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Had enough!

113 replies

Sickofmess · 31/05/2025 08:22

Hi all
i recently read a thread re a lovely lady who had tolerated her partner and 2 stepkids living in her house who had no respect for her and her home, boundaries overstepped etc (from April 2025… I think) I am unable to comment on it but I wish I could …. I’ve read the whole thread and honestly I could have written it myself ! The only difference being this lady has a cat and I have a dog !
as her posts rang so true to the life I’m currently living I wonder if anyone has participated in the thread and wondering how she is doing now ?
my partner lives with me and we have his 2 kids eow . The days leading up to the visits are shocking for me , I’m full of anxiety and have palpitations etc . My partner is the typical Disney dad as you’ve all described . The kids are 9 and 7 and push me and my lovely home to the absolute limits . I can see this playing out as the other lady’s dis .. the minute I speak with my partner about the kids shitty behaviour and manners and disrespect . I get shot down . I’m at the end of my rope with it all. I do not care if they’re feral at their mothers or when they used to live with him but I won’t accept it . But this casts a lot of doubt as to whether I’m being unreasonable or I’m just expecting rules in MY home to be adhered to . I hope I’ve come to the right place for support 🙏🏻

OP posts:
Gundogday · 31/05/2025 21:33

Has he picked up his stuff?

Hadalifeonce · 31/05/2025 21:35

I am not a SM, but, any children coming into my house have had to obey the house rules. I have had no problem telling children not to misbehave, jump on furniture be rude to me or not expect me to prepare a different meal, when their parents have already told me they like what I was planning. Why anyone should feel you can't do that because the children involved are SC, I have no idea.

Bonbon21 · 31/05/2025 21:37

Chnge the locks asap..
Well done... x

thepariscrimefiles · 01/06/2025 13:13

Sickofmess · 31/05/2025 09:27

I really do not know to be honest ! I don’t need him financially (as the financial contributions are few and far between!) so I really don’t know . I see that I get plenty of anxieties that’s for sure . That’s a very good question and I’m so glad you asked me that, thank you x

OMG just kick them all out! He moved in by stealth and is paying fuck all. He's obviously a lazy slob wherever he lives as he lost his deposit for his rented home due to the state that he left it in. His kids are obviously taking after him.

Sickofmess · 01/06/2025 13:17

Hi guys
thanks all for your support and guidance
he went to his parents house apparently (I’ve always got on with them , his mum messaged me today that her and her husband agreed in the best thing that’s ever happened to him blah blah!) and yes he’s their son but they agree with what I’ve done . One child went to its mothers the other to a friends apparently 🤷🏻‍♀️
he found his things on the doorstep , picked them up and left and his parting shot was ‘I’ve got two bags of shipping in the car ‘! Never done that before and I don’t need any groceries !!
my reply was ‘ I’ve got three more bags here they’ll be in the drive tomorrow !’ I’ve been out and they’ve gone . No contact from him but I’ve told his mum to reiterate a message to him why I’ve finally seen red .
again I couldn’t if done it without you all
thank you xx

OP posts:
Slatterndisgrace · 01/06/2025 13:17

thepariscrimefiles · 01/06/2025 13:13

OMG just kick them all out! He moved in by stealth and is paying fuck all. He's obviously a lazy slob wherever he lives as he lost his deposit for his rented home due to the state that he left it in. His kids are obviously taking after him.

At least read the OPs updates. Jeez.

burnyburnyname · 01/06/2025 14:06

Well done OP!

Jellyrols · 01/06/2025 14:39

Oh well done you. Enjoy the peace and the glorious clean house.
What a loser you have dumped.
You know he's a waster when his own mother doesn't defend him.

beachcitygirl · 11/06/2025 07:01

Why are you with him? He’s a shit parent & clearly a shit partner. The kids deserve better. Grow a pair and leave.

MellowPinkDeer · 11/06/2025 07:02

beachcitygirl · 11/06/2025 07:01

Why are you with him? He’s a shit parent & clearly a shit partner. The kids deserve better. Grow a pair and leave.

At least read the updates !!!

Jk987 · 11/06/2025 07:43

So your partner lives with you almost free of charge in your home? Wow.

In the short term I’d be off out seeing friends, going out for a swim etc when the kids are there. In the long term I’d be having serious discussions…

Jk987 · 11/06/2025 07:47

Well done for dumping him!

innersilentscreams · 05/07/2025 14:42

Hello OP- that was me (I posted in April about the stepkids/Disney Dad situation and him walkingout on me when I tried to reassert ground rules).
I hope you are ok!

I have kept my distance from posting and being visible since my original post ended up in both the Daily Mail and Bored Panda.

I just wanted to say that since then, I am looking to restart my career once more, and to move abroad again, plus I have given up alcohol so as to really have motivation and a fresh start.

I am really good, the cat is happy (she is spoilt so really should be!) and life is good since I posted.
I am sending love and happiness your way- haven't reached the end of your thread yet, but I hope you have chosen what is right for you. We only have one precious life and after putting mine on hold for people who really didn't give a fig for me, I am ready to start doing things for me once more!
I hope you are too xx

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