectacularly when he and everyone else thought I looked amazing!).

She needs to work with what she has got here, alongside visiting a competent hairdresser. I also think she needs to make a complaint. At the very least the manager can then keep an eye on the culprit and retrain if needed.

Aramynta · 17/01/2016 15:19

I meant to add to the end of that, "and get her money back".

TSSDNCOP · 17/01/2016 15:21

Hi OP.

She has a similar shaped head and texture hair as me.

Mine is as short but needs serious thinning out to create the sort of texture that stops me looking like a Lego person.

Did they put a cap on for the highlights? I have foils so you avoid the leopard spots, I also have several colour blondes again to create texture.

Short hair needs a technically excellent cut, any errors are glaring.

Get her to a salon where they are really experienced in short hair, thin it out and tone the colour down.

Also product is her friend, again a wax based to create texture. Just a bit, all over her hands and then apply like she's washing it root to tip, then move around to get the shape right.

AcrossthePond55 · 17/01/2016 15:26

Absolutely need block colour. And probably more cut off. A lot of the pics posted show cuts that are actually longer on top than she is right now. A PP posted one shot, though, that I think she could do right now. You can see black straps on the model. I'll go look for it.

ValancyJane · 17/01/2016 15:29

Oh, bless her. I think it's salvageable but probably needs dyeing (I reckon blonde all over rather than highlights) and slightly shorter in places to achieve a proper pixie-cut, I know someone who has that look and it looks amazing. I would see if you can get her in with a better stylist somewhere trendy. Hope it gets fixed, I had a hideous bob around that age and it was a terrible few months while it grew out, so I have lots of sympathy for your DD!

sky1010 · 17/01/2016 15:29

Let the poor girl have a day off school tomorrow.

Take her to a trendy salon, go for a shorter pixie and an all over bright blonde.

AcrossthePond55 · 17/01/2016 15:30

The post was Bluebell20 Sun 17-Jan-16 14:23:56

The model with reddish hair, print top and black undertop. I think your daughter could do this. The model's hair is a wee bit longer in the back, but it could still work.

If you or she have any friends with really cute short hair, call them and ask for their stylists number.

And TBH, I wouldn't make her go to school with that haircut. Unless you can at least manage to get it coloured.

SanityClause · 17/01/2016 15:30

Her hair does look quite thick, as is mine. If I have mine cropped really short, it doesn't sit smoothly on my head like Anne Hathway's does; it sort of sticks up spikily.

DD1 (16) recently had a pixie crop, to even up an asymmetric cut she had had. She hated it at first, although I thought it looked gorgeous, but she soon got used to it. She had a funky ginger colour, though. She also wore little hair clips and bows in it. She does have quite a distinctive look, which I think helps.

(I had a couple of haircuts as a teenager which were a disaster, and I didn't have the confidence to pull it off, so I really do sympathise with her. Sad)

unlucky83 · 17/01/2016 15:58

Didn't need to read this thread right now...my teen DD with thick curly hair wants to go short....I am desperately trying to persuade her not to.
Currently it is all kept swept back in a pony, she only brushes it when she has washed it and struggles to get up in the mornings - up and out in 10-15 mins, no products, no styling...
She will need a truly fantastic cut for it not to look awful. And will have to go regularly (and she hates having her haircut -takes a lot of persuading to get her to go every 4 months for a trim) and trying to growing it out doesn't even bear thinking about...
She has this idea of what it is going to look like but the reality will be different - I have shown her a photo of her at 9 months - and told her that is what it is going to be like - without the weight it is even curlier - a mass of great big curls ...but she doesn't believe me!
(Actually I just thought her hair is like Aidan Turner's of Poldark fame - if not a wee bit curlier - look at photos of him with short hair and you get the picture!)
Current hairdresser is lovely but goes on about how lovely DD's hairs is and has to be pushed to cut more than a few mm off...don't think she will cut it all off and honestly not sure if she is up to the job....
But then maybe DD has to do it - so she knows -but I am already preparing for the tears and regret...Sad

StayWithMe · 17/01/2016 16:05

She still has lots of hair and it still has some length so I think a good hairdresser should be able to rescue it. Like other posters have suggested, go to a really good, young style, hair dresser. If you don't mind giving an idea where you are, I'm sure posters could suggest a good one in your area. I'm 47 and would find that too 'old' for me.

