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Sorting Myself Out

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hedwig06 · 29/10/2013 08:59

I am fed up Sad

I have 3 wardrobes full of clothes but feel like crap. I keep buying more and more stuff and nothing seems to hang or sit right on me.

I have been on dressipi and have dressipi set up on my ebay account also. I have done an online colour analyzer so I could try to buy the right colours.
But I still feel crap and uncomfortable.

I think its come to a head because I have been invited to a Halloween/40th birthday party on Saturday, I never go out I have been out twice in about 10 years. Its fancy dress ....

I have spent the last month looking for something to wear and have found nothing, I hastily bought this

Its going to look crap I know I feel an idiot and I haven't even tried it on, it will be a sack hanging off me.

I try to look after myself, I use anti wrinkle cream, I do my nails, I keep my eyebrows in trim, its the rest of me that looks like crap.

Dressipi puts me in clingy clothes, which I wouldn't wear in a million years, every bloody pair of jeans/jeggings I own and I own loads as I keep buying them to find a decent pair shows my bum or keeps rolling/sliding down, so I hoiking them up all the time.

Can you stylish people give me some tips on feeling better about yourself and dressing well - I would most appreciate it.

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RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 29/10/2013 11:33

What size, shape, age are you?

Please send the Halloween thing back - it's hideous and you can deffo do better, I promise! :)

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hedwig06 · 29/10/2013 11:56

Remus

I'm a size 14, hourglass and aged 37

I'm 5ft 5in if this helps. Thank you for replying xxx

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HelloBoys · 29/10/2013 11:58

hedwig - I'm 42 hourglass and size 12 but could be edging towards 14.

what sort of styles do you like?

do you LIKE trendy stuff or suit certain styles/colours etc?

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 29/10/2013 12:00

Okay - hourglass friendly jeans include Topshop Jamie (I think these might be cropped though: I'm a short arse so they are full length on me), the M&S dark indigo five pocket jeggings, and various pairs from Oasis. I also have a v v bargainous pair of Current Elliots (£30 reduced from £210!) that are good too. Out of all of those, the Topshop ones require occasional hoiking on me, but the others don't need any. You might need to size down on the M&S ones.

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hedwig06 · 29/10/2013 12:10

Helloboys I don't mind any styles really, I tend to wear black mostly and nothing to clingy or short. I have recently bought these:

jeggings

dress

jacket

I tend to wear leggings/jeggings and a long top, but have recently bought a couple of dresses to wear with tights, but the dress above seems not to sit right the waist seems to high up and the skirt part too short?

Thanks x

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hedwig06 · 29/10/2013 12:16

I have also bought this and worn it once with leggings, and felt ok in it

dress

I wonder if its to do with confidence? I've just had a telephone conversation with my DH. I've been a bit down lately and I've just said I don't like the halloween dress we've bought, it'll look like I'm wearing a sack, he replied its all about how I carry myself he's noticed I hide behind my hair and look down a lot and don't seem to like myself at the moment, which is true ......

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RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 29/10/2013 12:25

How do you feel about your legs? Personally I think a dress with tights will always look better than a dress with leggings.

What about something like this as a basis for a Halloween costume?

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hedwig06 · 29/10/2013 12:27

Its Lovely Remus, but looks like it clings?

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RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 29/10/2013 12:31

Yes, probably - but it won't swamp you!

A simple black dress in a shape you're happy with would be easy to turn into all manner of costumes and then wear again later.

Or how about cigarette leg black trousers, a dress shirt and a cloak, to be Dracula?

Or if you have a wedding dress, shove it on with lots of gothy make up and a bunch of dark red roses, to be bride of Dracula?

Or be a black cat? Dead easy.

butterfliesinmytummy · 29/10/2013 12:32

It sounds like it could be a confidence issue tbh.

As far as Halloween costumes, a great idea is to go as a jewel thief.... Black trousers, stripey Breton top, black gloves, black eye mask and strings of plastic gems hanging from your pockets. Not too much effort, can be played up or down and fairly comfortable. This is what I'm doing for trick or treat this year with the kids.

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hedwig06 · 29/10/2013 12:38

Remus & Butterflies

Thank you for the ideas, I'll have a look online now. I've been thinking I need a "costume", I never thought of a dress I can use again and then dressing that up or trousers as you say, which is more comfortable for me.

