Forever Autumn Forever Crepey

[cremolafoam]

The summer sun is fading as the year grows old,
and darker days are drawing near,
the winter winds will be much colder,
now you're not here.
I watch the birds fly south across the autumn sky
and one by one they disappear
I wish that I was flying with them,
now you're not here

Oh no. No. Just heard from my lovely friend re IVF and not good news.

WHY CAN'T THEY CATCH A BREAK, EH? WHAT POINT IS THERE INFLICTING ALL THIS GRIEF ON THEM, EH????

And breathe...

Oh, MI, how terribly sad for them. I think you said that they were the ones who had also lost a child. Utterly heartbreaking for them and so hard for you as you support them. Life can be very cruel sometimes. I am so sorry.

so sorry MI :(

Pride: I worked with friends of Mark Ashton in the late 1980s when I was packing T shirts the 'merchandising worker' for a lefty magazine that is now defunct.

Horrible for your friends MI - I can't imagine what it must be like to want a child so much and not be able to conceive.

At the other end of child rearing DD has announced that her pre Christmas ski trip with boyfriend actually overlaps with Christmas so would I mind terribly as she cannot get down the mountain if she spent Christmas with her boyfriend's family. Well yes I would actually - I sound like the grumpy mother in law don't I? She has promised to be with us for New Year but I feel Christmas will be a bit flat without her. I expect I'd better get used to it.

Egads. Just returned from PGCE enrolment and induction. I'm going to need a larger brain, and more hours in the day. I may have to come over all strict with myself about dicking about on Mumsnet.

Annoyingly they're still making changes to the timetable, which will require after-school care. Naturally, after school club will be booked up. So will childminders.

Hatty - I'd be feeling the same, gutted yet made to feel grumpy.

Mrs S - so sorry about uncle woes.

How is tooth now, Hatty? I would be terribly sad about Christmas too. How has she only just realised this? When was trip booked?

Herbs - I am sure your brain will be just fine, although v v painful about childcare uncertainties. Are there any cheery sixth formers who might like to earn a few quid with DS? I use lots of teenagers for babysitting etc and they are fab (and v cheap) if you get the right one. My 3 love ours as she has dreadlocks and a better iphone than me. Nuff said.

Just read an email (fatal on a non working day) inviting me to a training day for a course I don't teach. At least I think I don't, and certainly never have. I wonder if this is a not subtle way of telling me my timetable is changing. I will have to get very stroppy tomorrow.

oooh Militant Monty
So sorry MrsS for another loss. What a tough time for you all
and feeling for MIs friends. Life is indeed cruel and incomprehensible sometimes.
Tilly how are you feeling….snotty and grotty no doubt, you poor thing
Oh Hatty I'm filling up reading your post, but look, she's young and in love, isn't she? It's hard….
Mad busy day today but I'm enjoying it. Three (3, iii) classes, no less. Two at home and one at the theatre. The latter went quite well and it's the first I've done there for a while. Now one more tonight to go and dropping kids back at said theatre for their rehearsal in-between ….have set "Cilla" to record and will watch as a treat when I collapse in a heap at about 10 tonight.

For light relief, crepeys, I wish you could have heard my last three (3, iii) phone conversations - a mysterious frenchman keeps ringing to ask me to service his boiler - apparently MrsLalsy has been recommended to him (correct mobile no).

Herbs stay with us - I'm looking forward to your PGCE stories.

Thanks for your support over Christmas Crepeys - I will be gutted but it's exactly what Rose said "she's in love". He is a lovely boy but it's too early and I would rather she just had fun. Also I'm not sure she should even be making plans given the number of people I know who dumped their boyfriends on starting uni.(she gets very cross if I mention this).

Tooth OK but face still a bit swollen and still can't smile properly.

Hatty, I would be gutted too. But I guess it is something we will all have to come to terms with Glad your tooth is on the mend.

Rose, glad your teaching's going well. Monty sorry to hear you have to learn how to teach something you don't teach and Herbs, gather your strength And definitely stay with us - I want to hear it all!

Lalsy, I think it's my number he needs

I came home at lunchtime - feeling all earachy and glandy. Am praying I feel better tomorrow as I have promised them a trip to our local museum and park.

DD went off to school quite upbeat, only to ring me in tears when her move to a new tutor group faltered as the tutor hadn't been told... Thankfully it got sorted and she arrived home moaning about the HT's speech in assembly (only the second time he has ever spoken to her year group - similar speech at the start of Y10) Apparently his motivational speech was all about how well the school is improving and how a certain student just missed her 16th A* by 1 mark...

