Wisely and avidly planning our Christmas lists..

[blossoming]

Come join me!
Not so inspired but I do so hate being threadless.

Oh yes I love India, Liz and Caitlin Moran too on twitter.

Hells - the book is uber-light but really funny. You can tell she was/is a mn'er.

EIE - hows tricks? Glad party went well and happy birthday do master EIE - fabulous cake

NaP is looking very bright and breezy with new season stuff.

One of us should be able to wear this with aplomb!

I am not keen on the new shouty outnet.

I feel weird my dh was reluctant to help sort my stuff and four people did at the other end. Should I just put it down to a nice, civilised area with lovely people? If so, I want to live there.

Marsha was DH actually there? Or did he just assume because you just normally deal with everything with such grace that you'd cope just fine

It was a bit like this.

Ds is still a bit cold-y so I have to be with him when he is asleep. Which meant I didn't have time to print out parking map (which actually I didn't need in the end) and stuff so asked dh to help so I could leave the house without being late. He didn't and we got tense with each other.

Then I got to the other end (just me and ds2) and someone offered to help put pram in car, and someone else offered me change and picked up some dropped stuff, and others checked why the parking display thing was broken.

I mean they were probably all just lovely people helping a mother carrying a child.

But I felt a bit hmmm at why dh was so stubborn!

Difficult to tell with other couples really, but the difference did feel huge!

I'll just put it down to a bad day with each other I guess.

eie hugs. Are you in the house together now?

Marsha from what I can tell about you on here - I think you're a bit of a swan You make it all look easy on the surface but it takes a lot to do that.

DH and I often get a bit snippy with each other but then I do have a 'martyr-complex' and am terrible for the quiet sighs. And who knew until I joined mn that meant that I'm a passive aggressive witch

EIE - just take care of yourself and take all the time you need to think things through. I am the queen of taking years to make decisions about relationships

Ha ha you made me

I am not quiet or sighing with dh unfortunately!

I am with everyone else (poor sausage.)

He is entertaining the children now, late!, so he does stuff. But I did feel very grrr.

Tis life I suppose.

I follow both Tracey and IK and just checked my timeline - how exciting to be replied to. I think I may retweet to see if I can get you trending.

EIE I don't know what to say - is there anything you do for yourself that makes you happy and can help distract you from what's going on at home? I'll have a proper chat on 12th.

Hells - what a lovely compliment - thank you.

Am loving Danni's dress tonight
Did anyone see Tess Daley's camel toe on strictly?

Choo - what was Tess wearing? It was a real wendy wasn't it?

Now I don't watch Strictly but what on earth was that?!

Choo Great dress

Roma Great cake

Vin I love that HH dress. Beautiful.

Marsha Never forget the grass always looks greener on the other side.

EIE I don't know what to say dear girl. What does your dh want? Don't answer me if you don't want to.

Bloss Coat sounds great. I need a new coat!

Looby - I do love the opera, absolutely! Its a real treat for us. A real highlight was a 2009 production of Rigoletto at the Royal Opera House - electrifying, and I think they are doing it again this season if anyone is interested. We used to live in Sydney and went to the Sydney Opera House, but I just love the ROH here in London. We get a glass of champagne and sometimes a salmon sandwich and feel like kids all dressed up and playing at adults. Obviously I get a real thrill out of it! Thanks for the lovely feedback on the names!

Vin - yes, well I can't carry both twins so you, or one of the other Wise Ladies, had better keep at least one arm free during the flash mob!

Zembo - thinking of you and hoping you are truly taking it easy this weekend. Lovely DH for going into carer mode.

Been going crazy w the nesting here so been away from the computer all day - shock, horror!

Marsha, is it possible that your DH is a tad resentful at how much of your time is taken up by your cold-y DS atm? If so, then asking for 'practical' help from him may have irked him even more. It's just an idea, feel free to ignore, it just struck a chord with me.

Agree with you hf about the grass always looking greener. A friend of mine is going through this re: her DH and I just want to tell her to appreciate the great man that she has. I suppose we all get like that every once in a while.

