My 15 year old ds has regularly stayed overnight at his dads for many years on a really set in stone kind of arrangement which has been eow and mid week.
he asked me the other night at what age can he decide if he no longer wants to sleep at his dads house which did not come as a big surprise to be honest as he shares a room with his step sister…it is stud wall partitioned but he doesn’t have much privacy and my ex has 3 other children I think it is a pretty manic household so I can see why he has a preference to where he wants to be.
I don’t know how to handle this really as I think it’s important he stays at his dads house as his dad will find it quite hurtful after all these years if he doesn’t and also me and my husband have got used to the child free nights mainly for some privacy more than anything as having a teenager who goes to bed late etc can sometimes feel a bit overwhelming
we have been used to our ‘couple’ time rightly or wrongly
any tips on how to navigate this please? I don’t want him to feel like he is forced to go but at the same time I think it’s important he does still maintain overnights at his dads house.
I should add I live with my husband and he has 2 children who stay with us at weekends so we are living as a blended family as best as we can