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flashheartscanoe · 17/01/2016 16:12

Oh my goodness! Thank you all so much, we've been out for a bit and come back to so many lovely replies! It's so reassuring to know there might be something we can do. I had though that cutting it wasn't going to be possible. So I've told her she can have a morning off tomorrow and we'll go to the city to have it sorted. I'll take a deep breath and pay what it costs. DH is totally against it and says there's no way she's having the day off! But we'll see...

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MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 17/01/2016 16:17

Day off - just don't let on to DH. Teenagers can be cruel buggers at times and she's not going to be concentrating on her schoolwork if she's being teased.

Good luck OP, hope you get it sorted.

anotherbusymum14 · 17/01/2016 16:20

It will look really good soon! Hang in there. Sorry she had to experience that. It's a great plan to take the morning off to get it fixed. A great pixie cut will look really nice. All the best with that.

FellOutOfBedTwice · 17/01/2016 16:21

Another one who had something similar done to me. I've also got thick hair and it's important with a short cut that it's thinned appropriately. I think your DD needs the same. It's going to loop great when it's fixed.

fastdaytears · 17/01/2016 16:22

DH can bigger off on this occasion.

We've all been there. My thought was Clare B also, but it's totally fixable. A trendy salon tomorrow, plus maybe some fancy make up and some time with mum and she'll be fine. She's clearly very brave to do this when most of her peers will still be thinking that a fishtail plait is a bit out there, so with the right cut she will look gorgeous.

It's different I know but my mum's patented break up fixer was a new hair colour, a nice lunch and some make up we couldn't have afforded ourselves. Looking good is important especially at your DD's age.

Please come back and tell us she looks amazing tomorrow.

Kelsoooo · 17/01/2016 16:26

I remember my mum being in tears after a perm went wrong. Luckily my boyfriend at the times mum was a hairdresser and sorted it.

Only 3 years ago my favourite hairdresser of all time gave me a mullet when I asked to go short :-(

Its a rite of passage.

AcrossthePond55 · 17/01/2016 16:26

Tell your DH to do one. I really don't think this is something most all men could really understand. Maybe ask him how he'd feel if he woke up with a face full of drag-queen makeup that he couldn't just wash off and had to go in to work like that. Damn bet you he'd take a day off work and go get it sorted!

Bluebell20 · 17/01/2016 16:27

DH has no idea what it is like to be a teenage girl!

Have a lovely morning in the city, take LOTS of reference photos with you, and do post photos of the fixed result :)

DrivingMissLazy1 · 17/01/2016 16:31

I hope you get it sorted OP. Can we have another pic tomorrow once it has been fixed?

hippowithsuncreen · 17/01/2016 16:35

Definately day off and sort in the morning. This happened to me around age 12 and i was sent in school. It was awful!

SuperFlyHigh · 17/01/2016 16:36

Take as long as needed to sort the hair out (the whole day off won't be the end of the world... Maybe take her clothes shopping after).

I had this when I was 16, had a nice bubble perm (it suited me!) but got bleached by sun and 2 weeks in Spain, when I got back I wanted it trimmed which it was but the hairdresser blow dried it badly and I thought I looked dire... I took the scissors to it at home and ended up sobbing with one half short and other long (way past my shoulders). Luckily a neighbour knew a fab expensive nearby salon that we went to got highlights and a layered cut (this was the late 80s but it suited me), the hairdresser looked at me taking off a baseball cap with the remainder of my hair in a ponytail and she said "oh dear what beautiful hair!" As the long hair was lovely.... The stylist who cut my hair I either knew now or knew from the salon (Jigsaw in Streatham) and I've been with her (apart from when she moved to Australia now moved back) mostly since... Jane of Love Hair in Brixton if anyone is interested!

Hope your DD gets a fab trendy new cut and colour (sadly it will cost but get the best you can) and yes get a refund or partial from the original useless salon.

SuperFlyHigh · 17/01/2016 16:37

Ps she has lots of hair to do something with agree with everyone's suggestions re brighter blonde colour and hair putty will be great for styling it!