Have you had a boob job?

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More 'style' than 'health' imo.

Can you tell me whether you are pleased with it or not? Would you do it again? Is there you didn't know but wished you had?

donnie, if i didnt laugh i¡d cry. i no longer have a perineum. i am too damn scared to look as the scar tissue is so horrendous. you ahve a good point about what this says to our children etc etc... but this is not a search for perfection. i am not trying to look like a model. many of the women on here, like me, have fairly serious issues with parts of our bodies and we are lucky enough to live in a world where they can be corrected. hence breast reduction on the NHS- it causes many women great pain to have very large breasts or to completely lose all their breast tissue after breastfeeding.

i repeat, i do not want vaginal surgery- would anyone- but it is on offer and perhaps it is better than living with a frankly disgusting and slightly defective fanjo for the next god knows how long.

it wasnt me that made the porn star comment, but my obstetrician. he's great

well he sounds like a wanker to me.

The OP posted in style Donnie
We simply responded to a thread.
As I earlier stated I have varied and complex reasons - chronic back and shoulder pain to note just one issue, for wanting a breast reduction.
This is also my personal choice, I am not inflicting it or condoning it to my daughter or to others.
I am not saying that the money would not be more worthily spent on the mortgage, or given to orphans or whatever, but as my day to day life is so badly affected I consider it a worthy priority. Nobly although I do infact qualify for an NHS reduction, I will bear the cost myself.
I have no desire to flaunt my 37 yr old 3 children body on a beach/page 3/ or in skimpy gear in a nightclub.
I simply want to wear a bra that does not make my shoulders bleed and cause permanent indentations in my collarbones and shoulders.
I have early heart disease that runs in my family and need to exercise as well as watch my diet to avoid dropping dead at 45 like my father and his family. I cannot exercise due to the size of my bust.
I don't even know why I'm bothering to justify myself to someone who patently has a happy little line drawn under any cosmetic surgery.

i'm off to bed too. goodnight one and all.

mojo, thanks for the tip. i had no idea bf ing improved them. will defo do some more research.

great post piffle exactly what I wanted to say

I'm intrigued as to where you would draw the line regarding plastic surgery? When would you say that someone wasn't being superficial and self-obsessed?

Laser eye surgery instead of specs?

Laser treatment for birthmarks?

To improve the appearance of scars to the body after, say, burns?

For facial scarring/injury?

Breast reconstruction after a mastectomy?

I'm interested in what your stance would be on these questions.

Sorry, that was meant to be addressed to donnie.

Goodness me donnie - is your MIL a plastic surgeon or something?

Plastic surgery - Christina Tattari - she does the behind the muscle breast augmentations that look much more natural.

This is my first post on mumsnet .
This topic has struck a chord with me - my boobs really bothered me from when I was a teenager - nothing to do with how they look to others, or being some sort of perfect looking model, or trying to get men etc etc (am now 29 and have been with fantastic dh since I was 16!).

The problem was that I didn't feel right, and it affected me psycologically every day of my life. From buying clothes, to holidays, to being around other women who had nice boobs (of any size!)... even to sleeping with my husband FGS!

Had ds in August 2005 and after bf they became horrendous!
So took the plunge and in March this year had the op. Was aware of the risks (and expense - thank god for credit cards!), but I knew in my heart it was the right thing to do.
And yes, it did hurt! Only for a week or so, but more pain than after I had 3rd degree tear with no pain relief with ds!!

I am so much happier and more confident now than I've ever been.

No one knows about the op except dh. He took time off to help with ds and we pretended we'd gone away for the week!

I am not advocating it to others or being some sort of role model for my kids, or for the rest of society for that matter! I will never tell anyone else and I will never tell my kids.
The op was about me!
I did it for ME!
Best decision of my life!!

No complications. Fantastic surgeon. They may last for 10 years, may last for 30 years. Nothing is certain in life. But what I am now very certain of, is that I'm very very happy!!!

(sorry for length of post!!)

HI everyone...fascinating thread that I just read this morning. Donnie are you religious? You certainly seem holier than thou....bet you're not exactly perfect though. You are certainly obnoxious and need to grow up, learn how to empathise and not act like the pissed boring man in the pub. For the record I have natural E cup so I'm not in the market for any changes up or down, but neither am I as inclined as you to judge others so quickly. Try and get happier within yourself then you might not come across as such a sour old tart.

i really think donnie should leave the thread well alone

if she has never encountered the upset and depression that it causes who the hell is she to judge others FFS

Before my surgery i was so unhappy, not because i wanted to conform to every celebrity going, but because i was having constant infections, living on anti biotics, dh couldnt touch me there as i i felt too bad on how i looked, i had no confidence at all until you feel this way go and insult people on a different thread and take your head out your ass on the way

I think 'Donnie' should just be ignored from this conversation, she has nothing constructive to say and is personally insulting everyone who dares think about surgery.
Some people's comments just are not worth getting worked up about.
Is 'Donnie' even real, or is she a troll ?

