Ooh - BTM, finally getting the garden done? When will it be finished? I had a very satisfying hack at some straggly stuff in the garden this weekend and have revealed a bit of nice view across the back of neighbour's garden. I am going to reveal more gradually by stealthily remove more vegetation from a holly tree that is growing in their garden, but hanging way over into ours.
MI - as you know I suffer from the same issues about earning power and money, although dh does basically give me all his salary and I give him some back each month as he is pants with money, not a spendthrift but wouldn't pay a bill unless it was a large man called Bill standing in our drive with a crowbar. Still, my equal bit of fritter money goes on taking the kids out for tea and parking the car in annoying Wandsworth and his seems to rack up and pay for trips to France and new bicycles. It is a mindset thing though - dh comes from a background where there has always been a safety net and I come from a background where people clawed their way to the middle class and clung on for dear life. I worry and he does not, and that's probably the basis of all my resentment. However, when I am feeling anxious about not actually earning a salary that one person could live on, let alone 5, I do have to remember that I have been around to do the bulk of childcare and have also overseen various house renovations which have basically bought us a leaking money pit house that should (crossing all fingers) provide the pension that I have not been able to save for. Dh could not have done it all on his own, so I consider that I have sweat equity in our life together. Hopefully that balances out him losing the fancy wardrobe and posh holidays that he had as a single man about town.
I was also going to suggest taking dd1 to the new ice rink for her b'day but pizza and film night sounds fab.