Crepeys on the Verge of an Examination Meltdown

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Not sure if I should be starting the new thread as I'm the last poster on the old one - is this how it works?

You poor thing, Crem. I like QQ's idea of love-bombing the boyfriend. As soon as I start adoring ds' gfs, he ditches them.

He's just come home and I am using all my strength to act like the exams he just finished are of no interest to me whatsoever. I have not asked a single Q about them.

Both of mine seem to prefer me to adopt the role of "very old-fashioned person with no idea about the world of yoof". So I ask their advice a lot. I realise we're not supposed to put ourselves down, but it does seem to boost their confidence a bit - very much needed in the case of ds. You would be amazed to know how often I start a sentence: "What do people do these days about....?" Even though I know damn well what every MNer in the country does about it. I just hope I can sustain this through the long hot summer. Crepeys, keep me to it, please!

what, that sounds a very glam yet cas outfit.

I am enjoying a bit of peace whilst DD is not up yet (supposed to be going in to school for 10!), DH is still in the gym and DS is still on his sleepover. I love mornings on my own

That's what I'm aiming for, Tilly, but since DNeph (27) will no doubt be dragging me onto the bouncy castle at some point later in the evening, it could all end in tears (in both senses of the word)!

Truck parking is so difficult on a Saturday morning...oh hi girls!

whattodo I can't believe our pad has gone!!! Damn it. Back to the drawing board. In all seriousness when are you looking to downsize and how are you getting on with search/general idea of it etc? Love the outfit choice by the way very nice. Are you brave enough to post a pic when you are ready later even if you remain headless??

Re. Park running - I would LOVe to do this, WELL DONE CV my brother is the type to have run marathons, 10k's and park runs I live in hope that one day it might motivate me to get off my backside. It's def on my list (along with many other keep fit type broken promises, New Years resolutions etc).

My friend lost a diamond earring yesterday on a dog walk . She is heartbroken they were her mothers (I don't know why she wore them on a dog walk either..).

lalsy I love that your mum had some piercings..!

Anyway off to wax my knuckles now.

I appear not to have a hangover. If so I am rather impressed.

Crem, I agree with Auriga. I also gather from a friend whose son is also just finished his first year at the same uni (doing computer science) that it is quite a difficult place to get a foothold with other students as so many live near home and head off every weekend - he is a really lovely young man (just saying ) but has been quite lonely as he's also not part of the drinking/sporty scene.

Where - I believe the Watford gap is the place to go ... Oops

I'm a few years off moving - I won't be pushing the DC out and DD still has A levels and gap year(s) to do. And DS2 keeps murmuring about flat sharing... There's no point in me downsizing here, I want to do a longer term move, probably to the South coast. I look every now and then, lovely flats in Hove and the marina in Brighton looks fab - I might have a closer look next time I'm down. It's going to be a big step though, since I don't know anyone around there.

Your friend must be cross with herself for wearing them I suppose - really annoying.

I wonder about piercings ... another in the ear? Not sure, but DD has grand ideas about piercings and tattoos... I'm taking it at a snail's pace.

Pic of me in my glad rags? Highly unlikely - I HATE having my photo taken, unless I'm brimming with confidence and rose d'anjou.

Still drunk, MI
And that's interesting info MI re that uni. And I agree, good advice from Auriga too.

I like Brighton, but the tourists and the stone beach put me off.

DD has been going on forever about getting a nose piercing. And in less than 2 months she won't need my permission...

Yay! I diiiid it, I diiiid it!

My pace was pretty glacial - I made DH start with me, then he streaked off into the distance with just about everyone else (dogwalkers, children..) . There was a killer hill about 3k in, which I had to walk up, but apart from that, I kept going. I haven't got my time yet, and it won't be great, but who cares? Not me. Am now looking forward to bacon and eggs and a giant cappuccino. And a lie-down

Fantastic CV, well done you.

Yes, DD asked about a nose piercing yesterday, since they'll do it with parental consent on a 16-year old. I said no, but I won't be able to hold out forever.

Well done CV!

what, I don't think 16yo's need parental consent for a nose piercing - it's up to the piercing studio. As many in DD's year have one, I don't think it'll be a problem for her to get one without our say-so.

CV, brilliant stuff. You must feel so pleased.

Well done, CV. My dsis was a latecomer to running and now does Park Runs all the time. DNephew has done them all over the world (but he is the kind of boy who flew to Ethiopia to train with their atheletes as part of his gap year!).

I can confirm that after 16, most piercing studios are happy to do whatever. I'm also happy that one of dd1's went manky so it got taken out and her nose ring has had to be replaced with a small stud as she is waitressing at the moment......

Well done CV! I hope the rest of the day will be spent recovering in the garden.

