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Pale Cream Dress to Wedding?

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KT1366 · 15/05/2013 16:34

Hi i have a wedding to go to soon and have spent ages searching for a dress. Tried loads on that are too short/too bridesmaidy/unflattering/frumpy/too expensive/too casual etc and finally came across a beautiful pale cream dress in Oasis. It is a simple sleevless shift style with a high neck and silver 'necklace' beading detail around the neckline, low dropped waist with two ruffles (slightly 20s style i think). And most importantly in my budget! I was planning to wear with black shoes/wrap/stole and fascinator for a bit of colour contrast.

Showed my mum and a couple of friends who said it was fine but then one friend mentioned i shouldnt wear cream to a wedding...(i only thought this rule meant long bridal style gowns). I am now having second thoughts!

However the bride wore a cream short dress herself last year to another of our friends' wedding so i'm thinking she doesnt perhapes know/care about the rule either??

I really like her and it is in no way about upstaging/wishing it was my wedding etc. neither am i family so will not be in family photos. however would never wish to offend! what do people think?

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KT1366 · 16/05/2013 11:51

Thanks Lissie you are an online shopping pro!

JeanPaget in the nicest possible way maybe it would be better if guests were less [hmmm] and more ?

i will be far too busy enjoying myself, spending time with loved ones, drinking champagne and dancing to notice what anybody but the bride and groom are doing! after all if the so called 'rule' is about respect for the bride and the bride doesnt care surely its not really up2 the guests to judge? IMO anyway :)

Plus strangers that judge others that easily and have to bitch about others for 'bonding' can stay strangers if you ask me!

I am playing it safe purely for the bride and groom. they are both good friends and their happiness on the day is all that matters x

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lissieloo · 16/05/2013 11:51

and this I love the blue in it.

lissieloo · 16/05/2013 11:55

KT, I am a googling genius! I do a bit on my blog about finding cheaper alternatives to designer goodies. I enjoy honing my craft

IKWYM, I'm sure you will have a good day, I feel your pain though, I have a wedding to go to in dec and the dress I fell in love with was cream, but, for various reasons, I've had to let it go.

lissieloo · 16/05/2013 11:57

black and white

lissieloo · 16/05/2013 12:00

last one, I promise

lissieloo · 16/05/2013 12:02

apart from this

now, I've got to do some work

KT1366 · 16/05/2013 12:04

lissie the last one is beautiful... added to the list. you are bad for my CC!!!!

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KT1366 · 16/05/2013 12:05

me also. thanks again for your help!!!

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lissieloo · 16/05/2013 12:08

I'm just doing my bit for the economy at least thats what I tell dh when the statement comes

bottleofbeer · 16/05/2013 12:12

I had a guest wear white (she did try in numerous ways to make my wedding all about her though) I actually wore red thankfully because in the big group photo you would have struggled to pick the bride out if I also had worn white. Year later she wore light cream to another wedding and threw a hissy fit that the bride was wise to her after her antics at mine and didn't allow her to do the things she'd done at mine.

It's just a no-no I'm afraid.

badtasteyoni · 16/05/2013 12:14

Yes it's a no-no from me too.

Might be old-fashioned but the day is all about the Bride (and the groom - a bit ) and rightly or wrongly a guest wearing white or cream is seen to detract from her.

fedupofnamechanging · 16/05/2013 13:39

I have worn black to a wedding - it wasn't at all funereal. Ordinarily I'd steer clear of cream/white for someone else's wedding but I think if you wear a coloured jacket and shoes, the cream dress wouldn't look at all bridal. Maybe ask the bride?

JeanPaget · 16/05/2013 13:58

Ha, the more I'd had, the more likely I'd be to comment on what I thought of your decision to wear white!

Badvoc · 16/05/2013 14:24

I think I must be odd then.
As long as the guests aren't naked or actually wearing a replica of the brides dress I really can't see the issue tbh.
But I am obv in the minority!!

roseinwinter · 16/05/2013 23:38

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Badvoc · 17/05/2013 07:23

One of my guests wore all white.
White hat, shoes, coat the works.
Didn't even notice til the photos came back.
And even then I didn't give a crap :)

KT1366 · 17/05/2013 11:40

badvoc... good attitude!

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Badvoc · 17/05/2013 11:46

I think so...some people are just weird about weddings.

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