Happy Birthday, Mrs S! Enjoy dinner - do you know where?
Stropps - agree with everyone else, get to the GP with a printout of this thread or someone else who can confirm what the bad times are like.
Re parties - my DD had a few when we went away - it was always worrying coming back - starting with her texts that wanted to know specifically what time we would get back and adjuring us not to hurry. On one occasion they seemed to have cleaned up pretty well until we found an up turned bottle in a wellington boot, wine glass under our bed, etc etc. but apparently they were never parties, only 'gatherings'