I attempted a small jog yesterday - mainly for anti-lateness rather than fitness purposes - and it made me realise I still have pelvic separation (SPD) SIX YEARS after having DS. This can't be good.

Dd has seen too many piercings that have gone wrong to want one in her nose, thankfully. Or at least that is the state of play at the moment (obviously can change at any point and probably will now I've posted that .) She reckons they often look like someone just has a zit. I'm afraid I agree. She's pretty anti-tattoos as so many of her contemporaries have awful (illegal) ones. Also, she can see exactly how they age by looking at mine (22 years old). I am frequently a horrible warning rather than a good example.

Well done, CV!! I am celebrating the end of my course by going on this with the dcs and am fundraising for a local children's hospice. Well, I tend to celebrate other big things by getting steaming drunk, so I thought I might do something a bit more ... constructive this time. I won't be running much, I will be ambling, but will speed up as much as my grumbly sciatica allows.

In Crem's position, I would be up for some negotiation with dd, but I would make it very plain that I am not up for subbing the bf's rent or negotiating with him about anything and that dd needs to be making grown-up decisions if she wants to be treated like a grown-up. However, it is very difficult when things are complicated by possible MH issues with said bf. Tricky, tricky, tricky. :(

I will step up the Ladyjogging next week. For the moment I have decided to take it easy as am feeling Delicate though not utterly sledgehammered...

My mum is out of hospital. She is busy planning her 80th again. The night before, DSis points out, we'll all have to meet there for supper (my fantasy of nice meal out clearly won't work). I suggest to DM that we get in 'nice posh pizzas' for the occasion. Oh yes darling, she says. What a good idea. We'll need two or three...I point out that there will be a total of 10 people and five or so would be a better minimum. She sounds surprised. Then she says yes, of course, the boys will eat loads

Stropps, your DD is so sensible in so many ways....
Have you got a fundraising page we can contribute to? Can't say I much fancy having paint chucked at me, but I'm happy to sponsor you!

Glad your mum is out again, MI. Can you bring some extra pizzas just in case the females get hungry?

DD1 is steaming (as is DSis). Eating is actually quite good for you. Stops inconvenient things like starving to death and makes it possible to enjoy life.

CV congratulations. Thats some going- enjoy the bacon and eggs well deserved.
It's kind of rainy sunny here today so my plan to burn off emotional jitteriness via weeding the front garden , may be scotched.

Thanks for your brilliant help on dds situation. Last night after radio silence she sent me a cute picture , which is our way of communicating I suppose. I have to say I was heartened by this reaching out.
The housing situation is not quite cut and dried. I phoned the accom office and flat shares are mostly advertised after term ends and tend to run August to July. Certainly as far as I can see there is still time. I have found a nice flat in private halls which she can afford on her own, thereby being independent of him financially. He can stay as much as he wants , but if it all goes pear shaped at least she won't be financially beholden. He is realist on an application for housing benefit and very few placed will accept that.
Dh will continue to chat to dd and try and persuade her round, bu suggestion.
Lalsy you are right about rest and perspective. She has got herself into a right twist and is imagining parental dissent , which isn't actually there. I have been supportive of all piercings , tattoos and emotional breakdowns thus far. She has built a little drama in her head and cast us as pure evil. I have to ask how much the boy is pushing for them to live together as a way of getting away from his own parents.
Sigh

Oh and in s&b news it's the blimmin in school reunion tonight and the cupboard is bare. So far I'm going in my pyjamas.

Oh god DP is feeling tired and putupon. He is doing Aggressive Housework to demonstrate how exploited he is (I should point out his exhaustion is work-related. And he has a t'ai chi meeting tomorrow which is entirely self-inflicted). The AH has its upsides, obviously....

Cremo, that sounds like a really good solution. Would she be sharing?
And yes, I so get those emotional dramas. You are doing really, really well holding it together enough for her to send you a cute picture

Am I the only crepey who has never been to a school reunion? I don't think there's ever been one. Or maybe I just haven't been invited

MI at least you will have a clean and tidy house to yourself tomorrow ( silver lining)
Dh is doing aggressive wearing of dressing gown in a bid to Do Nothing today except watch Movies For Men channel.

I have white jeans
I have borrowed grey Zara top from dsis
I have no suitable shoes or hair.

I don't really want to go in present state of mind Eating minuscule portions of chicken with Sucessful Posh Gels doesn't float my boat. They'll all have genuine Cote D'Azur tans.

Crem, hang in there with dd.
PSSST. Re school reunion you don't have to go. They're not your current friends , you won't be letting anyone down. Why put yourself through it if you feel fragile and think it might be a bit bruising? ?

QQ is right. Join DH on the sofa with a takeaway?

I've never been to a reunion. And fear a uni one would be packed with glossy successful people making me feel small and shabby.