Pale Cream Dress to Wedding?

[KT1366]

Hi i have a wedding to go to soon and have spent ages searching for a dress. Tried loads on that are too short/too bridesmaidy/unflattering/frumpy/too expensive/too casual etc and finally came across a beautiful pale cream dress in Oasis. It is a simple sleevless shift style with a high neck and silver 'necklace' beading detail around the neckline, low dropped waist with two ruffles (slightly 20s style i think). And most importantly in my budget! I was planning to wear with black shoes/wrap/stole and fascinator for a bit of colour contrast.

Showed my mum and a couple of friends who said it was fine but then one friend mentioned i shouldnt wear cream to a wedding...(i only thought this rule meant long bridal style gowns). I am now having second thoughts!

However the bride wore a cream short dress herself last year to another of our friends' wedding so i'm thinking she doesnt perhapes know/care about the rule either??

I really like her and it is in no way about upstaging/wishing it was my wedding etc. neither am i family so will not be in family photos. however would never wish to offend! what do people think?

What? I don't see the problem. ...not make friends with other guests - why on earth not? Are they going to think she's the bride?

nope, sorry, thats a hard and fast rule. whats your price range? maybe we can help.

But with black accessories? Really?

even with black accessories, imo anyway. It is just too bridal.

There was a similar thread recently, huge majority said it was a big no no. Even if you aren't trying to steal the brides thunder there will be those who think you are and will declare you pathetic, try hard and needy.

Not worth the bother I say!!

If it isn't bridal and you like it, wear it. Just don't carry flowers and insist on 'Hear comes the Bride" as you enter church

disco, yep. It's like wearing black. Even if the bride doesn't mind (although when it's her, I'm sure she'd feel different) the bridesmaids, the groom, their families... it does come across as trying to upstage the bride. I've been looking for something for a friends wedding, and have come across some great dresses though, what are you looking for?

OK, I bow to the greater knowledge of mumsnet! I love green and really would have loved my bridesmaids in a soft sagey colour but didn't even bother looking as my mum has a buge 'green at weddings is bad luck' superstition.

I tried to find the dress on the Oasis website thinking there must be something similar somewhere in a different colour but can't find it.

I wanted black for my bridesmaids, I saw them in simple black, long satin dresses, but my mum threw a hissy fit over it. Its a minefield, black and white is fine, but not separately.

great minds, I did too. Found some lovely stuff though this is gorgeous

so is this

Lovely lissie, especially the second one but good god they're short!

they are shorter than I thought

Miss Selfridge has some really nice dresses this year. I am a lot older than their target market, but got a gorgeous twenties-ish blush one in February. Not too short at all and I am tall.

Some lovely looking ones on website.

It has surprised me how against this people are. I honestly hadnt even heard of the rule until my friend told me...! Maybe that just shows my ignorance/naivety of wedding ettiquette! I am only just starting to get to the age where friends are getting married so maybe i'll learn as i go along!

My trouble is i dont like form fitting dresses, i feel too body concious. and the same goes for anything short or tight around the legs. floaty is more forgiving on me. im also short though so midi dresses swamp me a bit and look a bit frumpy! and long dresses with heels (a must for me!) look very bridesmaidy! I am early twenties so want something respectable but that wont age me.

my budget is around £50 - the cream dress was £70 but i got 20% student discount :)

The dress i have isnt on the website i checked to try and give a link. must be new in?

thanks for the help

:)

ok, what about 50's style dresses?

what size are you? any preference on colour?

Songbird, Green is only considered unlucky because it's the faries colour and it was said if a bride wore green the fairies would spirit her away to fairyland

I think it depends on the outfit and what you wear with it. you should have posted a photo.

i had a little google and apparently cant wear white, cream, black, red, nude, pale pink, gold, silver,lemon or green! absolute minefield!

what happened to celebrating a couples love with friends and family all looking and feeling happy and relaxed with a good day had by all....

I appreciate it's the couples day and a honour to be asked to attend but we've spent about £1000k on attending this wedding (stag, hen, wedding suit, dress, accessories present, taxis, hotel, money for day)...surely it should all be a little more relaxed bearing in mind the people they have invited are nearest and dearest and have made the effort to attend?

dont get me worng i will follow advice and try to find something different but i will try to make a concious effort if it ever is my turn to take some of the pressure off my guests!

thats my theory anyway!

i am a 10...but 5ft 2 and with awful legs that have succummed to the cellulite waggon much before my age!

this is nice and you would get student discount

and this is stunning in rl

I get what you're saying, and tbh, the only colours I wouldn't wear are white/cream or black/dark grey. But, I would have been fuming if someone wore white to my wedding, silly, I know.