Mardy Crepeys

[SheherazadeSchadenfreude]

Done it...

Herbs the touching faith of children.

Oh herbs

It seems like he just doesn't want to go on, being helpless, unable to look after himself.

And get this. There's an operation he was supposed to have to make him a bit more comfortable. But he would have to have been transferred to Hammersmith from Slough. They never seemed to get round to doing it.

Now he's home, they've started talking about it again, though he doesn't want it. And if he were to have the op, he wouldn't be allowed to go in an ambulance, as he's not in hospital. DP's sis would have to DRIVE him. For over an hour. Through London traffic. In his extreme pain, with all sorts of tubes attached to him. So, that's not happening.

Oh, that's brought a tear to my eye.

I think a homemade card would be very well received, though, even if sadly it has no magical healing powers.

Xposts

on his behalf.

Herbs, that's terrible

Dear god, that's awful, Herbs. What is up with the doctors responsible for his care?

Herbs, how awful and nonsensical - I wonder if he is so poorly now, maybe a journey in whatever form of transport and an op is not in his interests?

Well, indeed. He doesn't want the op, in fact never has. But the thought that he could have had it weeks ago, when he was stronger, and it would have made his last few weeks better, is enraging. Nearly as enraging as the thought they expect him to travel in the passenger seat of a Nissan Micra in his intubated state. Load of bollocks.

Oh Herbs.

A phone tree works well - my family has an established one, and it's used for all sorts of things.

Upon enquiring, they do have a phone tree but it's rather scuppered by MiL feeling she should speak to everyone in person.

Absolutely unbelievable, Herbs:so sorry that you're all going through this. Families can be so difficult at times, too.

I hope that the next few days aren't too difficult and exhausting for your close family.

God Herbs, just shit :( :(
Holding hands and sending hugs.

Herbs

Makes my night of helping with DS's maths homework (dredged up my algebra) and DD's science ISA prep (she is beside herself as this is a retake and she doesn't want to flop it again) look positively relaxing.

Herbs, when my Dad died, I was very grateful for the phone tree. I called two people and they told absolutely everyone - one did family and the other did friends. I made a couple of calls the next day to those who fell outside either tree. And I knew that within about two hours of calling, everyone would have been told.

Could you assure lovely MIL that you'll take charge of telling everyone? She must be desperately wishing on some level that someone would take that off her

I think she would find that a huge help. My Mum was in no fit state to call anyone from the time my Dad went into hospital.

Can I have a rant about something quite trivial? I've just had my Waitrose delivery and they have failed to supply or substitute tinned tomatoes or chicken breasts. Are they seriously saying that they had neither of these basics in the shop? Oh and I got a random packet of frozen puff pastry.

I have indeed suggested, via DP, that I be such a thing. And will do it in person today. That's if he can be stabilised after last night, when he was vomiting badly. It might all be too horrible for DS.

The Macmillan nurses are now 'too busy' to come out and treat him, so it's down to, ironically, Nurse Aunt and random others. FFS.

oh Herbs. And sorry about insane smiley above.

I must, must not wander about MN picking fights with people who think beautiful fluffy thoughts will get them through a beautiful fluffy birth today...

Oh Herbs :( sending you much strength.....

My thoughts and prayers are with you, Herbs. You will need to be strong for your DP and DMil, which will be no easy task, I know. Staggered to hear that they can't get any help, tbh.

Thanks all for letting vent all over you. I realise I have a bad habit of coming on and emptying my mind all over you, then buggering off.

Just had a call from DP, very upset. Looks like the end is nigh. Can't believe it, and feel curiously detached. But that's good, as I can be capable and useful.

Oh Herbs Thinking of you.

Herbs, Difficult, I know, but the detachment will help you to be strong for everyone - plenty of time later to feel. (I hope that doesn't sound crass, and I hope you know what I mean).

Herbs :(