Oh Hatty, sorry to hear Dd is spreading her wings. Just a little too far. I personally would expect her plans might change after getting first term under her belt in the uk. I'd be if dd suggested similar frankly and put my stompy little foot down. Just who is bank rolling the Alpine Jaunt?
Gosh I'm grumpy today. And intermittently weepy. Practice nurse just off the phone demanding further tests as my hg is v low apparently.

Lalsy I'm intrigued by your French man. Do tell us more...

Mrs S, lighting candles for you now.
How utterly cruel.

I agree with others Hatty, and also wonder if our dc might be keener to make plans like that when everything else is about to change, she's declaring that some things won't (even though they may well do). Crem, have a little weep and some .

Am baffled about the frenchman with a broken boiler - he had my name nearly right. Classic confusion at the start, when I assumed he wanted to service my boiler not the other way round .

BTM, grr, poor dd. By the time, both dc had gone through sec transfer, I had started to run away (usually to the nearest tea shop) when HTs started on with their results spreadsheets. Very unfair to do it to a captive audience.

Interesting Lalsy I hadn't thought of that. We do have some friends though who have a daughter in her third year in the States who has sustained a relationship with her Lycee boyfriend.

Crem - she's staying with them and TGV reasonably cheap with her student card but I've just googled the lift pass - 248 Euros - I feel a heated discussion coming on.

Any news on the boiler service man Lalsy - you could send him over here as my guy never turns up.

It's a long time since I got seductive servicing requests

Although my Passive-Aggressive Broccoli (I can never spell that) went quite well. (Roasted, with soy and mirin.)

I feel as if I got nothing done today; I did manage a chunk of short story, though, which is Illicit but actually what I want to be doing.

Just spent hours catching up. We arrived back at lunchtime after a really awful flight from Atlanta to Amsterdam on Delta - the food was abysmal. Goodbye America until next year. Mountains of washing to do, although I was up to date on Saturday.

So sorry to hear about the deaths and also failure of IVF - commiserations to all involved.

My DS stayed faithful to GF when he started uni, only for her to drop him when she started a year later. DD on the other hand married her uni BF and has been happy ever since.

Hatty, I can understand why you feel sad about DD and Christmas. DD has only ever been away once then and she rang on Xmas morning and cried down the phone. Usually she and her family come here for the day, we tend to do every other year with DS and family, although they briefly pop in on the day. We have started a nice tradition: we all go out for afternoon tea on New Year's Day - and that includes the inlaws, so that will be 14 of us this year! I think that traditionally girls tend to go back to their DMs and boys to their partners' families.

By the way, I don't think I said, we had a small earthquake whilst we were in Lake Tahoe - took me a few minutes to realise what had happened.

Welcome back NU!

MrsS, so sorry to hear you've had a gruelling funeral and another bereavement .

And MI, sorry for your friends' loss. Terrible blow for them. Have been thinking a lot about our own lost babies - was going to say recently but tbh it's more or less all the time. We can live with it now (sometimes I think DH can live with it more easily than I can but how would I know?). The early days were unspeakable, though. My heart aches for them.

OPM apologies for autocorrect, it should have said 'for your DH' not 'former DH' hope it didn't give you a turn .

Hatty, You don't want to know about the hissy fit I threw last year when my DSis invited DD to stay with her during my Christmas leave. I was devastated, more so because of the implication (which I suspected might be correct) that DD would have more fun with DSis and her cousins than with us. Not my finest hour. It's a credit to DD that she stayed here with such good grace.

But she was only 15 and lurve was not the issue...I know we have that to come and I sympathise.

Last day in hitherto main job approaches: worn out by separation pangs. Last night I dreamed I was watching my favourite (old) clothes being fed into a shredder. Suspect Freud might have something to say about that

Hello NU - welcome back - I'm glad America was fab. I foresee a day of moodiness and arguments between DD and I. Trying to reason with a lovesick teenager is difficult although I have made a strong point about the finances.

Auriga - I think it's natural to have anxiety about changing job even if it's a positive move. Can't shed any light on shredder though. If it's any consolation, I dreamt I punctured the car tyres by driving over a roundabout and then hid the car from DH by parking round the corner. (I'm hoping this isn't a premonition).

Am pondering going back to bed for half an hour.

Welcome back NU - sorry you had a bad flight back (ours was terrible too!) and just why is it that washing appears out of nowhere when you come back from a holiday?

Hatty, skiing is expensive (unless you go to a little local place like we do!) - can you make sure she doesn't shell out for anything like that until it's really near the time, incase of unforeseen circs happening?

Auriga, how thoughtless of your DSis.