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GiddyGiddyGoat · 11/10/2015 18:13

Ta Da.

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Blackduck · 18/10/2015 09:52

Oh Rose :( so sorry to hear about DDad.

I now feel I'm okay and should go to work - dp is putting his cross face on.....

motherinferior · 18/10/2015 10:00

Oh Rose. How awful. We're all here.

And all this is all so hard on any family stressor, isn't it. I know it's impossible not to take personally but please try. Been there done that/am there doing that.

I have no major hangover but partied like it was 1989 and came back with slightly pulled knee and achy back - the sign of an old gimmer who danced like she did back in the dayGrin

motherinferior · 18/10/2015 10:02

Posted too soon.

BD, you are only feeling better because you know you can have a break. And frankly do you really want to incur the Wrath of Sister?

Blackduck · 18/10/2015 10:12

please don't tell Sister....

Stropperella · 18/10/2015 10:19

SISTER!!!! BD is being norty!

MrsSchadenfreude · 18/10/2015 10:19

BD - don't even think of going back to work.

Rose - so sorry to hear about your DDad.

I have been hearing about all of the teen relationship traumas that apparently played out during the French exchange week. I only had half an ear on this, but did pay enough attention to hear "...and Bert told Fred he would buy him a Happy Meal if he got off with five French girls, but he only managed four." Grin

Stropperella · 18/10/2015 10:33

Rose, I'm so sorry to hear your latest update about your df. And I really admire you for managing all the family social stuff on top of everything else. I have one day of my extended family and I need 3 months to recover (and that's not an exaggeration), such is the stress caused by the clashing of so many different agendas.

I'm afraid I wasn't very nice to dh yesterday evening - and indeed I'm finding it hard to be nice to him at all at the moment, such is my resentment about shouldering all the responsibility for, well, everything. I need to find a way of dealing with this, as he's not going to change and I have to accept that and not get eaten up with poisonous resentment.

Stropperella · 18/10/2015 10:38

Jeez, MrsS, 5 girls = 1 Happy Meal? An interesting incentive system..

MontserratCaballe · 18/10/2015 10:48

Sorry to have been missing again. It's been such a busy week. I don't think this flexible working is working, IYSWIM, as I seem to be working every day but only gettting paid for some.....

Rose, so sorry to hear the news about your lovely dad. The family stress sounds appalling too. I hope you are OK. Can you have a word with the unkind cousin's parents before tonight to try to avoid a re run? So much to deal with. Thank God you are made of girders! Thinking of you and sending much love Flowers

Stropps, you are supermum. Glad DD was grateful. My dad used to lecture at Birmingham and we grew up round there. What sort of grades would she need? Hope you get some rest today.

BD, I think you are in that part of sickness when you feel well enough to bog around the house in your pyjamas but would totally floored by going to work. You have had so much on for so long that you need to take it easy. Please don't do too much, or we'll set Sister on you.

I haven't read past the last few posts so need to catch up properly. I had a lovely lunch with MI on Friday and even saw the Midlifecrisismobile. It's very smart. A bit envious. I'm being hassled now to do the macarena with DD2. WTF? Be back later

Hope you are all well and resting to restore yourselves for the coming week Smile

herbaceous · 18/10/2015 10:49

Why the hell should you change your way of shouldering everything? How about you shoulder less, and he shoulders more? You can sort out DD, your own food and laundry and any dependent animals, and he can do everything else. Including his own food and laundry. For example.

Rose - may I add my sympathies re father. When you add unreasonable siblings into the mix, it becomes almost too much.

I have a really FUN Sunday coming up next week, hosting my family for lunch. This will be 10 people, and will include:

  • dad with dementia, who constantly needs to go to the toilet, and can never remember where it is, and then has to really struggle up the stairs
  • mum with selective memory loss.
  • autistic brother
  • sis who is fretting massively about her daughter, who is due to have major brain surgery in a few weeks
  • said niece, who is now in a wheelchair and has lots of fits a day.

Plus me, DP, DS and two lovely nephews. BiL is of course not coming as he has never come to our house. Every time sis comes to visit family BiL sees it as a chance to have a 'day off', even though his coming would greatly help with niece.