Looking forward to the link for your coat Bloss.

Tracey I am so of your tweeting success. I have yet to get a handle on twitter although I am registered.

Dolcee Thank you for the Averys wine link. Have ordered!

Possibly Pickled! He probably wants to rest on the weekend, but does quite a lot with the children.

I asked him why he didn't want to help and he said I was already in a tizz (I can't remember).

All fine now.

Blossoming. Your coat and styling of it sounds great, especially the red lipstick! Followed your hair guidance today. Would not normally get out straighteners for a casual day, but, whole thing took 4 mins flat as I had let hair dry quite well before hairdryer, and it was definitely much improved, so thanks

Everything - maybe take a break "emotionally" to recharge? I mean, don't put too much effort in until you feel up to it? Be good for you to have some quiet time alone, too, to think and rest.

Marsha - I feel v upset and vulnerable if DH doesn't help, not to mention super resentful. But my DH can be a bit inconsistent w his efforts and I think it's because I do just get on w things, for the most part, so sometimes he doesn't understand how much I really appreciate being looked after. Esp since I spend so much energy looking after him and DD. Wonder if you may be in a similar situation

Vin - re giving your P your money - I think he is entitled to receive the money he has earned himself. Which sounds to be zilch and, so, I hope you hve added the fab Halston dress to your shopping basket. Not keen on Issa myself, and decided, after seeing many pics of Kate Middleton in Issa that it's mainly because I don't like the length of the dresses and the flare of the skirts. I like a mini, or somehibg straighter to just below the knee.

Greetings from the couch to all you other Wise Ladies!

Hey Bunny. So close! how are you feeling??

Yes I do really appreciate being looked after too by dh, hugely.

It was odd that the world felt full of chivalrous, kind and helpful people and dh was making me feel cross and still needing his help. I suppose I wanted him to be all confident and say look here this is where you should go, you'll be fine...

I suppose we are both tired and stuff.

Although, woohoo, just put ds2 to sleep, few pats and kisses, no tears and sleep. Nearly there!

everything - that comment re staying for DS really sticks in my craw - how to make you feel overlooked. V and for you. Definitely do as much as you can for yourself ie feed your soul. Unfort your DH doesn't sound v caring and you sound quite worn down, so perhaps DIY TLC is called for.

Marsha - I hear you - think we all have episodes like that. Fortunately not too often and not too serious, but upsetting all the same. Hope you have a lovely restful sleep tonight and can do something nice together tomorrow, even if it's just walking along chatting while drinking T/A coffees and pushing the pram.

Oh, and not feeling great - tired and sore. But so close, so close!! Objectively, am doing v well, it's just that the end of all pregnancies are v taxing. As we all know!! [smille]

Roma - another fab looking cake - well done!

Oh yoo hoo Zembo, I say Zembo? There is a thread in Good Housekeeping (I saw it in Active Convos, to be clear) asking about the Lakeland heated airdryer.

Evening - back from a lovely night out - food was fab. We went for the finger food menu - which basically was (not so) little portions of almost everything on the menu - gluttonous but divine! Friend and I shared a bottle of champers too! Off to bed now (how many calories does one burn whilst asleep pleas say its a lot?) - bigs mwahs to you all (thats the champagne talking!).

Bunny Rest up! Not long at all.

EIE I really think it is bad that your dh has said zilch after 14 months. You sound such a lovely, kind girl who deserves a lot more.

Nice Brora coat.

OWW Sounds a fab night out.

Damp and miserable here today.

Morning everyone!
Had rather a late night. I wore the stripey janice with black opaques and lkb platforms, with my blazer over it like in my photo last week. New grey coat over everything, and because I've been raving about red and grey for the past few weeks, my gorgeous red gucci bag had it's first night out in years! Looks great with the stone colour in the janice stripe too. Very pleased indeed.

Thinking of you all, zembo and bunny in particular. Hope you're both resting.