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Crepeys on the Verge of an Examination Meltdown

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whattodoforthebest2 · 02/06/2015 10:49

Not sure if I should be starting the new thread as I'm the last poster on the old one - is this how it works?

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MontserratCaballe · 09/06/2015 12:28

We are back! Thanks for all the good wishes for DD. She had a ball and thought it went well. I don't mind how it has gone as long as she enjoyed herself and ideally has passed (bit too much of a knock to the old confidence not to pass at age 8). We won't find out for a few weeks though.

Rose, I am sorry people have made comments about your dress. I thought you looked amazing. Much of it may be envy, alas. I would love a mini meet up. I am in town Tues - Thurs and, although the next few weeks are busy, I should be quieter by the end of the month. We could have our Russell Square luncheon and walk. Anyone else?

Glad to hear walking is so good. I am considerably better at it than I am at running (not hard!).

I have a man calling me about remaking my will in a minute. I think I have sorted out what I want. DH is Hmm about my request for a Mass though. I have said that if we go together, he doesn't have to join in.....

hattymattie · 09/06/2015 12:57

Rose - why do people have to be so mean - although I cannot see all of the dress, the bit I can see on FB plus your fabulous cleavage looks amazing.

MI - according to the Korean beauty thread, their sunscreens are light, effective and don't have the white nuance that European sunscreens give.

Rosebag · 09/06/2015 13:19

Thanks lovely laydeez. The worst was FIL who (at DBIL's mourning ceremony last night….even more inappropriate) jabbed me in the arm (have a bruise to prove it...) and said he saw my dress on fb and it was disgusting. He was a bit tongue in cheek but I was mortified. Angry Blush And I am most definitely not a prude. He is not on my fb…i never added him inspite of multiple friend requests but it turns out DD and DS have, and he sees anything I tag them in. Confused Angry

Giggle, NU I only have a 'tache in the rear view mirror on a sunny day so I can remain in denial about it. Wink For the time being. Not so much about the pubes, which are alive and kicking and advancing confidently down my thighs…

Monty great about DD…how lovely to be graceful and to be able to dance. I am deffo up for a Russell Sq MU…just need some notice so later in the month is good or July. Anyone else…?

lalsy · 09/06/2015 13:26

Rose, I think jabbing a woman hard enough to bruise her arm so he can insult her appearance and comment on her breasts is appallingly bad manners. He should be ashamed and embarrassed, not you.

Well done miniMonty!

CointreauVersial · 09/06/2015 13:28

Rose - how rude and hurtful of FIL. Is he usually so insensitive? Angry I'm not on FB but I'm sure you looked gorgeous. I'm sure those whose opinions matter said so too.

What - I am in Dorking right now.... I work here, and DCs are at school just around the corner (the one starting with an "A"). Don't you have a 15yo??

bigTillyMint · 09/06/2015 13:48

Rose, I completely agree with Lalsy and CVAngry
Has he got form for this kind of thing?

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whattodoforthebest2 · 09/06/2015 14:00

Hello CV what a coincidence. DS2 went to A and dropped out of 6th form (only did a year), so I don't know it very well. DD is at school in Reigate, but off to college in Horsham in September.

Would you like to meet up for a coffee/chat/walk or something sometime?

I'd def be up for a meetup in London too, but prob going on hols in July, haven't organised anything yet, trying to make my mind up...

Rose - I am tall and noticeable and I find people can be v rude when I'm wearing something nice. I tell myself it's envy or bitchiness. Whatever it is, I don't care. I'm sure you looked lovely and your FIL was v rude regardless. Perhaps think of a suitable put-down for next time if that's appropriate?

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herbaceous · 09/06/2015 15:56

Rose, what an old git. I hope you did and 'did you mean to be so rude?'

Had a formative assessment teaching session, and though I say so myself NAILED it. One of my fellow trainees said it was 'awesome'. Feeling quite pleased with myself.

And tonight, for the first time (at just about half past ten) I've got NO WORK TO DO, so I plan to loll about drinking wine.

Stropperella · 09/06/2015 15:56

FKK = freie Körper Kultur. German for nudism - or going topless at the very least. Almost mandatory in some places. Although I did get told off for working topless in a vineyard once. (what was I thinking) I don't care about body hair enough to do anything about it.

Stropperella · 09/06/2015 16:01

Eh, Rose, your FiL sounds less than charming.

MontserratCaballe · 09/06/2015 16:03

Go Herbs. Fantastic news. Well done FlowersStarWine

MrsS - you racy devil ShockGrin

MontserratCaballe · 09/06/2015 16:04

And LOVING the Weather girls reference! None of the rubbishy Geri Halliwell cover version here though...

Rosebag · 09/06/2015 16:12

He isn't usually quite so inappropriate….not sure what came over him. I never think of clever retorts on the spot…always later on.

CV What we must meet one day on my many drives backwards and forwards to West Sussex on the A24….

bigTillyMint · 09/06/2015 16:44

Well done Herbs! Hope it rains some men for youWink

MrsSShockGrin - I kept my stripping off to nudey beaches on Greek Islands in another life when I was slim.