I shall be drinking copiously.

RudyMentary · 18/10/2015 10:55

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wordassociationfootball · 18/10/2015 11:15

BD you have been signed off work ill. End of. Great you're feeling a bit of space to breathe. What are you planning for your week? The trees are lovely everwhere.... Some winter pansies? An exhibition? Would you like any book recommendations? Great cake recipes? Oh look, you're too busy to think about work. Being OFF work is your current work challenge. Rise to it, you can do this.

Last night was mostly good. There was that mindless chat with people you sort of recognise, about which house they were in, which went nowhere. (BTW this was a big mixed comp in West London) There were three people I had proper, interesting conversations with. One was a guy who's mum was in the public eye and had affairs and we talked about how damaging that was for his sibs, in partic. Another was a girl who is absolutely lovely and whose mum still works in publishing at 73! Fab. She married someone we were also at primary with who was my absolute first crush. But she was much more exciting to talk to. The third was a boy I was so close too. We were briefly boy and girlfriend but never even kissed and he says he split with me because of peer pressure from one boy in particular, and he was really riled when this boy and I went out for 18 months or so a few years later!

I had lots of fun with my lovely co-organiser friend and was proud to tell people she was my kids godmum, partic as she doesn't have kids.

There was one woman there who looked amazing and clearly has a big face-budget. All she really said about herself to me was in relation to who she had gone out with - an utterly hot, intelligent bloke who went on to be a drummer in a fairly-well known band. I'd seen he was on the fb group and I reckon she, and her face, were on a mission there Smile Btw I fancied him loads and had snogs but at a party once he said the most crushing thing to me 'Not tonight WAF-ephine.' Jgeddit?

The thing that spoiled it was that this bloke who I had spent a lot of time with doing drama and speech comps - who sent me the most sophisticated Valentine I've ever had: A Valentine issue stamp as a postcard with 'I love' you written on the back in seven different languages - and whose elder brother I fancied and bought batteries I didn't need from most Saturday's in his Saturday job, well he was just so awkward last night. I was looking forward to some witty banter and chat about our lives but he started by ignoring me, then was all a bit.... creepy. 'I only came because of you. When we were 13, you didn't know, but I was madly in love with you.' Err, I DID know. In seven different languages Grin. Then he grilled me on why I hadn't friended him on fb and I really regretted having greeted him by throwing my arms round him, which I was doing with everyone. And I couldn't really get him beyond that.

HILARIOUS!!!!!! MY PHONE JUST BEEPED AND IT'S HIM SENDING ME A FRIEND REQUEST. Is there a button for 'Sorry, it would be yes, but you were just too awkward.'

Then we all got chucked out and loads of people went to a late pub but I thought. This evening has given of me what it has to give and I went home.

motherinferior · 18/10/2015 11:21

In rodent news, still awol.

NUFC69 · 18/10/2015 11:28

Rose, that's so sad about your DD and her cousin, big hug from me. And I am so sorry to hear about DDad. Much strength to you over the coming weeks.

BD, keep on taking it easy, and follow Sister's advice. So nice to hear that DS was concerned about you.

Stropps, well done on yesterday's trip to Birmingham, and good news that DD was appreciative. Sorry that DH isn't stepping up to the plate.

Thinking about you, too, MI.

Herbs, next weekend sounds like a nightmare, you have my sympathies.

WAF, I hope you're ok now?

Got back from the early morning service to discover DS and his two DC playing in the garden - so we gave them all breakfast and they have just gone home. We have the joy of a football match this afternoon (deep irony) and I might call in at Primark on the way to pick up a couple of 'house' jumpers for the winter. I briefly looked in on the way to the dental hospital on Friday and was quite impressed with one or two things.

bigTillyMint · 18/10/2015 11:33

NOOOOOOO BD. Step away from the briefcase! WAF offers good advice on how to fill your daysWink

Rose, so sorry to hear about your DDad, even if it's what you expected. You do seem to have a lot of family social functions to manage too - must be hard work.

