Crepeys on the Verge of an Examination Meltdown

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Not sure if I should be starting the new thread as I'm the last poster on the old one - is this how it works?

Oi, you lot. Aren't wipes supposed to be a Bad Thing? Mind you I've met both of you and you both have fab skin...

My friend's funeral isn't till the 16th and he died two weeks ago.

Muslims have the same proscription - DP's dad was buried vv soon after he died, and that included getting the body from Pakistan to Bangladesh.

I think its a throw back to Bible times and very hot countries where burials had to be quick iyswim.

I'm another who doesn't do much - cleanser/exfoliating scrub/Nivea or Simple wipes (yes, wipes are supposed to be a Bad Thing) and then Nivea day/night cream!

MI, glad you had a lovely lunch with MrsS (was it my local one?) - I fear I am indeed too overcome with exams/a certain teen to make it out tonight, but I will be thinking of you.

Witch - that's a lot of products. My routine is somewhat simpler:

Morning - water/face flannel, serum, moisturiser
Evening - err... absolutely nothing. I don't wear foundation, and my eye makeup has mostly gone by the wayside by bedtime.

( just realised we have a Where, a What, and now a Witch)

I thought wipes with alcohol = 'A Bad Thing', wipes sans alcohol = 'An OK Thing' but what do I know...

Shall we all namechange so we can also have a How, Why, When, Wherefore, Hither, Thither and Yon etc etc. Bagsy be Yon.

Happy birthday MI. I've spent a lovely day (not) with an ocular plastic surgeon and my dad, discussing taking a lump off his eyelid. I am so clocking up those brownie points this week

I haven't caught up but I will later. I've invested in Aldi limoncello and I might try it tonight. I've never had it before, but Dd assures me that if I don't like it, she will have it.

I think alcohol is supposed to be bad on your skin.

Today it has suddenly shot to 34 °C, I am so red it is embarrassing. Had lunch with a Korean friend who just looked fabulous and cool. I think we're about to have a massive storm.

DP has just rung. He clearly wanted t ask What Are You Doing About Dinner but didn't quite dare. So said Why Don't You Put Fishcakes In Oven. Living the birthday dream, innit.

I'm morning:
scrub at face with shower gel
cheapo serum
Lidl moisturiser

evening:
micellar water, if I remember
fancy oil thing from Liz Earle
Lidl moisturiser.

Mind you, I look about 95.

Just returned from a singing jaunt, at which we accompanied a local school choir for a couple of songs. This has necessitated our MD visiting the school on a few occasions, arranging said songs, rearranging said songs when the children went off piste, etc.

Half the audience was composed of parents of said children.

How about this for Bloody Rude: as soon as the kiddies had sung their second song, off all the parents went, chatting as they went, despite us still singing our final song. Fume fume fume.

How fucking rude Herbs. Did you try to quell them with a teacherly look? Or shout "Did you mean to be so rude?"

I was still singing, so I just flicked them some Vs.

Herbs! I have had a MUCH needed g&t and am now sitting in the sun outside the lovely local chippy waiting for dinner Funny how as I was not cooking,I had to come out for it

So sorry for your loss, Rose. I also spend a lot of time feeding the bereaved, including once taking a large cool bag full of curry from Paris to London.

Witch - swap your cleanser for Cetaphil, and moisturise every other night, rather than every night. If you do love micellar water, try Bioderma, it is the dog's bolleaux.

Hatty, it had better not rain tomorrow as I have only summer dresses and Birkenstocks.

Och Happy Birthday MI and so say all of us. !
Hope the days continue in a positive way ( The book! the Lunch! )

Very very sorry to hear of recent bereavements - Rudy , Rose , MI
To you all.

Witch , Who, When, Which, What and Where , welcome to y'all.
My routine is thus:
Morning: Clinique or Avene facial wash rinse in warm water
Slather on bucket load of Aveeno ( the lavender one if I can get it)
Eat breakfast ( letting moisturiser sink in)
Apply illuminating primer
Avene CC cream
Swish of bourjois rice powder
Swish of lilyLolo bronzing powder
Lipfinity matte lippy
No. 7 mascara in Navy

Bedtime:
Lidl makeup wipes 2 of.
Supedrug serum on necky crepe
More lavender Aveeno on vizog

Hags dd is causing Dh and me HUGE anxiety.
There has been masses of weeping this week ( her and me)
Short version is
A she wants to live with boyfriend
B she doesn't want to come home for the summer because of said boyfriend
C she screams and shouts and behaves like a 10 year old on the phone

I am just about holding it together. Given that she's 20 in a couple of weeks what the actual can I do.? I worry particularly about her MH issues.

