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Autumn Term At Crepey Towers

999 replies

QueenQueenie · 05/09/2013 10:38

I did it!

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motherinferior · 06/09/2013 11:10

Way to go Herbs! Sounds like you've got someone really, really good on side. Go for it.

MrsS, bring it home. Definitely.

Oh, Stropps, molto sympathies.

wilbur · 06/09/2013 11:11

MrsS - totally take the gin, forget the shower gel and anyway, when you have a new home [ignores fact that you've owned it for years] you should have nice new tea towels anyway. I like <a class="break-all" href="http://www.google.co.uk/imgres?imgurl=shop.tate.org.uk/content/ebiz/shop/invt/11474/london_teatowel_mustard_11474_medium.jpg&imgrefurl=shop.tate.org.uk/tea-towels/london-tea-towel-mustard-dahlgren/invt/11474/&h=395&w=395&sz=91&tbnid=35PP18SoRYKQbM:&tbnh=95&tbnw=95&zoom=1&usg=__AXQXmy184GHKUDZ3aKMhEAcwSFs=&docid=VAy2wkIwclXTqM&sa=X&ei=U6kpUsrlMqH17AbZ34HAAg&ved=0CE8Q9QEwAA&dur=3717" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">this one or this one which is appropriate!

Herbs - glad you got through to head teacher, it does sounds like she has plans to sort things out and a good head makes a big difference. I reckon the blub was fair enough, good to get it out of the system and at least you didn't do it in the classroom.

MrsSchadenfreude · 06/09/2013 11:11

Yeah! You go Herbs! Sort that school out. At least the head sounds as if she is good and on the ball.

makes me bawl - it reminds me of a time when DD1 was very ill in hospital in Romania and my employer was refusing to medically evacuate her ("Let's just see how things go, shall we?" - yes, let's keep her in this utterly inadequate shithole for a bit longer, and watch her deteriorate, shall we?) Finally got her out when she stabilised a bit, and they still refused to medevac, but did agree to 24 hour doctors at home for a week. How that was more cost effective than 2 economy flights home, I'll never know.
MrsSchadenfreude · 06/09/2013 11:12
herbaceous · 06/09/2013 11:46

Mrs S - do you make it a rule to work for arseholes?

MrsSchadenfreude · 06/09/2013 12:10

Herbs - it would seem so. Everyone acknowledges that I have had more than my fair share. This incident was London being unnecessarily bureaucratic. It still makes me seethe to think about it.

Cremolafoam · 06/09/2013 12:44

Herbs - that's better news re school. I sincerely hope head teacher can motivate the staff into action.

Mrs S take the gin FGS
It is deserved on historical grounds at the very leastSmile

Wilbur lol at making scarves into cushions. You are a woman after my own heart GrinGrin

herbaceous · 06/09/2013 12:52

I think the teaching staff are generally great. There's just a lack of overall framework and direction about communicating with parents, and some entrenched, ancient ways of doing things, like hand-written signs all over the place, dinner (and all) money handed over in brown envelopes (rather than parent pay), and a few defensive hags in the school office.

I'm in a quandary now whether to continue with the appeal for a move to our originally preferred schools. I'm sure he'd be happy just about anywhere at the moment, so we have to play the long game. MG could go on to be a brilliant school, and being on the small site is a real luxury these days in London. The other two schools are much bigger.

The school I originally really wanted him to go to is much more 'white middle class', has two choirs, and lots of his friends are going there. Meaning it's almost more for my benefit. It is an Ofsted 'outstanding', but its results aren't as good as MG. Golly.

bigTillyMint · 06/09/2013 13:05

Hmmm. Do you think you could resurrect the appeal at a later date if you felt MG really wasn't up to it?

Are you keen for him to mix with children from different backgrounds or do you think he will have a better friendship group with friends who will do similar stuff to him (like coming for tea) at the other school?

bigTillyMint · 06/09/2013 13:12

Stropps, I meant to say, hope she goes to the lesson. If she was to be told by the teacher/HoD that if she attends Maths Club or whatever and improves her grades she can move back up, would that work?

alto1 · 06/09/2013 13:15

I could come along at the cocktail hour on 20th so long as I don't actually drink any cocktails. Glad there's no spending target to worry about - good decision.

MrsS - are you 20 years younger than me? The rocknrollercoaster nearly finished me off. Everyone said the music was great - I didn't remember hearing a note of it Grin

herbaceous · 06/09/2013 13:19

It's all a balanced, innit, between mixing with all different backgrounds, and having enough of a feeling of 'fitting in'. In his class at MG he's about one of four 'white British' children, but no idea yet how much going for tea goes on amongst everyone.

