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Though She Be Crepey, She Is FIERCE!

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QueenQueenie · 26/07/2015 17:14

Ta Da!

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bigTillyMint · 29/07/2015 07:46

Cremo, is it today? Hope you blurp all over HH if it's bad newsWink

I know, Rudy. How she can be so daring on one hand and yet so anxious on the other, I just don't get it. I am going to be a nervous wreck. But there is still lots of time for her to bottle itWink

Just been down to the driving range - great for taking your frustrations out! I'm having a Tui, DD is cooking risotto and DH and DS have gone for a run.

motherinferior · 29/07/2015 08:28

Deffo puke, Cremo.

Adele and Auriga, how tough. I am so sorry.

I had a lie-in this morning instead of a Ladyjog. Which was the right thing to do. DD1 is intent on earning money to go the The Shops with friends tomorrow so I am going to exploit her to the max and we may actually have a viable habitat by close of play todayGrinGrinGrin.

wordassociationfootball · 29/07/2015 09:54

Btm - you and your gung ho approach to holidaying are very uplifting. Impressed you have a dd who makes risotto too.

Auriga, you have a lot on your plate Flowers

Crem, wonder if HR is getting any hint of all these crepey Brian thoughts.

Herbs - those comments are fantastic.

Like other freelances, work is like wading through treacle with the DDS underfoot. Big one is sad as things went the way of the pear with bff just before breaking up. She is staying in her room a lot. Has produced an abstract painting, played the guitar and read much but is v low. Dd2 wants friends and entertainment and I am falling short on providing them.

Was rear ended at lights the other day so we will be loading the car via back seat as ruddy boot jammed shut.

wordassociationfootball · 29/07/2015 09:55

Meant to say Addle that is v Sad

wordassociationfootball · 29/07/2015 09:58

Also that I have been out of touch as sleep problem getting me low, but am fighting back by doing a no napping approach that is improving my self esteem. Was always last up and often still tired. So just getting up at 7 whatever.

bigTillyMint · 29/07/2015 10:11

WAF, sorry you have sleep problems - it really gets to you when you can't sleep, doesn't it? I think trying to stick to a sensible routine and no napping is a good idea - hopefully it will help. Flowers
And sorry about your DD - is she Y9? Horrible time IMHE

motherinferior · 29/07/2015 10:18

oh WAF that is GRIM. Sleep stuff really finishes me off.

DD1 has managed to get as far as the shower. Grin Envy I made her shudder by proposing she excavate the kitchen cupboards. I may take them out for lunch, but they don't know that yet.

cremolafoam · 29/07/2015 12:15

Oh WaF , I feel for you as previously suffered insomnia for over a year until they found I had an overactive thyroid.do go to the doc if it gets any worse.the routine thing is a very good plan imho.also eating at same time every day and making the wind down to sleep a commitment. Do the things that must be done and then make a list of the rest. Take a long time in the bathroom, bathe or moisturise with lavender infused something. Try the other side of the bed, or anywhere else like the sofa or another bedroom until you can nod off.it helps break the habit.
Sorry about dd. breaking up with friend. It is hurtful and sad. Sad

So I struggled off to HR for the 1:1 which turned out to be a 1:2.Shock
They let a few things slip( like the number of people they had on the list to stay on), and actually I came out more confident about the longevity of my job. Things will radically change, and the JD will alter quite a bit. I made a point about training staff on new systems and the lead time for that. She said they weren't aware of that( sigh) and /or quite a lot of other comments I made on the new jds. Nevertheless I think with the couple of people going for VR there should be a job for all of us in the new structure. ( provisionally )
All in all it was a mostly useful opportunity to express my anxieties rage about how the whole thing had been handled and the pressure freaking out it had put on the department. They were quite exasperated to hear that procedure had gone out the window, and we had been lied to by the HH from the beginning, thus raising and dashing expectations in a ridiculous ' I'm a big in charge bastard and you are minions' kind of way. I made the point about how under valued we were and that despite being the ones in the front line with the public , we had no support either from the top down or sideways.
I am having a lie down. And wondering what else I could do if I chose to go. I can't get rid of the fog. Haven't puked today, but was up in the night with diarrhoea. Lovely

wordassociationfootball · 29/07/2015 12:30

Sounds like you handled yourself supremely Crem.

