Your post come accross as very defensive. Yes, it probably does come accross as defensive. It was intended to defend my attitude to dressing from the judginess and pity I was reading. But I assume you mean defensive in a perjorative sensm which I can't really refute sensibly.
But you don't present as being very happy with the way you are when you feel the need to come and shout at strangers online for expressing a view
Disagreeing with judging women based on a perceived lack of effort to conform to a social norm which you subscribe to, and being angered by that attitude, especially when presented by grown women to other women in a sneery, pitying and mocking manner, is entirely different to shouting because one is unhappy with oneself. Plathism has already made this point very nicely 
And anyway, it's not just a view, is it? It's a rather pernicious, and often cruelly expressed view.
You're the one who thinks that not style your hair, wearing make up or wearing 'nice clothes' is a sign of mental illness. I'd focus on psychoanalysing yourself rather than mem, if that's your bag.
If you don't care and are perfectly happy with the way you look, then why are you even in this section reading this thread
Simply? Because it was in Discussions of the Day for a while, and I clicked on it and got sucked in. (I'll ignore the subtext of that question implying that only the 'right' sort of people should be in here.)
Also, because of the internal dialogue which has brought me to where I am now, I find discussions of perceptions of female appearance very interesting. As indeed this one has proved to be. And also because it really really bothers me to see the peace of mind that I feel lucky to have being potentially eroded or diminished in others by some of the attitudes aired on this thread (although it only inspires me to stamp about crossly in my least flattering clothes).