why do mums of toddlers dress like they are going into battle?

[Pharoahnuff]

i know I think i did.
ALl bagged up, flat boots, look of grim determination. In my day it was all combat trousers, quilty gilets and timberlands.
now its ugly Fly boots and ill fitting skinnies

I'm with MrsCB. I spend time making sure I look how I want to. The mum I spend most time with thinks clothes are entirely functional. It doesn't matter at all to either of us what the other one is wearing (though she does sometimes at me) There is indeed judging on both sides though. Many times other women vocalised their surprise at me bfing for a long time because I didn't look like "that kind of mum".

I don't wear a lot of make up because I am 27 and beautiful but I do make the effort with clothes. As someone Wise once said it takes as long to put on a nice outfit as a crap one. I have a 7mo and a 2.1yr old, and today I have snot up my J brands, but they can be washed!

Me too re. the bfing monkeysmama. A shame that it has that image.

I think when you have your kids makes a difference. If I had been young and gorgeous when I had the kids, when you don't really have to make an effort to look OK then maybe I wouldn't have bothered. BUT when you knock on towards 40 then you become more conscious that the amount of care you take over your appearence reflects directly in relation to how knackered you look.

A wrap dress is so much easier and quicker than jeans and a couple of tops. You can wear with boots or flats.

One DECENT fitting pair of jeans, does wonders for your arse and you can easily get away with wearing them for 3 days if you change boots/shoes.

So two wrap dresses and decent jeans and your school run uniform is done.

I'm surrounded by mothers that not only care but have highly refined and individual style. They dress better than work colleagues. Which is a first!

Ooh that person was wise to say that Amber

And leggings. Thick ones with a top/tunic that covers your fanny.

im not sure wrap dresses do anyone any favours

I love all things clothes/make up/hair related.
That is why I post on Style and Beauty thread!

Don't you realise that the dirtier you house is and the crapper you look in the morning correlates directly with the amount you love your kids? If you look good, everyone knows it's because you are shallow and selfish and your poor children just drag themselves up whilst you preen around in salons? This is fact.

Ooh love the boots. Im aspiring :-) gotta have the baby first i guess!

I enjoy my dd taking her 15 nursery hours so that I can preen around in salons, isn't that what they're there for?

Well, I agree strawberry. Today I ditched them with DH on his day off so that I could get my eyebrows done, but she was over zealous and I look sort of 90s

Because if you wear nice shoes and a pretty button through skirt neither survive crawling around on your knees

lol at this thread

I do remember wearing a LOT of brown , head to toe like a big turd ready for battle!
All that sitting on church hall floors trying to look interested .

why is no one else concerned with builder's bum every time they bend down to spend time with their precious offspring? it's currently my main consideration before i buy anything new to wear. never mind battle fatigues or brushed hair. i want to keep my arse warm thanks very much.

I've been bf and /or pregnant for the last 4 years. I really miss wearing regular (non maternity) dresses :(

toddlerama that's what I had done today too and it really hurt, my under brows have gone red and pimply, not the desired look. Friday = massage and facial, can't blinking wait.

Oh yes, judging does happen on both sides. I have had comments from fleece wearing mums about what on earth DS does whilst I put make up on....obviously I let him play with the knife drawer.

I probably make more day-to-day effort with my appearance since the birth of my second, 6 months ago, than I ever have before. Not only because I am fucking knackered all the time AND LOOK IT, but because I've discovered that having two children exponentially erodes one's sense of self, so feel the need to paint myself onto the world before I just disappear into mumville.

Not that you would know any of this to look at me But I'm getting there. The very second I finish breastfeeding, whenever that is, I will take great delight in getting a complete wardrobe overhaul.

I'd never get my calfs into a pair of Fly boots..

Calves . I'm tired, i'm going to bed.

I wear skirts everyday - usually Boden "Fun" ones.

I think I modelled myself on Trinny and Suzannah for a bit

I never brush my hair (curly) but always get a a base of make up on as I'm v pale and knackered (DC5 is 7 months) I don't always manage mascara or lipstick though, but I don't mind that. I always wear perfume and put an outfit out the night before.
I really want to get a capsule wardrobe that will see me through spring and into summer, but with massive BF'ing norks and a big albeit shrinking tummy I have no idea where to begin .