Tomorrow, and tomorrow, and tomorrow, Crepes in this petty pace from day to day

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Anything but the C-word!

Bad luck Herbs, it will happen. am also rubbish at interviews and then one day when I thought I'd messed up spectacularly I got it - so you never know

Well done MI. Worst (I hope) over

Auriga - how long have you got before all these mega events? good idea re food and drink - just make sure the food isn't all cheese-based as happened once to me/lalsy

Molly - that's interesting this end too. I don't know about migraines but ds def. gets headaches and I get migraines so I'm keeping an eye. Love Dory Previn

Anyone else really cold in the evenings now? Our heating's not coming yet so it must just be me.

Oh yes, about cheese. Good luck with the cat-herding/jelly-nailing, Auriga.

Stropps, that all sounds really positive about dd - I know it is early days and you are right to be cautious but still, massive steps in right direction. And great you are enjoying your Wednesdays.

Interviews - do any of us think we are good at them? My biggest fail was tripping over while carrying cup of tea, hitting the interviewer with the contents. It was for my volunteering, so we agreed I should work with humans not blowtorches .

Staggers in... Soft opening of new Indian in town = lots of free fizz and not enough nibbles...

Oh well.... Who cares...

Staggers off to bed

BD

Stropps that is great news all round!

MI, well done!

Addle, we have heating in the morning but not needed at night yet.

Here DD was moaning about the amount of work she has to do, particularly for tomorrow. She did some before her friend came round and they went off to the gym at 6.30. He is still here and they are chatting in the kitchen, so is it
a - all finished
b - will be finished at silly o'clock tonight
c - not finished so a mega melt-down when he goes/she is supposed to get up and go into school tomorrow?

Oooh, yes, good point, love Dory Previn. Haven't listened to her for decades a while. Off to download some.

Stropps - the NICE guidelines for migraine should come with a health warning (not sure about the cluster headache one). They haven't been updated to reflect recent advances yet. And NICE has compromised on the quality of evidence it considers, so may not necessarily know better than the GP. Don't know if that helps you, just a bit of context.

Things are looking up. I asked on our local parent's forum for tips, opportunities or even work in the EAL field, and a few hours later have the offer of some paid classroom support work in a local sixth form college, and numerous volunteering opportunities. Hurrah.

That's bloody brilliant Herbs!

Liking the carrot tactic Stropps - but do you also have a big stick??!

Cancel any parties you don't fancy hosting Auriga if the guests buggers are being too difficult / demanding. Book a nice restaurant instead and tell them they can all pay for themselves...

• that doesn't seem like the right description of the gesture I mean - but I can't think of it... think I'd better have an early night.

well Big Don was rather good. A delightful re arrangement of Vincent that made my eyes leak a little bit.
All passed off peacefully with a nice audience.
Molly I think he's playing The Fairfield Halls at the weekend. ( weird flashback alert-I used to work there as a student, mostly cleaning up after Rocky Horror audiences, as I recall)

Herbs - amazing. Well done you.

Stropps - glad things are looking up a bit with DD.

Bd - it's horrible when things are difficult at school. The little jobs sound like a good idea.

I had DS in tears yesterday as therw had been a bit of a disagreement and a girl had said "go away dont speak to me" and when he walked away she yelled "why are you walking away?" and started cry. He said he doesnt understand women. I said this is just the start

Waves feebly as suffering pains from over exertion of shoulder muscles from too much breast stroke. I have decided that I am just wave jumping today, not actually swimming.

Bd, I have a cold which is giving me nasal drip, hence I sound as if I smoke 40 a day. And on the subject of cigarettes, it seems the Germans at the hotel haven't heard of health problems as so many of them hem smoke. I seem to have got particularly sensitive now we have stronger rules at home. Good luck with the parties, Auriga.

Oooh yes, fantastic result, Herbs.

Herbs, brilliant, how exciting.

And MI, well done on getting through, I am sure they found it all very interesting.

Herbs, that's great news! Well done

Well done, Herbs! When do you start?

Auriga, thanks for that bit of info about NICE. Guess I'll just put those bits of paper in the recycling - dd said she found it all for herself on the net anyway. It says you should consider the need for neuroimaging (GP laughed in my face about the idea of a referral, as apparently the neurologists here have such long waiting lists they are not bothering to give a wait time any more); you shouldn't offer oral triptans for acute management, but nasal or subcutaneous (dd has only oral, which isn't working) and you should arrange oxygen therapy (GP looked at us as if we were mad when dd mentioned this). It's just that the last thing she needs is a bout of cluster headaches during exams with no proper management in place. Oh well. I guess I just have to accept that I can't do anything about that. I wish the GP would just give her a proper load of blood tests, because she is pale as a piece of paper and complaining of being exhausted, despite having pretty much done nothing last week and having had a fairly large amount of sleep.