Thanks for thoughts all. Thyroid is OK.

Garage doing repair estimates for the car managed to unjam the boot. Awesome. Always good to be able to load via the rear door, I feel. We will doubtless still manage a Packing Row.

wordassociationfootball · 29/07/2015 12:32

dd2 has grumped off for tennis (and general not hereness) with my sis. I await comms of some sort from her complaining about her . She once rang me when dd was three when in charge of her because dd wouldn't put on her coat Grin

lalsy · 29/07/2015 12:54

Crem, am so pleased that a) your job is probably safe and b) that you got to tell it like it is. These process are made so much worse by lies and obfuscation. Have a Big Lie Down.

WAF, sorry to hear about insomnia. I have had that and it is a bugger. Weirdly given my age, I am sleeping better than I ever have at the moment - just bought a new mattress which has made a massive difference and also I have been doing a lot of exercise (slight, ahem, gaps in freelance workload which I am trying to enjoy and make something of as dh working all hours - makes for a cheap lifestyle!). I go to bed later than everyone, and am often first up, but I sleep well in between.

BTM, I would definitely have needed Brian in all that!

CointreauVersial · 29/07/2015 13:27

Sounds productive, Crem! Always good to be listened to.

I must phone the DDs to check if they are out of bed yet. I left a load of washing on, with instructions to hang it on the line once finished; also to tidy their rooms. I put two chocolate brownies in a box, and told them they could open the box once the above had been completed. What's the betting I come home to an empty box and a full washing machine? Grin

DS, meanwhile, took himself off to the Stepping Stones last night (local beauty spot on the river - Strops will know it) with three friends and a tent, and spent the night camping out. Almost certainly "not allowed", but I figured there are worse things he could be doing. They all woke at 4.30am, caught the bus to the nearest MacDonalds (Kingston! Grin) for breakfast, and back again, and now GF has dragged him (yawning heavily) off to London to visit an art gallery. An art gallery!! DS!!!

motherinferior · 29/07/2015 14:06

I am HUGELY enjoying DD1's reaction to the state of our cupboards. And the pristine restocking.

DD2 is learning to put on eyeliner. This is a project in itself. She worries about her looks, DD2 - doesn't like her hair, etc etc - and she's so pretty, really she is. She has beautifully-shaped eyes so the eyeliner will work wonders. But I wish she could realise how lovely she is it might take Boys to make her realise it.

Blackduck · 29/07/2015 14:54

Cremo glad your hr 1:2 was mostly positive. Unfortunately pretty sure that isn't how ours will turn out. Our HH has been let loose with a deliberate plan and the centre couldn't give two hoots about the resulting canage. I have decided I will challenge their response as I am sick of it all and I can't work for someone I have zero respect for. P45 here I come...

Blackduck · 29/07/2015 15:00

On holiday news I had a bikini moment and am wondering why I have trussed myself up in a full piece for this long!! (Fine for doing lengths of the pool but sweltering in the sun?!?)

motherinferior · 29/07/2015 16:00

BD, so sorry about the carnage. But good on you re bikini. I am happy to report that my Large Purple Pants are actually rather stylish. And not shiny. They contain, without trussing.

Blackduck · 29/07/2015 18:56

Zanzibar Brian in use by ds...

motherinferior · 29/07/2015 19:27

Oh lord, my mum's in hospital again. Watch this space. Sad

Stropperella · 29/07/2015 20:29

Ah no, MI, hope everything gets better pronto. :(

Oh you travellers, it's no use me pretending, I am mucho Envy of Tanzania and NZ. I have sort-of family connections to both, so have always hankered after visiting. My df ran a teacher training college in Tanzania (though back when it was called somefink else) and I had an uncle and still have an ex-bil and dd has several cousins in NZ..

Crem, very well done on telling it how it is and sorry to hear Brian has been getting a workout. Hope you feel better very soon.

Auriga, I was so glad to hear that you had a lovely break in Germany, but am sorry to hear that things back at home are not so splendid. I hope plans for the rest of the summer do not go too much awry.

Addle, well done. Flowers And good luck with selling the scooter.

Herbs - TOPTASTIC, missus. And go out and get yerself a job. Rejoice in the positive feedback and enjoy the hols whilst you can!

