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Mardy Crepeys

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SheherazadeSchadenfreude · 02/03/2014 13:17

Done it...

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herbaceous · 25/03/2014 09:19

I know exzxtly what you mean NU. And yes - I'm going to be thoroughly useful all day. Right. Better get sorted. Might even take some overnight stuff - you never know.

lalsy · 25/03/2014 09:27

Herbs Sad, thinking of you

Stropperella · 25/03/2014 10:00

Thinking of you here too, Herbs.

hattymattie · 25/03/2014 10:39

Herbs - Sad courage (said with French accent). Seriously though I think what NU said is true - your DP will need to draw strength from you so calm and slightly detached is probably better for the moment. Hope DS is OK.

cremolafoam · 25/03/2014 10:56

Herbs. I am so sorry about your FIL .
Practical is the way to go. Sending you extra strength and thinking of you today.

Ddad is being moved tomorrow , to a geriatric unit. He's to stay there for a week to build up his strength with physio so he can get home. Looks like his escape plan is in motion. All that chit chat about The Great Escape anniversary yesterday got him fired up Shock
Feeling a little more confident about coming on Friday now. Am appallingly tired , so you'll have to poke me awake.

wilbur · 25/03/2014 12:03

Herbs, I'm so sorry about your DFIL, sad times Sad. Sending strength for you and dp. And if it's not too late, I'm sure a card from ds would be a strangely comforting thing for everyone.

Crem - good to hear your dad's fighting the fight. Although I think tunnelling out might not be good for his lungs, far too dusty.

Can someone PM me to directions to QQ's place?

lalsy · 25/03/2014 12:17

Crem, that's good to hear.

Will be imagining you all on Friday in gleaming splendour. Friday seems to be turning into a sort of High Noon for my family, my dm and her dp in particular, so will raise a sherry to you while sending umpteen emails (talking on phone proving difficult for her at the moment). Let's not get old.

beachyhead · 25/03/2014 15:18

Hope you are managing OK with today Herbs. It's all happened so quickly.

I'm glad your ddad is planning his escape Crem and we will prod you as necessary on Friday to keep you awake.

beachyhead · 25/03/2014 15:22

Sorry I meant to add I hope your mum is successful with her dp on Friday, Lalsy and you are able to support her. Is it 'old age related' aggression, do you think?

lalsy · 25/03/2014 15:29

Dementia is what everyone is worrying about, but there is also some family stuff from years ago that a crisis may dig up again....

Stropperella · 25/03/2014 15:46

Oh dear, Lalsy, that sounds very ominous.

I had a call from my dm today to say that she has had another phone call (which she had the sense not to take) and a "completely mad" letter from my df's schizophrenic niece. I am bemused that she opened the letter and I have told her that if I were her I would send any further letters back unopened (that is what this woman's own sister does). Dm then said that she is worried that the niece (who must be at least 70, I reckon) will turn up on dm's doorstep (niece lives in sheltered accommodation in North Cornwall, so this would be unlikely, I hope) and if she does, dm will "put her in the car and take her home". Uh, no, Mother, you really won't. Hmm (dm is in Dorset) I hope there are no further developments as I fear dm's judgement is no longer what it might be and she over-estimates what she can deal with. And this niece was nasty even before she was ill and it hasn't got any better since. She also has form for domestic violence (against her own mother).

motherinferior · 25/03/2014 15:52

In lighter news can I interest anyone in Withnail who was finishing rehearsals as we trooped in for an extra choir practice yesterday?

NUFC69 · 25/03/2014 16:17

Commiserations to everyone with family problems; I hope they get sorted out satisfactorily for all concerned.

I heard an horrendous story today of someone going to A & E because of bad pains; diagnosed after tests with liver, stomach and lung cancer. Three days later - all a mistake, it's just your gallbladder and not cancer at all! Unbelievable.

Thinking about you, Herbs .

bigTillyMint · 25/03/2014 17:27

MI, I can trump you on that - he goes to my gymWink

I am also thinking of all of you with family problems.

lalsy · 25/03/2014 18:10

BT, that would make me fall off my exercise bike Smile, something I manage to do quite often anyway.

Stropps, thanks, and sorry I didn't mean to sound mysterious - it is very commonplace, just not stuff I can talk about on here, and I really don't want meltdowns, given the poor health of some of those involved. I am probably worrying unnecessarily though.

motherinferior · 25/03/2014 18:39

I have just about completed three (3, iii) features this week already...

hattymattie · 25/03/2014 18:46

We're just on exam meltdowns, comparatively minor compared to everybody else's situations. Hope Herbs is bearing up OK and that Crem's Dad is doing better and has maybe tunnelled outSmile. Stropps fingers crossed that weird niece doesn't turn up.

By the way I love Paul McGann and never figured out why he didn't become a mega star.

herbaceous · 25/03/2014 19:09

Phwoar. Paul McGann.

Well, I'm back home. It's a good job DP went to see FiL last night, as his spirit seems to have left him now. I went in to see him briefly, and he looked tally different. He wants to go - he's said so. Everyone reckons it could be tonight.

Yet more unbelievable arsery. He can now no longer take morphine by mouth, as he can't keep anything down. So the district nurse said shed sort out a syringe pump, but that it would need a doctors signature. She disappeared. FiL was in massive pain, no sign of nurse or syringe pump, and she wasn't answering calls. Nor was the doctor. FFS - where's the system? And he can't be prescribed more than three hours-worth at a time, so SiL keeps having to trail to the chemist. This time he needed a larger, stronger dose, so the district nurse phoned the request through. SiL got to the chemist to be told 'computer says no... It's too large a dose to be given without a doctor'. SiL nearly breaks down. It's been a constant battle to just keep him out of pain and with a shred of dignity.

RANT. Luckily, I have a good friend high up in the cqc whose ear I shall be bending.

Blackduck · 25/03/2014 19:13

Oh Herbs how grim :(

Here DDog is fine - just two fatty lumps that felt hard - so only 190 quid lighter in the wallet as no biopsy needed.....

hattymattie · 25/03/2014 19:22

Herbs what a nightmare hope your DSil wins through. Much love and strength xx

lalsy · 25/03/2014 19:26

Herbs, that is awful. Out of hours docs - someone will answer there? People dying in pain because systems fail is..words fail me... and yes to kicking up the most enormous fuss, with threats if need be. I hope his pain relief can be sorted and his night peaceful.

Stropperella · 25/03/2014 19:28

Herbs, that poor man .. Sad It really is beyond unacceptable that no professional seems to care enough to sort things out for him and the family. I hope the cqc will do something - although that will be too late to right the wrongs done over the last few weeks.

BD, good that ddog is just a lumpy old canine codger - much like Stropdog. I'm now thinking that his 8-lumps-for-£380 op was a bargain. Grin

bigTillyMint · 25/03/2014 19:31

Oh Herbs, how awful. And unnecessarySad

motherinferior · 25/03/2014 19:50

Herbs, if it's any help threaten them with The Press Angry If I can make any calls to press offices tomorrow (relevant hospital?) sling me an email.

It's that awful point where the body hangs on and the spirit (and all around) wishes it wouldn't Sad But to be in pain is fucking awful.

herbaceous · 25/03/2014 19:53

The pump was infact installed just after lunch, so that's not a problem. But he's not eating or drinking anything (and has no drip, for some reason), and no-one expects him to last the night.

Just got a text from DP that set me off having a massive cry in the kitchen. It's so quick, and so sad. The fridge is festooned with get well cards from his grandchildren. Sad

Anyway. Glad to hear all is relatively hopeful in the canine world, and do hope to make it on Friday. Frankly, I'll need a drink.