The other school is 50% ESOL, so not exactly a white ghetto!

MrsSchadenfreude · 06/09/2013 13:24

Was the only noise you could hear, a thin and piercing scream coming from your own lips, Alto? Grin I prefer Thunder Mountain actually, but do like the rocknrollercoaster. Space Mountain is a coaster too far - I felt as if my head had become disconnected from my neck.

Spoke to DD2 last night, who seems to be enjoying school so far. She informs me that she is in the top set for maths, and would try to stay there! Am looking forward to seeing them and the cats tomorrow. Oh and DH of course. Grin

QueenQueenie · 06/09/2013 13:36

You are a woman of excellent priorities Mrs S: rollercoasters over AB, cats over dh, gin over shower gel. Admirable.

herbs, what is the downside of continuing with appeal? Apart from the energy required and stress involved.? If you succeed you don't have to move him if by then all is paradise.

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QueenQueenie · 06/09/2013 13:38

Stropps, that sounds like something for school to engage with to me or at the least a wait and see approach rather than get sucked in to arguing with her about how she has to go to maths / her appalling attitude etc. sit on your hands and bite your lip?

Beachy that was stern and excellent advice. Having a cup of coffee and a short break but have felt quite productive this morning for a change

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Blackduck · 06/09/2013 13:39

Gin MrsS - surprised you had to ask....

motherinferior · 06/09/2013 14:41

gel for you Grin

Actually that may just have solved a few Christmas presents especially with friend's staff discount-

motherinferior · 06/09/2013 14:42

trying again

Stropperella · 06/09/2013 14:50

BTM and QQ, I wrote a long reply and then realised that pressing "post" wasn't a good plan. Suffice to say, when people know the details, there isn't really a lot of sympathy around for dd. And I'm afraid that is a situation of her own making and she has refused to take any advice from either the school or me for the last year. I have the emails from this term last year to prove it.

What can I do? I've informed the school (and they're probably just seeing me as a useless idiot at this stage because all my attempts to make her cooperate with anything they have offered in terms of help have failed) to see if they can magic up some strategy for getting her to change her mindset and I have joined a new support group for parents of challenging teens.

If I hear "You can't make me" one more time, I may have to run away and join the circus as a bearded lady.

MrsSchadenfreude · 06/09/2013 14:50

I am still waiting for my air freight to be collected. I have been waiting since 0900 and they couldn't give me a shorter timeframe than between 0900 and 1700. What a waste of a day. I can't even finish my packing as I need to run out and get another holdall. Very fed up. And can't make a cup of tea as I have run out of milk.

wilbur · 06/09/2013 15:13

Stropps - so sorry dd is making things so hard for herself and others. I realise it's unlikely she would take any kind of reading suggestion, but I have you heard of a book called Mindset by Carol Dweck? I don't know if I have mentioned it here before, but I read it about a year ago and even though I am not usually one for self-help books, this one really hit home for me in terms of self-confidence and lack of it, fear of failure holding people back and making them shoot themselves in the foot before they have even taken a step etc. It's a bit hard to summarize, but it has helped me look at myself, primarily, but also at the dcs and dh in a fundamentally different way. I am going to read it with ds1, who is having his annual freak-out about friends at school, new year jitters and how he's the lowest of the low socially and will never have any friends and hates the one friend he has etc etc. Even if dd would only set fire to any book you gave her, I'd still really recommend reading it yourself. It has given me a measure of calm when dealing with dh's lack of effort in some of life's key areas, and that can only be a good thing.

bigTillyMint · 06/09/2013 15:17

Space Mountain is awful - it totally did for me when I went on it first thing on the day we went. BleurrrrghSad

Stropps, just run away to join us on the 20th!

MrsS, I couldn't have managed all day without a cuppaShock

Cremolafoam · 06/09/2013 15:25

You still have the gin right mrs S?WinkGrin

bigTillyMint · 06/09/2013 16:26

Well, I think I will join Stropps in the mums with disgruntled DD's corner. Mine is NOT HAPPY after her first day.
DS is not home yet...

QueenQueenie · 06/09/2013 16:29

What is she unhappy about BTM?
Ds2 claims that "all my teachers are shit this year" and is being generally wholly negative.
There is some comfort in finding I am not the only one with disgruntled teenage angst.

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