Micellar water? Sounds a bit witch-doctery to me. What is it? I use black mud soap in the morning, followed by a smidge of Finacea for my rosacea, then some rosewater toner (£3.99 for generous-sized bottle from the health food shop) and then some lrp Rosaliac moisturiser (it's always on offer somewhere, quite often at Boots). Evening: clean with grapeseed oil (Holland and Barrett), rosewater and then Lyonsleaf beauty balm. Don't have many (any) zits. However, if Herbs looks 95, I look at least 130 .
Congrats on red dress success, Rose, and sorry to hear of the family bereavement. I am no good at catering at the best of times and can only admire those who manage to feed loads of extra people in times of stress.
Hope you have a nice evening, BTM.
Herbs, sorry to hear about the rude audience. Very poor behaviour.
Today I was invigilating with someone I remember from my first day at primary school. That was weird.. There were only about 10 different families in the village where I grew up and hers and mine were about the only ones that weren't related to all the others.

Oh Crem,
Is the weeping and wailing exam / stress related or are those finished for her. What does she want to do? Stay in Uni city with bf and work? Travel? Are there practical issues like money which are a real consideration or just(!?!) different ideas about how much time she should spend where? It does sound rather as if she's very much thrown her lot in with bf and I can completely see why it concerns you.
I suppose all you can do is try to keep talking to her and with her and try (easier said than done) to stay calm.
Is there a compromise to be had - she comes home (perhaps with bf in tow for a bit?) for some of hols but not all of them?...
I would suggest falling over backwards to accomodate bf and killing him with kindness might be the way to go. Is he ok or are you worried about him not being good for / nice to dd on top of everything else?

On a trivial note I bought this skirt with some Gap discount offer and am wearing it right now. It's lovely, 100% cotton and looks vair much costlier than it was. I do like a bargain.

x-posts, Crem. Sorry to hear about dd-stress. I can only say that at the same age and stage as your dd, I moved in with non-uni bf, got a front of house job in the theatre where he was head flyman and stayed in the uni town all summer, thus royally pissing off my parents. By
November, the novelty had worn off and he was history. ps: I also tried to drop out of university at this point, but my personal tutor managed to persuade me out of it.

Oh Cremo, how horrid. And worrying. And saddening that she seems to want to spend more time with him...
At that age I hadn't moved in with an unsuitable BF was just sagging them but barely ever went home - I had plenty of friends doing the same and in fact worked in the holidays. I was more than able to stand on my own two feet although I was probably more likely to be staggering

I agree, the best policy is perhaps to encourage them both to come and visit, treating them both as adults and welcoming BF into your home. Although you must be worried sick about her, I guess you can't force her to do what you think (and is probably) best

Mrs S - tell me if you're around for a quick MU.

Nice skirt, QQ. Crepeys, stop tempting me with all your bargains; you know how I like them (says she, dressed in Hollister and Gap c/o Cancer Research).

Crem - how tricky for you. I guess there's a point where you have to step back and let her decide for herself.... just be there to catch if she falls.

DH and I have just downed a bottle of on the patio, and set the world to rights. He has persuaded me to join him on a 5k Park Run tomorrow morning - aaarghhh! He did one for the first time last Saturday and, despite being overtaken by an elderly woman with a dog, he is keen to run again. Crepeys, I may not survive.

Crem - I'm so sorry I was overexcited at Mrs S coming to Paris I didn't read further up the page. I cannot imagine the stress that would cause DH and I in similar situation. Much strength to you both. I would be really upset about DD not coming back for the summer. As Stropps says - hopefully the novelty will wear off soon xx. .

Sadly the bf is flakey , unemployed and to quote dd "also has MH problems like me" oh joy. He also seems to be rather immature as in the midst of one of dds tirades ( I was in work, so perfectly timed) she gave him the phone and he shouted "you're not listening to her, you don't you ever listen to her?"
I was so shaken I just said "get off the phone and let me speak to dd immediately"

How it has arrived at this I don't know. At Easter dd mentioned about moving in with this boy and both sh and I said we really won't want that, and would much prefer her to live with other students, so that at least the people she was living with understood her need to study
All of a sudden she can't find anywhere at all to live ( has fallen out with her friends with who she was flat hunting) and now the only option is to get a flat together. I strongly suspect that they had this planned. And have now bombed me with it.

Dh is keeping communications open. I have had to remove myself from this because she puts the phone down.
I am dreading worse news ( pregnant/ dropping out of uni)
It grim. And I am powerless. Dsis says she will go with me to get her if she doesn't get the boat home next week.
I think we can work on her if we can jus get her home. She seems to under this boys spell and has obviously told him that we are the devils spawn.
wwid.? Apart from turn to stone.