Stropperella · 09/06/2015 16:57

Well done, Herbs, enjoy a well deserved evening off. I worked until too late last night and consequently had a bit of a hairy drive up to Surrey today. All just to give in work/get it back. And then went for coffee with my tutor group and the tutor. But the one person in the tutor group that I get on with, didn't come as she had to work and the convo during coffee left me wishing that I had dashed off as well. Why is it that some people in life get more confidence than they really ought to have and others seem to end up with a minus amount?
Currently feeling confused about what to do for the best re: work. Things are not v. straightforward and I know that I need to be careful what I take on or I will end up in a big fat mess, health-wise. I wish this was not the case, but it is my reality and I have to work with that, rather than pretending it is ALL FINE and I can take whatever is thrown at me. That way madness lies. Sad, but true. I find it quite hard (understatement) to balance up our need for cold, hard cash and my need to do the right thing by myself.

Monty, well done your dd on her ballet exam. And you don't look anything other than lovely in your FB photos. Are you sure you have to lose weight?

Ahhh, Dorking. Home of the giant cock. And many of my relatives. Was going to get a Dorking chicken to impress the rellies, but I was told they are so overbred that they're not very good layers any more. So I didn't.

herbaceous · 09/06/2015 17:07

Know just what you mean stoops re confidence. Or < cocky twats >. As I believe they're known.

I have bought a box fresh copy of Nigella Express from my face charity shop. (Along with another dress and a darth maul tshirr. For DS). I don't know how I've lived this long without this book.

herbaceous · 09/06/2015 17:35

Sorry. My message was total garbage, due to being on phone. I meant stropps, of course, and that those possessed of confidence are 'cocky bastards'.

motherinferior · 09/06/2015 18:27

I'm so tired. SO TIRED. I can't imagine not feeling crap atm. And have weird lump in my stomach I'm not admitting to feeling worried about.

herbaceous · 09/06/2015 19:04

I am on 'cheery' duty. Poor DP's uncle (his dad's brother) died last night, and his mum started chemo. It's all a bit much for him ATM.

I too am knackered. Haven't slept well for what seems like aeons. But with no teaching tomorrow, or assignment weighing over me (for a day or so), I'm hoping for a good coma tonight.

Stropperella · 09/06/2015 19:24

MI, go to the doc and get the weird lump looked at. Sorry to hear you are feeling crap and run-down.
Oh Herbs, your poor dp. And I hope you manage to get some decent zzzzzzz.

bigTillyMint · 09/06/2015 19:45

Oh Herbs that sounds heavy going for your DP. And you.

MI, get to the GP.

Stropps, you are so right. Some people live a charmed life and others seem to always get the shitty end of the stick. Health has to come first, look after yourself.

Off to the hipster outdoor rooftop cinema shortly - hopefully we won't have torrential rain, but it is pretty windy. And I hope I don't fall asleep as I am also knackered! Am expecting anguished calls/texts from DD who has chosen this moment to switch to her new phone, which involves saving stuff on an icloud and I have already had to find passwords, etc despite knowing nothing about bloody Apple products.

Rosebag · 09/06/2015 20:03

Funnily enough, Stropps I was talking to BFF today about that very thing. We concluded that supremely confident people can just walk the walk and talk the talk….and when things go wrong it's always someone else's fault iyswim. The rest of us take adversity and failure so personally, that it affects our confidence going forward. Oh but we are often nicer people, aren't we?

Herbs That is rough…sorry for you and DP but try to enjoy your freedom from having to do essays for a bit!

MI what kind of lump? I guess it should be checked out. Sorry you're so knackered. Can you rest this evening?

Have had a day of domestic drudgery briefly punctuated by tea with BFF which was delightful. DH and DS2 have gone off to BIL's Mourning ceremony. I am going to collapse in front of Holby.

Looking forward to a morning writing with ConS tomorrow who I haven't seen for ages and find myself missing a bit. Then I have to take DD to get her fixed brace fitted at last, having had nearly 2 years of a bulky functional one. I predict sore a sore mouth and a diet of mashed banana and yoghurt. Yuck.

NUFC69 · 09/06/2015 20:05

Sorry to hear about yet more family problems for DP, Herbs, but well done on being up to date with things and loud applause for your teaching earlier today. MI, echo what others have said - get to the doctor. Stropps, just ease yourself into things and don't over commit.

We're sort of packed: things like chargers, cosmetics, etc., to add tomorrow morning. DH is outside watering like mad (NDN will be looking after things but he is putting pots etc together). I am scoffing a big bag of juicy black cherries - just one more I keep on thinking. I will wave to you all as I fly over London tomorrow.

lalsy · 09/06/2015 20:09

MI, you know what you would say to anyone else....

Stropps, a difficult line to walk indeed but your health matters more than anything. No-one can cope with everything that is thrown at them I don't think - I know some people who appear very confident who have not coped at all with life's googlies (is that a word?) and I think sometimes superficial confidence hides a lot of insecurity. But I agree those of us who display our insecurities are often nicer Smile. And some people are just arrogant tossers.

Herbs, I hope you can still enjoy your well earned glass of wine tonight.

motherinferior · 09/06/2015 20:10

Not sure what sort of lump so please nag me to make appointment. The exhaustion probably isn't linked - it hits me sometimes and also this damn period is really doing its usual horrible thing...