Stropps, Herbs is right! Could you have another chat with him and draw up a list of things he has to be responsible for and put it on the fridge like in a shared student flat so that you can point him at it whenever necessary? DH and I divvied up jobs years ago and (now we have a cleaner again), it works pretty well!

WAF, sounds like your party was a great success - well done on organising it! Shame about the creepy wannabe stalker - don't blame you for heading home if he was hanging about!
I went to an all-girls school, so I don't think any reunions would be nearly as exciting.

bigTillyMint · 18/10/2015 11:37

NU, one of my colleagues got a lovely polo-neck poncho thing there last week - very tempted myself!

RudyMentary · 18/10/2015 11:57

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Blackduck · 18/10/2015 12:06

I am hiring WAF as a life coach...

Deed is done, emails sent. Work trousers hung up out of sight.

Dp thinks I ought to find a mini break and bugger off for a few days.

Might be in London for a bit of H-T if anyone is around for a MU?

motherinferior · 18/10/2015 12:14

I was rather ahem disconcerted to discover that someone I went to school with gave his daughter my name as her middle name. And no, this wasn't coincidence...

motherinferior · 18/10/2015 12:17

We now have eurythmics and Hunan League blasting out different rooms. I may had executed a few extra dance moves too. My children are huddled in their rooms.Grin

bigTillyMint · 18/10/2015 12:18

Mini-break sounds like a great idea. You might get a good last minute mid-week deal? Do you like spa's?
I will be back on the Friday, though I may be jet-lagged and exhausted!

MrsSchadenfreude · 18/10/2015 12:21

Yes, yes, do come to London, BD. We can go somewhere nice for dinner (Mildred's?) or do something like an exhibition.

DD1 was under strict instructions to text me as soon as she had cleared passport control, collected her baggage and was with her friend. She forgot, and my texts went unanswered. Got a FB message about 5 hours later. Hmm

I have made a chocolate refrigerator cake and may make some chutney this afternoon. I wanted to make some more mincemeat, but DH appears to have thrown out all of my jars.

I wish my DDs had cousins. They have one, who is younger than they are. I spent loads of time with my cousins when I was a child, and still get on well with them. Unfortunately, most of them had kids young, and the DDs only have three second cousins the same age as them, whom they have never met, because my cousin doesn't tend to socialise with the rest of the family. They do have some third cousins the same age as them, but they live in Shetland, so don't see them very often!

motherinferior · 18/10/2015 12:26

My sister has two boys and the older one in particular has always had a fab relationship with DD1 - they're I separately when together - and younger one now seems to get on v well with DD2 (they are only five months apart but there's a school year between them: older two are about 18 months apart). They all look ridiculously alike - you'd think they were all siblings.

There are various other cousins/second cousins on the scene but mostly in Asia.

Stropperella · 18/10/2015 13:05

Auriga, forgot to say: I hope the party for your dm goes well and your baking is well-received.
Re: allocating chores to dh - I have tried this many times. It is about as successful as allocating them to dd, i.e. not at all. I had a major go at him after my last post. He had the grace to look embarrassed and said he would take the oven door off for cleaning this evening (although he seems to think I will help with this - ha!). It's not just about chores, it's about parenting and taking responsibility. He and dd are currently equally crap at the latter and I'm tired of having to sort out everything for all of us all the time. Oh well, maybe he will be proactively helpful this evening. He has gone to Taunton to some bass players' convention this afternoon.

Cousins - hmm, they are a bit tricky. See my previous post about family gatherings. I was asked to have my dnephews to stay at the end of the summer to help with an inset/work probably and I said no (db persists in thinking that working from home means not working at all). Apart from all other issues, I am not sure that I would have been able to return dn2 to his parents in one piece. He is, er, a "spirited" child. Hmm
WAF - sounds like a great night, but be wary of friending too many of them on FB. Sometimes you later realised there were good reasons you didn't keep in touch one you'd left school.Grin

motherinferior · 18/10/2015 13:27

Oh god I know re responsibility. If I go away DP handles everything fabulously but when I'm here I'm default in charge parent re school etc....