And now, permit me to lie down and scream on the virtual ground - dd is being more than averagely loony. I am pretty sure that if she pulled one of her 'special effing and blinding/throwing everything she can get her hands one whilst verbally threatening the physical security of everyone present' stunts in any other crepey household, there would be Shock faces aplenty. Ds has got to the point where he just says "Meh, she is a loon" and suggests that she leave home. Suffice to say, we have a difficult 24 hours, then we have 24 hours off, then we have a difficult 24 hours. I am enjoying my 24 hours off (have had 'serious and sensible' convo with dd and she has now buggered off to the beach with her (remaining) mates - she has even managed to upset a bunch of her friends too, so its not just home-based any more) by having a glass of some Muscat that has been lurking under the stairs for several years. i.e. we had no booze in and I am desperate enough to think that dessert wine is a reasonable option.

I have had a day where it was impossible to feel youthful. I had my over-50s health check with the practice nurse - passed with flying colours, not least because despite extreme provocation and an early run round the block, my BP is still only 107/60. But then I had to go to the NHS old lady eyes clinic in the afternoon. I was the youngest in the waiting room by about 15 years and the doctor was not in the least reassuring about the possibility of evening up my droopy eyes. Don't think I will bother following that one up. I suspect that it would only be possible to get my eyelids dealt with properly privately. He just wanted to cut a bit of skin off the right one due to the issues with peripheral vision/Bell's palsy and when I queried about how it might look afterwards, he said, "Yeah, yeah, look same." Not convinced. Hmm

Stropperella · 29/07/2015 20:56

WAF, big sympathy on the insomnia front. I had increasingly appalling insomnia for 5 years, finishing up with 6 months where I really only did sleep 1 hour a night. And no, I didn't imagine I wasn't sleeping, it really got that bad. Which is why I take the anxiolytics. And in effect I am too scared to come off them, because every time I try, it immediately goes back to no sleep at all and I simply can't function. Had some hairy driving moments when I was seriously sleep-deprived and I am never going there again. I would never drive drunk and I will never drive sleep-deprived again, either.

bigTillyMint · 29/07/2015 20:59

Cremo, glad the meeting sounds more positive than expected and at least you have a better idea of where you stand.

BD glad you have decided what to do next re your job. And that you are enjoying wearing your bikiniSmile

MI sorry to hear that. Fingers crossed.

CV, if any gf ever gets DS into an art gallery I will faint in amazement!

Stropps, sympathies re DD. I think mine almost managed a whole day without any screeching (was first thing in the morning and TBF, DH was being very annoying) yesterday. How annoying/disappointing at the eye clinicAngry

Here I am lying in bed watching the sun rise from behind the Remarkables mountains. I want a flat exactly like this one when the DC leave home. Maybe by the sea. DH is taking DS off for a round of golf later and DD should be doing some homework...

motherinferior · 29/07/2015 22:20

God knows what's up with mum - family friend (my age) staying there so she bullied them into contacting docs...some kind of internal blockage. Just hoping it doesn't involve more damn surgery.

CointreauVersial · 29/07/2015 23:46

Hope it's not serious, MI. Always worrying, though.

I'm just back from a Stella & Dot jewellery party next door. I was very restrained, and focused on buying "presents for others" but there was a lot of tempting stuff and I had to sit on my wallet.

Even though we've lived here for six and a half years, that was the first time I've set foot in the house next door. She's always been very friendly; they are only ten years or so older than us, but at a totally different stage in life (grown up kids, grandchildren etc) so we've not had a lot in common.

I also met several of my neighbours who, up until now, I had only waved at in passing, or spoken to briefly while collecting a parcel. Again, all older than us. It's crepey-tastic around here. Grin

bigTillyMint · 30/07/2015 03:51

Well DD has done her bungy jump! I actually thought I was going to be sickBlush Vid on FB.

Off to the Ice Bar now to calm my nerves!

Blackduck · 30/07/2015 05:18

MI hope mum is okay.
Stropps DD sounds very, well, trying. Hope it sorts itself.

Here I have had a fitful night with Brian and erm 'the other end' with ds (never washed so many knickers in such a short space of time). He seems to be okay today.

We went to The Rock yesterday (overpriced average food so jest had a drink - pic on FB). Dp said 'you know I said I want to retire by the sea - I meant that house' (pointing to a private villa) Grin

Swam in a great pool had lovely food. All good until ds threw up.