Thanks again xx

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RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 29/10/2013 12:41

Love this

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 29/10/2013 12:42

Easy and fun

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 29/10/2013 12:51

!!!!!!!!

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hedwig06 · 29/10/2013 12:51

Ha yes I like the cereal killer Smile

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HelloBoys · 29/10/2013 12:58

hedwig - I did actually like the floral dress you linked to. not hallowweeny but nice.

HelloBoys · 29/10/2013 13:03

what you've bought is great.

however (jmo) I am not mad keen on DP - prefer Oasis/Warehouse etc.

will try to link to a fab Warehouse top I got recently that you may like and worked with norks/hourglass.

what colouring are you or colours you like?

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hedwig06 · 29/10/2013 13:08

Hello I have a few oasis tops, I bought a soft pink fluffy jumper from there a month or so ago, I do like their clothes. Although I've never bought anything from Warehouse.

I am according to an online colour analysis a soft summer, light brown hair with pale skin and blue eyes.

I'm willing to wear any colour although maybe not yellow or orange

Thanks xx

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MerryMarigold · 29/10/2013 13:09

Remus, I don't get the pantone one!

Love the Wednesday outfit, very chic.

Hedwig, something I recently discovered was high waisted jeans. I used to hate anything high waisted, but now I find they hold my tum in a bit and are skinny enough (I have good legs) to show them off without being too 'jegging'. I always get a lot of compliments when I wear them. No hoiking, plus you can wear them with shorter, more fitted tops. I always have to wear a long and therefore baggy top with hipster items and they make me look a bit pregnant oh yes, i had them when I was pregnant.

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hedwig06 · 29/10/2013 13:16

Merry I think its too do with the shades of grey book, as all his bits of paper are colour swatches of grey

I have one pair of high waisted jeans from New Look, but the 14 is too tight so I went for a 16 and they are too baggy so again hoiking them up all the time, I didn't however think of putting a shorter top with them I wore them with a longer tunic top like I normally do. Where do you buy yours from?

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SthingMustBeScaringThemAway · 29/10/2013 13:22

Three wardrobes and nothing to wear sounds absolutely miserable. Particularly when you seem to have an "ideal" figure for clothes. Halloween Smile

I know nothing of Dressipi - but I do wonder why you need an EBay account for clothes ... I'm sure it's fine if you're a confident, knowledgeable dresser but if you're not happy with how you look - well I wouldn't start there.

How often do you go into actual shops? (If you're able to obviously...) Whatever you're doing isn't working for you at the moment so you do need to try something new. I suggest you stop buying clothes completely for a time. Could you find time to go into every shop you can and try things on? Without buying?

MerryMarigold · 29/10/2013 13:26

I got mine secondhand on ebay. They were topshop ones and I am dee-lighted! Been wearing a year and they still look nice. They are proper denim. If they are a little tight when you first try them on (or after washing), they do stretch a bit to be more comfortable after an hour or so.

Oh, I get it now. 50 shades of grey? I was wracking my brains for the Halloween connection!

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hedwig06 · 29/10/2013 13:28

Sthing Ideal? I would have thought a size 8/10 is more ideal tbh

I know the clothes situation is ridiculous, I keep buying hoping to find stuff that looks good, its all lovely stuff but as soon as I put it on it just doesn't look right [sigh]

I have a dressipi account and you can then allow it access to your ebay account to recommend you items through ebay. I do buy through ebay sometimes, usually the discount shops, littlewoods, dune, etc all have discount ebay shops.

I currently have 5 things in my basket from the Jane Norman shop on ebay recommended by Dressipi - BUT I haven't bought them yet, as I am sick of buying things and they don't look right.

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hedwig06 · 29/10/2013 13:29

Merry Thanks I'll have a look on ebay then, maybe spending a bit more money on some high waisted jeans, might pay off.

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pantsjustpants · 29/10/2013 13:39

I've just gone from a size 16/18 to a 12, and it's confidence. I'm struggling at the moment, so I feel your pain. I don't know what suits me anymore!

Can I just say that there's a difference between fitted/clingy and too small/clingy. I've just learnt this!! The black Top Shop dress linked to earlier, would be lovely. You can vamp or witch it up, get a great wig!

I'm thinking (if I can pluck up the nerve!) of going to personal shopper in Debenhams. As long as I don't have to buy the things suggested. I just want some ideas! Or even a childfree day on my own or with dh to try loads of stuff on....