Donnie you have made some very valid points...but there is no need for you to be so rude to posters you know nothing about. At the end of the day, each to thier own. You have no right to bring other peoples kids into it.

at the comments on this thread! Yes, page three models, and SOME sticky thin footballers wives etc can give our children a poor role model, prioritising looks and image, but really, if you have fango issues, or your bbobies have fallen off after lovingly feeding your kids, a little nip/tuck is not to be criticised IMHO! Do you have your hair cut/dyed, do you buy flattering clothes or wear make-up? Do you decorate your house, or spend loads of cash on THOSE curtains when you could have Tesco value ones instead? It is hard to justify spending money on ourselves when there are children starving, but if we feel we have a balance between donating to charity, helping out our friends/communities, and doing what makes US happy, for OURSELVES, then we are on the right track! V long message, sorry. Am off to dye my hair!!

Boobies, not bbobies! Like, what are they?

Other people have made the point but wanted to add my two cents worth.

Donnie you still have answered ym question of why you think it is so disgusting for someone to chose to spend money/time on making themselves feel good about their looks. Its a continium from never washing or wearing clean clothes right through to the plastic surgery every year mob.
I personally think that if you get into the cycle of having plastic surgery on every part of your body, and/or you feel you NEED to have it done to maintain your relationship, to look as good as a 'model' then there is something a bit wrong in your self esteem.
However as far as I am concerned, a nip and lift around my eyes to restore what 10-15 years of late nights working with troubled teens, motherhood and worry over sick family members, has taken away is not only acceptable its a good thing to treat myself to on my 40th birthday.

tits - well as I said before I wouldn't do mine, but thats cos they don't need it. If I had had nice pert b/c cups which then went horrible falt and saggy I'd consider it. After all the reason i'd like to save up for my eyes is because i've been complimented on them in the past so if my tits were nice then sure i'd try and keep them looking half decent.

I don't want to look like anyone else, and I don't want to permenantly look 21 (actually the thought of being 21 again is scary!). I want to look like me - with sleep, no throat infection, no hospital visits and after a fortnight on a greek island!

Good luck to anyone who is having it done and I'd love to hear success stories from anyone who has had a nip/tuck/lift in the face/eyes/jaw area.

Firstly I want to set the record straight because a couple of people have said their boobs are saggy after breastfeeding. Actually it's pregnancy and NOT breastfeeding which makes your boobs saggy.

Interesting thread. I'd never have a boob job, but I completely understand why women want to and I wish I had bigger boobs. I just couldn't do something so unnatural to my body and I'm almost certain that, with my luck, my body wouild rejhect them. I'd also feel strange and nervous about anyone fondling my fake boobs. So would dh as I've asked him.

However I did love my great big milky boobs and I wish I had naturally bigger boobs.

Hmmmm, has got me thinking now... Has anyone had an uplift, without implants? I used to have small-but-perfectly-formed 34B, they did okay til baby number 3, which just finished them off. I would just like them not to disappear under my arms when I lie on my back! (sigh....)

Not me, but you can defo get uplift without implants. I can't do links but check out www.justbreastimplants.com/breast_implant_forum.htm I can't recommend this site highly enough.

Thanks, that link is great.

Wow. I'm the OP, and hadn't looked back at this for a few days. I was actually amazed and pleased at how long this had gone on without someone launching in with an anti-surgery tirade!

I do sometimes wonder why it's OK (in some people's opinion) to rebuild your tits after a mastectomy, but not when they've disappeared post-pregnancy. But then these things aren't rational really.

Anyway, this was a thread about what happens when you have surgery, not whether it's morally it's morally wrong. If someone (who could I be thinking of ) wants to have a big row, maybe she should start another thread....

I am deffo having a tidy up, my tits scare me. So much flesh som much dangling so much puckered skin

is anyone eating atm btw?

just bumping as I'm considering this - have thought about it for a year but can't decide.

Not keen on the way donnie has presented his/her (?) case - but agree with the sentiment expressed.

I find the idea of breast implants horrible in itself, but the most distrubing thing to me is the fact that they have become normal and acceptable in our society. What does that say about us as a society? As women? That we have to undergo major surgery and insert pieces of silicone into our bodies in order to feel 'attractive, 'normal' 'sexy' or whatever. I just can't get my head around it.

p.s. please don't write off my opinon as an 'anti-surgery tirdae'. It may not be popular opinion in this Jordan-and-Heat-magazine-obssessed society, but its a genuinely held, well thought out belief.