GGG, sadly the only Big Stick available will be the self-inflicted one of failing hideously and not getting to university to do what she wants to do. And all the fallout that will come with that. I am all out of workable ideas about other big sticks. Any suggestions?

Hatty - poor ds. But at your comments.

btw, for those who wonder: dd is well aware that I post on here/talk to you lot about her and seems to be perfectly happy about this. She knows that she has benefited from Crepey advice on occasion. She has also sometimes made specific requests that I don't mention certain things and I comply with these requests. Believe it or not, you are only getting the ferociously edited high(low)lights.

herbs I am singing tunes from The Sound of Music in your honour. When one door closes..... Great news!

MI lecturing sounds good...do we get more details ?

hatty poor DS...you're right, he's got it all to come. Who'd be a teenager eh? As much as we struggle to suffers them, I don't think we actually want to go back there....

auriga I am ashamed to say I subscribe to the control freak school of party planning. If I'm arranging it, or its in my house, I rule the proceedings with an iron rod. When it was DParents ruby wedding anniversary, we made them a celebratory tea at a posh hotel. I was heavily pregnant with DD and DSis's made lots of excuses, so it all fell to me. DM couldn't stop herself from interfering monumentally and I was in tears over it all more than once. dBro refused to pay his way as he said he'd already bought them a present and so as not to further upset DM we had to pay not only for him and DSil but DSILs mother and her parents. ( DM insisted they were invited). Never again. When it came to DMs 80th two years ago, I stuck to my guns. We would pay our contribution but I didn't get involved in the arrangements other than to turn up. Good luck with it all.

I am facing a stressful day. I am hiding in Starbucks as a result. The entire family is home for various reasons. I have to go to the home to feed DDad lunch as DM, DH and DBro are meeting a financial adviser about how to fund Ddads place in the Home going forward. DM won't let the home feed him...so she's asked me. AIBU to feel that at 1,300 squids per week plus, she should be entrusting this to the home? I hate myself for feeling resentful but I do. I turned down work as a result and have to leave Dd who is ill, home alone for hours, and won't have enough to time to get my class ready for tonight's teaching.

Rose, of course the home should be feeding him. Not exactly sure how you convince her, but could you say that the home feel that it's better if they do it because it's part of their contract?

Oh Rose . (And I've just sent you an email wondering if you have five mins for a feature chat....)

I have a headache and am really tired – woke up at 5ish and didn’t get much sleep after that. I did skip the Ladysplash. I feel really whacked around and sorry for myself.

Oh no, Rose. Your dm really needs to let go a bit. Easier said than done, of course. :(

Oh bugger. Routine call to mum, who apparently left message - has been in hospital again, bowel stuff. Fear I should nip up on Sat. Wot larks.

Oh bugger MI, I hope she'll be ok. That's not good news on top of a sleepless night.

Rose, YANBU. Something has to give. Dm can't control everything. Although I can understand that it's the very loss of control that's driving her intransigence. Very difficult. Perhaps just putting your foot down and living with the fall out would be best. Really unfair on you. So sorry.

Stropps, I'm wondering if dd is anaemic.? Was the first thing I thought of when you mentioned pale and tired. So sorry that her needs are not being addressed. Has the gp made any kind of referral at all? Is there an outpatients or a clinic that deals with migraine? Seems utterly unfair to be thrown to the wolves, especially given the ALevel situation. Frustration!!!!

Herbs you are a wonder! How brilliant, thinking out of the box and getting paid work!
Respec'

Auriga, your situation resonates with our organisation of dm's 70th a few years ago. In the end ( after a great deal of faffing, hearing 100different opinions and dealing with mums control freakery) I sent out an invitation with specific times of when food would be served, cake cut, etc, with an email address rsvp.
Then let people suit themselves. Strangely most people were quite laws abiding.
Might just work for you??

Love to all in their various endeavours today.

Oh dear, MI. Fingers crossed that it's nothing major. Or nothing that can't be sorted.

And Rose - agree with the others. At that price, the home should be feeding him. I know it must be hard for your mum to relinquish a vestige of control, but it's rather ridiculous...

And thanks for props! I spent yesterday sulking, then mildly beating myself up, then remembering that my social media expert friend, and master networker, said I had to get myself out there. So I did! And it paid dividends. There is a very lovely network of parents in my neck of the woods. Nothing has actually turned into an actual arrangement as yet, but I have hope.

I am currently trying to edit a website (more paid work). But am staring blankly at the CMS. Hopefully all will become clear.

Ah well, the carrot has been composted. Dd days she is too useless at driving to continue with lessons and apparently she is also not allowed to drive when she is taking the meds prescribed for cluster headaches. She asked for a lift to school, but then started crying and saying she wanted me to take her back home. I refused, so she has got out of the car and walked home. I'm sitting in the car in the school car park.

I think I'm about ready to give up.